To make a long story short, My mother took a little girl in and kept her for 3 months(with no contact from the father, The mother lost rights to child at birth) He then up and came and took the child away. Now he wants mother to care for the child again and refuses to sign any type of custody papers on the child. He said that the child could live with her and that he never would take her away again. I do not trust him so if he leaves her with mother again with no contact is there any way she can file abandonment charges and get custody that way? Or should she just refuse to take the child in again? The thing is she loves her and wants to adopt her and the father is a drug addict and what i would call a DRUNK. That is all that he cares about. It has only been 3 weeks since he took her from mother and the child has already lost 8 pounds. Please give me some advice to give her, she is afraid not to take the baby scared of what will become of her.But scared of being hurt again.
2007-04-23 09:18:20 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yes. she needs to talk to an attorney, but she can fiel to have the fathers rights removed and she can adopt the child. situations vary by state but you can look it up before you go to the attorney. also get as much info on him as possible. the state would rather see a child in a stable enviornment than just being thrown away from month to month. she should take the child and seek an attorney to get things going immediately!!! also, if cost is a factor...the money you spend for the attorney and to adopt is tax deductable and she will receive a tax credit for adopting. i know finances can be an issue but hopefully this will help. good luck!!
2007-04-23 09:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually the time limit for abandonment is 24 hrs kinda like missing people If he is on drugs they can test turn him into dcfs and they would be more than happy to help because there is a stable home allready for the child to go to also take picture of the child weight loss can be seen in picture also bruses scratchs signs of neglect. Does he have a job stable home? All of that take place in the investgation of a negligant parent
2007-04-23 09:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by Leah's mommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer is definatly a yes. Although some states may have a time limit on how long the parent has to be out of touch before it is considered abandonment. I would definatly consult a lawyer, most of the good ones will give you a free consultation to ask questions and discuss legal options.
2007-04-23 09:23:13 · answer #3 · answered by jimapalooza 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well one thing u never give up ur child , i dont get how u can live without her. thats how i feel . but u must of had a good reason right ? if u are gonna say a man not good enough ! in my eyes but besides that we all shouldnt fight like that everybody should be involved in that baby girls life and why does she have to be part of the tug of war it affects the children positive happy and u treat people how u want to be treated.and if u both cant come to an agree meant then shame on both of u . but he seems like a jerk to fight with a baby's mom everyone know s we need our mommy and we all make mistakes and did u get recipes dude is gonna screw u over unless u do drugs they dont usally take child from mother unless u been in there system they got u on a drug charge? if not dont worry so much about that worry how u act around ur daughter ! because happy heathy and love is what they should be seeing u know , worried dads ******* with mom again ooh that normal grow up and do the same thing!! so be strong i dought hell get ur daughter yeah hes leaving u and takeing everylast cent u will have nothing soon hey isnt thaT WHAT WE USALLY ARE SUPPOSE TO DO ! WELL SAY WORK QQUICK ON GETTING UR FARE SHARE OF THE BANK ACCOUNTS ya he doing our job what the hell get him !! lol no but really think about ur daughter not so much him and remember you will be cool ! and u should alway s get reciepts when there issues papper talks !! ooh hes a thief i just read that **** that dude up dont take my **** and he scandless huh yikes i cant stand thiefs lazy mfucerss thinks everybody owes huh! anyway taake it easy go with ur heart it never lies dont let people stray u away from what u gotta be a mother treat everyone how u want to be treated but dont let people walk on u dont be too nice always tell the truth alwayssssss!! love it ok bye
2016-04-01 03:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you said that the father refuses to sign any kind of papers.
Maybe she can TRY to reason with him. She needs to tell him that in order for her to be able to take her to the dr if she needs medical treatment or her child hood vacc. she needs to have guardianship so she will have permission.
Maybe she could get him to sign guardianship papers. If she decides to sue for custody, and she has guardianship papers it will make the process alot easier. She will have dated papers to give an idea of how long she has had the child.
If he refuses to sign at all. She needs to take the child to the dr. as soon as she gets her back so her medical condition can be documented. It doesn't sound as if she will have any problem proving the father unfit. Before she decides to sue for custody she needs to collect as much evidence to support her claims as she can.
2007-04-23 10:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when the guy leaves the child she needs to file with a good lawyer for custody and start the reason why!
quickly!
and dont tell him you are gonna
2007-04-23 09:22:08 · answer #6 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋