When I started seeing my boyfriend he had a wife and they were still together he didnt want to leave her but he was misserable so I finally got him to leave her we are together now will he do to me what he did to her even thought we are happy and they werent all he wanted was for her to show him affection she didnt and I do will he look for someone else
2007-04-23 08:55:57 · 56 answers · asked by amanda d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Once a cheat always a cheat!
2007-04-23 08:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by KEVIN 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Have you ever heard of Karma, what goes around comes around. Well no one could really tell you what will happen, but always have in your mind that people do lie, and who are you to say they wern't happy. You can be the happiest couple ever but some people get tired of that. If he did it to her why wouldn't he do it to you???? If he did it once, why not do it twice?? Its like they say once you get a new car a better one will eventually come out and what you have gets old... you get traded in. No one is irreplaceable. There is always some one better than you. It just depends on the kind of man he is... and by the looks of it a married man messing around with some one else... is not a good sign. If he was really unhappy he shouyld have left before you where even in the picture. It was just an excuse and you know it deep down inside. I guess whats done is done good luck!
2007-04-23 09:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry darling.. do you think that he and his wife were always so miserable ? Of course things were "good" with them and they were "happy" at one point, that's why they probably got married ! He's just a guy who obviously can't stick thru the bad times.. "in sickness and health, till death do you part"???!??
When you guys have an argument or he pisses you off.. you might not want to give him affection, either.. and he will use the same story on the NEXT girl.
You can just leave it the way it is, if you want.. but trust me, it's a story as old as time itself.. and it will happen.
2007-04-23 09:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by almondkitty333 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheat always a cheat. Who's to say when he's been with you long enough that he will find that the affection he's getting from you isn't good enough and find someone else on the side. Not meaning to pass judgment here but you 2 deserve each other. The home-wrecker and the lying cheating jerk of a husband a match made in Hell.
2007-04-23 09:06:42 · answer #4 · answered by ☼CubsFan☼ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You all be happy now but when things get rough he mightgo elsewhere. I would have to say that since you are the I wouldnt count on being the other woman for long. In other words he will possibly find someone else when things get bad. Most of the time it is 'once a cheater, always a cheater'
2007-04-23 10:42:27 · answer #5 · answered by vgibson81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would suck now for that to happen, wouldn't it? For the most part, you don't ever really see the 'other woman' ending up happy, maybe she is overly plagued with self-doubt, guilt or remorse. However, you need to find out if he really loves you and expects to stay with you. You may have been enough for affection but love is a whole other matter. If he does intend on making it a lasting relationship and really loves you, you should drop the second-guessing (it's self-destructive) and possibly even seek some personal counseling.
2007-04-23 09:10:11 · answer #6 · answered by Tabatha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, read and pay attention. What everyone wants from a relationship, and what they rarely get, is to feel loved. The reason they rarely get it is because the partner doesn't know what makes them feel loved. They assume it is the same thing that makes themselves feel loved and in the majority of the cases, this is not true.
All of that being said; ask your partner what makes them feel loved. Then, tell them what makes you feel loved. It is this simple question, that holds the key to the happiness of any relationship.
Read the above statement again. And again for a third time. This is the key element missing from relationships and why they fail. He phrases it as "didn't pay attention to him". He is stateing what makes him feel loved, and he wasn't getting it from her.
Will he do it to you? Depends if you can read and comprehend. I have given you the answer of the ages.
Seek and ye shall find, knock and the door shall be opened.
2007-04-23 09:07:13 · answer #7 · answered by Lord L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is hard to find out. I would say to try it for a while. Just be aware of him and suspicious. Just dont be so aware and all that he notices it. It isn't all ways true about the once a cheat always a cheat. EVERY man will do it one day. I did and I haven't done it since. I have found the person i want to be with. But start to trust him. You cant be all paranoid because then the relatioship will NEVER work!
2007-04-23 09:02:25 · answer #8 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You "got him" to leave her. Phrases like that bother me. You never "make" someone do anything, otherwise they might resent you. Wouldn't you rather he'd want to leave her for his own reasons? I get they were unhappy, but he should have left on his own. More often than not if & when one person leaves one for another, they will end up doing the same to that person eventually. It would have been different if you'd left him to make his own decision to leave & then perhaps gotten together after some time. What comes around goes around, so be careful.
2007-04-23 09:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by kitty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you know for sure how things were with his first wife? A lot of guys say the same thing. Maybe he was just bored with the same thing. I think theres a chance he will get bored with you too. Once a cheater..Always a cheater..give it time. I totally agree with Daisy! Defending the ex wife..you are a homewrecker
2007-04-23 09:02:15 · answer #10 · answered by justwonderingwhatever 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I tell you what met my now husband 18 yr ago we didnt get together we were in other rltnshps, when we decided it was time he was and I ws married but we had to mke a choice be happy or miserable~ So we did now 4 kids later and 7 yr married behind us...does it nag me he may leave sure does ~ But, you cant live yourlife for what ifs only what comes and then you deal! Sure it was rough not peaches and cream alot of he went back etc and then came back but, the final day came when it was OVER and we are more in love than ever~God Bless Fllw your heart not your head @ this point he left his wife for you so that means alot, to break that conevant~
2007-04-23 09:02:10 · answer #11 · answered by private p 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋