If your child was touched inappropriately or sex abused in any way would you want money.?

Question

My daddy was a very gentle man. He never laid an unkind hand on my mother. Did not use profanity. Very soft spoken. We preferred him to whip or spank us when we were children than our mother.
But if one of his children was abused in any way, he wouldn't want money. He would handle it quite well outside of court with his fist. He could care less if they were a member of the clergy.
I would imagine a lot of the fathers of these victims would do the same thing to someone who molested their children but when they have a chance of getting their hands on money, that becomes more important.
Someone asked me suppose the child doesn't have a father. I said, if I was the mother, I could land a foot in a very sensitive location.

Answer 1

I wouldn't want money, but I would want justice. I guess the people who sue the priests feel that taking the priest's money they are making them suffer. Usually the church they belong too ends up footing the bill though.

Answer 2

Yes, that's all very understandable, but that's antivigilism...and in most places it's against the law too. Someone who does that could land themselves in jail.

It shouldn't be about the money, but about bringing attention to something that was ignored too long. Not just with clergy, but with teachers, coaches and family members.

Actually, there are less priests that have sexually molested children then the male population as a whole. But since no one can sue the male population...they sue the church.

The point is that it's a problem. Don't kid yourself that it's only a problem with certain people or professions. I watched television segment on coaches abusing kids...it was horrible. It prevalent and no one is doing much about it...you know why? Because their kids are heading for colleges and scholarships...everyone turns their head the other way. Despicable.

Answer 3

Bless your heart. Go back and read the part where you wrote: "About two years ago one day he jus stared to cry n said he was leaving me because he is having sex with this man ... He was gone for 8 months n in this time he was a good father. He came home n said he wants his family n his done with the "uncle". We agreed no contact wit the "uncle" And two years after that he's back screwing around with the man he's apparently had a long term relationship with - AFTER he promised you it was over and you became engaged. I don't care if it's with a man or woman, your guy is cheating and lying to you about it being over. You will never really know if it's over or not, when he's been with the guy or not, whether he's sleeping with anyone else at all. He's lied about it. Repeatedly. This is not about him being molested as a child. It's about the choices he is making as an adult. He is continuing to make them, and nothing you can say or do will change that - he's doing it because he wants to, plain and simple. Don't be delusional and think you can just turn your head, pretend it will go away. After all this time and the lies, your relationship is built on shifting sands. Yes, he's your child's father and always will be. That doesn't make you a "family" and doesn't erase the fact that he's a cheater.

Answer 4

If I had children then I would probably take justice into my own hands.

I have lost my faith in our system.
I remember reading a story about a man who got only 60 days and had to go through rehabilitation for raping a child for three years straight. It was reported that the parents cried when they heard this.

So, no I wouldn't want money. Money doesn't buy happiness nor will it take away the fact that my child was abused.

Answer 5

I wouldn't want money...I would want someones blood...

Texas is trying to pass a new law. If someone is a repeat child molester, and if they have molested 2 or more children under the age of 13...and there has to be penetration...the death penalty could be considered. Of course if the Supreme Court should over rule it as being unconstitutional, then the death sentence would automatically revert to life in prison...no parole.

Answer 6

sad state of any country when their religious leaders get away with sexually molesting children and all anyone could think of is getting their hands on lots of money. This should be handled by the church members the old fashioned way remember he/she is still a person and accountable to our lord laws.

Answer 7

I would go after him in every way except physically.

I wouldn't resort to violence- though I'd be very tempted- but I would go after this person to the fullest extent of the law.

I would not only prosecute to the fullest extent of the law, I would also make their lives miserable in any way, including bankrupting them and making them rot in prison squalor for the rest of their lives.

I wouldn't want their money; I just wouldn't want them to have it either. I'd sue for everything and then give it away to the Humane Society or Doctors Without Borders. Anything but let them continue to enjoy life.

I would cut out a picture of them to use as target practice :0)

Answer 8

Heraclitus said, (and this is paraphrased), "It is difficult to fight against anger, for a man would buy revenge with his soul."

While this is a very human sentiment, it is not the Christian ideal. I believe the situation you've described is one that would test my Christian ethics. My gut, very human, reaction would be to not want money, it would be to want only three things: 1) 5 minutes alone with the monster, 2) a stun gun, and 3) a weed whacker.

Answer 9

Well, I do think it's a better idea to utilize the court system before resorting to vigilante justice. If someone's accused of something, they deserve their day in court, so we can take a look at the evidence and decide what really did or did not happen.

I would want money. I don't have children, but if I did and one of them was abused, I imagine we would have a long and difficult emotional battle to get through. The money could pay for therapy, and would keep my child in relative comfort and help them to meet their basic needs when they get older, if the issue rears it's head again and makes it difficult for them to function in society for a period. But I agree it's not enough. The family should get money, and the perpetrator should be jailed in addition.

Answer 10

. Some fathers would not accept any amount of money. I told one of my brothers that if I find out he touch one of my kids I would kill him and God knows I would have long story but I had my kids check out at the hospital everything was fine. A big misunderstanding. Thank God.