I'm in way too deep. I've never gotton attatched to a guy before so i thought it would be the same now, but he's doing something to me i've never felt before. I'm falling for him really bad and he's always treating me like he's just doing me a favour being with me. I was warned about him and that he's hurt all his ex's but i was stupid and stuborn and had to keep him close, at first just to prove everyone wrong, but now I can't help but come back to him! It hurts now but it'll hurt more later, how do i get out of this? I've tried so hard, but i can't go a single day without needing to talk to him! He's breaking my heart and i can't stop him! please help me!
2007-04-23 08:53:16 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's like an addiction (you're addicted to him). Try this - you really need to keep your mind occupied with other things - so join some clubs - join a reading club at the library or local book store, go volunteer your time to the animal shelter, the hospice or hospital, a local nursing home. Go join a sports club - Volleyball is a lot of fun. Call your grandma and say "let's go to lunch". Ask your elderly neighbors if they need errands run or chores done. And try to go as long as you can without calling him. Give yourself rewards - if you go one day without calling him you get $1 credit - two days $2 - etc. If you call him you deduct $2 each time. When you earn enough credits go buy yourself a new purse or new shoes or new bathing suit - set a goal! You can do it girl!!!! Good luck and God Bless.
P.S. When you are joining some of the clubs (like volunteering at centers) you will be giving of yourself and meeting new people so you will feel really good about yourself and making new friends at the same time.
2007-04-23 09:01:00 · answer #1 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
meet new people, go out and try new things. get some excitement in your life and just start having fun! this way you'll be to busy to think about him. if that doesn't work (and it wont always work...) then maybe sit down and think of him for awhile. Take a good look at your situation and your feelings for him. If he broke your heart is he really that great? once you think about it enough, you start to find out that hes not so great after all, hes only human and isn't perfect. Also starting something with someone else works to.. just be careful not to use that person with the sol purpose of getting over your ex!
2016-05-17 06:41:26 · answer #2 · answered by linnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just know this first .he will never change.you could hope n pray all you want. please dont bring kids into this.you need to leave him you sound to weak to handle it if he does it 1st. yes,it will hurt for a while but you wont die.most important when you do leave him DONT find another until you love yourself 1st. get support before you do it.all the people that you been crying to will be more then happy to help you.im telling you i was you i cried like no other. i was sick n bed couldnt eat couldnt sleep.i moved on i dont know how but i did and when i did he wanted me back.too little too late buddy.there is someone out there for you but he cant find you when your at home waiting for your winner of a boyfriend to upset you .hey, but if you must stay you still need to change cuz hes not why should he you let him walk all over you.be strong.i feel your pain.you could do it.
2007-04-23 09:19:06 · answer #3 · answered by STALKER BLOCK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've answered your own question! You're right, you can't stop him from treating you like he does, but you can take small steps in showing him that you won't be treated like a doormat. Don't answer his calls EVERYTIME and become "unavailable" sometimes. If he's breaking your heart, it's your responsibility to be smarter and pull away. And newsflash--if you can't go a single day without talkin to him--you need more going on in your life. No one likes a stalker and if he can't/won't say all these things about you, then you aren't on the same page.
I wish you all the best!
2007-04-23 08:59:41 · answer #4 · answered by Lyfeizbutadream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooh my god im so sorry for you. I know just exactly what you are going through and there is no easy way to let go of the wrong guy. I guess you just have to muster up the courage and cut it off..Then take it ne day at a time.. Just be strong and tell your friends about your problems..Friends are a lot of help when it comes to things like this. They keep you strong..ANd dont say that you can't stop him because hun you can do whatever you want..All uyou have to do is take that step and break it off. good luck
2007-04-23 08:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by gabriella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to look in the mirror and say i love me , I am beautiful, and I deserve someone who deserves me. Now let him go. You've got to respect yourself before you ask others to respect you. I left a relationship of 18 years and thought I'd never find love but I did and so will you. You'll thank him later for treating you bad and making you want to do better when you find the one. Let it go so you can move on. Your neediness for him is your own insecurity. You don't need him to define who you are. Be strong. Good Luck.
2007-04-23 09:04:50 · answer #6 · answered by karens lovinlife 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you he wouldn't hurt you, remember that. It might be hard for a while to get over him but you have to. A person should make you happy and want to spend time with them, not having you feel hurt. You only think you can't go on without him cause he's made you feel that way and you are better than that so get it over with and leave him.
2007-04-23 08:58:47 · answer #7 · answered by bm4huskers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't stop it, means I don't want to stop it, and it means you like this kind of relationships, but wanting to know it's right or wrong and has it a good end or not! Nobody knows what will happen in the end! You should firstly think if I say it has a bad end, what you would do, can you stop it? If yes, so stop it! If still you think you can't, be ready for every thing!
2007-04-23 09:43:50 · answer #8 · answered by Ali E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The choices we make.....It really is your choice you know. You could walk away from this if you really wanted to, but you choose the easy way out by going back to him knowing what you know about him and the way he's treating you. I know it's hard, but if you try, I know you could find yourself in a really great relationship where you both are satisfyed, mentally and physically. It just takes work. So come on, make the right choice for you. Leave the looser and find yourself a winner.
2007-04-23 09:00:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you have to cut yourself loose. The longer you wait, the harder it will be, and the more you'll hurt. This is like taking a bandage off - you know it will hurt, but it has to be done. And it's best done quickly. When you're tired of being hurt, you'll do it. Until then - you're just another in a long string of girls to him. Keep telling yourself that you deserve better, and he doesn't deserve you.
2007-04-23 08:59:16 · answer #10 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋