My mother in law has lived with us for 2 and a half years. She complains about everything and everyone and it's caused my husband and I to fight. I really want her out of my home, she is illegal immagrant.
2007-04-23 09:42:33 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First, talk about it with your husband and hopefully you can come to an agreement. You don't want to just kick her out without input from your husband - he'd probably be very angry with you if you did that. If he agrees (hopefully you can convince him that it would benefit your marriage and your happiness), then tell her she has X number of days to find a new home. Be reasonable. Give her a few weeks if you can. Tell her your marriage is suffering and she needs to find a new place to live. It's not your responsibility to continue letting her live with you if you're miserable. Good luck.
2007-04-23 09:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by crabbyone 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Oh No--I am so sorry..Whew, you have a problem on your hands. I wouldn't want to trade places with you for anything..Well, here are some ideas: Are there any other relatives she could stay with in America--maybe your husband's brothers or sisters, or an aunt or uncle?..Or is it possible that you and your husband could rent her a small 1 bedroom or studio apartment in your neighborhood for really cheap? Maybe your husband could sign the lease and just keep your mother-in-law there.. It would cost you money every month, but at least you'll have peace of mind--and maybe your relatives can chip in with the rent & bills. Those are the only things I can think of. Good Luck.
2007-04-23 16:49:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you plan on calling the Homeland Security, it is meaningless that she is an illegal immigrant.
That she is causing trouble between you and your husband is your fault not hers. You really can't expect your husband to kick out his mother do you? Talk about absurd. It's not right that you are putting your husband between you and your mother-in-law. This is your problem to solve not his.
Should have thought about this one before you married your husband. You made your bed and are now unhappy that you have to sleep in it. Sounds bad when put that way doesn't it?
2007-04-23 16:48:45 · answer #3 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Introduce her to the bottom of your foot! Tell her either she keeps her mouth shut or she has to go. Let your husband know that is your home and you are the only "woman of the house" and if can't respect that then show him and his mother the door. Easy for me to say, I know, but just stand up for yourself, your marriage and your household. If there is a strong relationship between you and your husband you guys will work through this and he will eventually stand up to his mom before he looses you. You just have to put it out there that you are mad as hell and you are not going to take it anymore!!!
2007-04-23 17:07:18 · answer #4 · answered by E. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your husband know that you feel that she is coming between the 2 of you. You should now be the most important person in his life. Then help her find a small place that she can move into.
2007-04-23 16:47:21 · answer #5 · answered by Daivd M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh oh. Well if you want to keep your marriage you and your husband have to agree on having her leave. Otherwise I would say call the INS. Can you go out to dinner with your husband . Have a very calm and intellectual discussion about the options. Explain what it is doing to you psychologically and how you feel your marriage is in jeopardy. It is not fair for her to be leeching off you when others come here legally tell him.
2007-04-23 16:46:53 · answer #6 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't let this crany B*tch come between you and your hubby. If he doesn't think enough about saving your marrige then it's time to re-think it..
Get her set up on her own place, some low budget deal or drop her off in the woods 30 miles from your house... What a pest!
2007-04-23 16:47:39 · answer #7 · answered by bugjjo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your husband want her to stay or go? You need to put your foot down. She needs to go and you might need marriage counselling. If she is causing many fights just let her know it's time to go. Give her a time limit to find her own place and stick to it. If I were you, I'd be crazy by now!
2007-04-23 16:47:32 · answer #8 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Bless your Heart!!! I feel for ya. I know how annoying mother-in-laws can be. You're just gonna HAVE TO get tough and tell her!! Just explain how it's making your relationship with your husband/her son. You're just going to have to do it. Tell her you love her, but you want your space, quiet time, etc.
2007-04-23 16:47:00 · answer #9 · answered by Sheri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wao at this time it sounds like she is part of your family. That's a long time, even if it was temporary looks like by now I would have jumped out of a speeding train. Does she have means to go on her own, even to a little apt.? She is better off out of your home.
2007-04-23 16:47:52 · answer #10 · answered by sandrota 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋