man, I'm about to be a college sophmore, I'm 19, I'm gonna be 20 next year(January), & I can't believe I'm still a virgin & haven't had a girlfriend yet, all I've done is kiss a girl, tongue to tongue. It was through truth or dare, the girl was not attractive. What should I do people?, well I was born with Asperger Syndrome, which is a main reason why I'm shy, I have braces & I wear glasses cause I'm near-sided, thats probably another reason why I don't succeed with the ladies. I'm not overweight which is a good thing, man I'm starting to give up, there are times I don't feel like having a girlfriend since I didn't have one earlier, I'm starting to think not everyone is capable of having a boyfriend/girlfriend, & there is not a special someone out there for everyone, only the lucky people. If I don't have a girlfriend & lose my virginity before I'm 21, I'm just gonna get a gun & blow my brains out. Why was I cursed with Asperger Syndrome & shyness?.
2007-04-23 10:04:45 · 8 answers · asked by introvertedguy06 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have a cousin who has Marfan's Syndrom (sp) which is where his arms and legs are really long (a LOT of basketball players have it actually). It also means that his heart is enlarged and he has to wear a special "body guard" to protect his chest. On top of all of that he has glasses that are like cokebottles and a small mouth that has pushed all of his teeth really close together and they are all messed up. He has problems w/ his speech because of all this too!
The point that I am trying to make is that it DOES NOT matter HOW you look... its how you PRESENT yourself to others! My cousin may not be the most popular kid in the class but he DOES have a LOT of friends (including girlfriends) because he has a HUGE heart and doesnt let others opinions get him down!!
Just remember that there IS hope and there ARE girls out there that will love you simply for WHO you are and not WHAT you look like! Keep in mind that you are a WONDERFUL person and let that personality shine through.. the rest will happen naturally!! Dont worry... you wont be a virgin forever and I am sure that you will find love one of these days!!
Also remember that even the popular, "good looking" kids have the same type of issues!! In fact BECAUSE of how they look, they usually dont find "true" love.. just lust or physical relationships that leave them "hollow" inside!! When you DO find that "right" girl you will know that she HONESTLY loves YOU for YOU and not for what you may look like!! There ARE girls out there that arent shallow and dont really care what others think... they just follow their hearts!!
Good luck and MUCH LOVE!!
2007-04-23 10:17:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK, listen here bud. Losing your virginity does *not* guarantee a lifetime of happiness. I know plenty of people who have lost theirs and want more than anything to take it back (yes, this includes guys, thank you very much). Anyway, the point is, try to get with a girl not because you want to screw her, but because you're willing to love her.
And the only way you can truly overcome shyness is through practice by putting yourself in situations you otherwise would never have gone through. No matter what, though, don't become too conceited/c0cky. Guys like that are a pain in the butt.
Your disability should be of no matter when it comes to true love. =)
2007-04-23 10:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by Em♥♥♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are people so obsessed these days with losing their virginity so fast!!!! It makes me so mad because the media pushes that so much and makes everyone think that if you haven't done something before a certain age than your a loser!!! That is so not true and I wish people would stop making it get to them. Don't do something just because of your age, do it for love. Your time will come when you least expect it. Stop worrying and just be a nice guy. Good things will come your way soon!!
2007-04-23 10:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by Tennis2127 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to blow your brains out.
Just about anyone is capable of having a boyfriend or girlfriend, so just calm down. Eventually one will find you, go places and see people. You must not have asperger too badly or you couldn't be on here. I think you'll be okay.
2007-04-23 10:45:01 · answer #4 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't do that. I think everyone can attract people.
The easiest way to meet girls is to put yourself out there. What I mean is put yourself in a lot of places to meet girls. The more you are exposed to the the greater the chance you will meet someone.
These are the stories that make me really sad. I'm sure there are plenty of girls who would love to go out with you and you are too shy to initiate this. I know people like this.
You need to build up your confidence. Women like guys to be confident. Oh, and aggressive. Go out one night and talk to every girl you think is pretty. You are bound to meet one that isn't shallow enough to blow you off the first night.
I think that is another important factor. Girls aren't that shallow as a whole. A lot of girls just want a nice guy. Just be yourself, but confident enough to go up and talk to people.
Lastly, the internet is a great way to meet people if you are shy. I met my husband on the internet, actually on HotorNot.com. He was super shy and couldn't just approach women. We are a great match, so I am happy he decided to hook up with someone online.
2007-04-23 10:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by shannonwigg 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2007-04-23 10:26:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2007-04-23 10:12:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋