Ok the last few submissions have been about cheating and you guys answers cause more questions. Ok I've been in love with a few people and even though I did, I cheated. How do you define love? If you know in your heart that you want to be with a person and you do have strong emotional connections with a person and you cheat, does that mean you don't love that person. I know cheating is dishonorable and not a good symbol of love by no means, but is it possible to love someone, even though you cheat on them?
2007-04-23 09:11:01 · 11 answers · asked by ccgmacc69 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Cheating on someone you love is not a matter of truly loving that person or not. It's a matter of your personal morals and values regarding relationships. There's nothing necessarily wrong with the person that you love when you cheat on them. It's you and your personal beliefs.
Is the person you love worth hurting?
Can you say "I love you" without feeling guilty afterwards?
Do you feel remorse at anytime before, during, or after the act?
......Personal beliefs.
2007-04-23 09:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by Bianca 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I could Never cheat on someone that I love. By cheating you betray their trust and hurt their feelings. It also shows a lack of respect.Cheating isn't something that one is force into, so the one cheating knows what the consequences might be and if they still go ahead and do it then it's pure selfishness.If you TRULY love someone then you would never do anything intentionally to hurt them, but by cheating that's exactly what you r doing. It's better to be honest with your partner and tell them if you feel that something is missing or if your not satisfied, that way you both will be spared from the pain. It's really hard to trust someone again if you have been cheated by a loved one, if you can't trust them who r u supposed to trust then?? Nothing good can EVER come out from cheating!!!
2007-04-23 10:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by heartbroken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that you love the person you cheat on. Cheating means something is missing for you in that relationship. Even though you love her, you're not completely happy with her. If you are starting to look on the side, or having strong thoughts about other person - look into your relationship, define what's missing and try to adress that with the person you love. Or get out of that relationship alltogether. In the long run, cheating will most likely destroy your present relationship and it will immensly hurt the person you love.
2007-04-23 09:19:52 · answer #3 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe yes and no. It is a selfish kind of love based on filling your own needs and insecurity and building up your own self esteem with no thought that your girlffiend wants the same things for herself but has the morals to try to get those things within the relationship. Cheating is a conscious choice. You either do it or not. It is up to you to be emotionally strong and healthy enough to walk away from the temptations
2007-04-23 09:17:53 · answer #4 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you can, esp if you are a male. Men are usually seeking excitement, women are usually seeking a relationship. It is YOUR responsiblity to make a committment or not! If you do commit, then you should NOT cheat. It is a choice!! If you feel you are a serial cheater, then don't commit! Sounds too simple, but it is absolutely the only way to be sure not to hurt someone you love.
Let me also add that it isn't always something missing from your relationship, sometimes it is something missing from your SELF. If you feel as if you are seeking something that you can never seem to find, then you should seek a counselor to try to get past it.
2007-04-23 09:20:54 · answer #5 · answered by happylittlemom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, in answer to your bold question: you are physically able to cheat on someone you love.
In my opinion if you cheat, then you're obviously not truly content or satisified in that relationship, and if you're not satisfied, then get out before you cheat. It's easy to get distracted sometimes by other people, but if you really love that person then you don't want to hurt them. Cheating=hurt. So do the math.
2007-04-23 09:20:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way this could possibly work is if she is into "open relationships" and you are too. Personally, I never understood this kind of "love" but hey maybe that's your thing. If you want to be the cheater, and don't want her to do the same thing, then you don't love her. You just want your cake and want to eat it too.
2007-04-23 09:16:20 · answer #7 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it's possible!! But you might stop and think whether or not you will hurt them first. Don't hurt someone you love if you can help it.
2007-04-23 09:23:14 · answer #8 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, lust and love are two totally different things. but cheatings still cruel.
2007-04-23 09:18:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
, your not in love ...
2007-04-23 09:16:41 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. November 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋