i have recently split up with my boyfriend because he really wasnt into having a relationship, he says he is not ready. the other day however he phoned me up telling me he missed my hot body n the fun we had n asked if i would meet him for some no strings sex!
i still really like him so i would easily do it but do you think this is degrading in anyway.....am i being used?
or should i look at it as though i am using him?
2007-04-23 10:04:51 · 30 answers · asked by EMMA B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nobody is using anybody here whatever gender you are. Your genes are telling you to have sex regardless of social niceties like 'committment' or 'relationships' which are just recent social 'ad-ons' (bolt-ons) to a very ancient instinctive activity. Human intelligence sometimes gets in the way of our basic instincts which win in the end anyway, producing offspring which is our whole purpose.
2007-04-23 10:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing wrong with sex for fun if you are careful. But in this case it sounds as though he is preying on the feelings that you still have for him to get laid whilst he has no-one else around.
Sorry if that sounds harsh but I believe that is what he is doing, so be careful babes.
If you want it too then go for it but remember he wants no strings fun and by saying that he is telling you that his love for you has gone and he just wants to bed you. If you can cope with that and not feel used it is up to you.
I would say however use a condom, even if you did not before, because are you certain he has not been anywhere else since you split up (just something to think about)?
2007-04-23 20:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by Zaksta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may well be able to have no string sex, but can you? If you can then go ahead and have some fun. There is no need to feel used, because you will both be having the sex not just him. Make sure that you use condoms in case he has had sex with someone else, always protect yourself no matter how much you know him.
2007-04-23 10:16:46 · answer #3 · answered by helen b 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course you are being used! This is what guys do! He wants to have his cake and eat it.
Never mind about it being degrading, inconsiderate, cruel, cheap etc, the very fact that you said you still really like him screams NO.
Don't let him do this to you. It will mess with your head and damage any potential future relationships you may have. Get out there and find someone else who will actually treat you with respect.
2007-04-23 10:16:03 · answer #4 · answered by ~ Arwen ~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your being used....."He wants to eat his cake and to keep it at the same time" as the old saying goes. IE he wants to have the sex but has little respect for you as a person in an adult relationship.
Respect yourself and move on, it's his problem that he lost that "Hot Body" of yours.
2007-04-23 10:12:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anchor Cranker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u both have ur needs(for sex),and since he say with no string attach,is that some thing u can handle?am if ur still in love with him and all,there it won't be a good thing to do.also,i don't think ur degrading ur self(ur not doing it for money).the key word here is"no string".if u can handle that,then there shouldn't be any problem,u guys r just giving each other what u both need.
2007-04-23 10:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by leen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you are being used, but if you really want to have sex with for the no strings attached rule, meaning it's just sex and nothing more, than there is really nothing wrong with it, other than that I mean it is really up to you.
2007-04-24 10:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he put his cards on the table..he is not ready to settle down and young people need to have more than one or two relationships until they are ready in some cases...not in all...he asked you the question and you seem like you think it would be OK but scared what others think......look back in 40 years and ask yourself these questions and you will then get your answers and by then they will mean diddly squat ....tell him NO ...tell him YES how do you feel is important here
2007-04-23 10:18:12 · answer #8 · answered by foxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a bad idea if you still have feelings. It will make you feel worse.
The other aspect is that it is dangerous. You don't know who else he is sleeping with. You could contract a STD and that would be horrible.
Lastly, if you think you may ever want to get back with him, it will kill any chance of that happening. Sorry!
2007-04-23 10:14:55 · answer #9 · answered by shannonwigg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally,I think he is useing you. Unless you're just looking for a f**k buddy,and can seriously keep the "relationship" part, at bay. Otherwise,just move on.
2007-04-23 10:12:23 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋