I recently reconnected with my x of 5 years ago.
we talked and all and all of a sudden we connected again and feelings develop. we express to each other that we want a long term with each other but for now lets not rush things and lets enjoy each other and take it slow.
not the other day, he told me that his neighbor who he doesnt know only says hi and bye to her, she knock on his door and invited him to watch a movie with her at her apt. and he went
i dont know how to react towards this, it really bother me because he doesnt know her and how inconsider he could be, i express to him that this situation bothers me and he comes tell me it was innocent that he is a free spirit person but still he doesnt realize that this bothered me, its not insecurity, its the doors it will open for the future. how should i handle this situation
please help
2007-04-23 08:46:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you need to stop being insecure and trust him a little bit more. its a great things u are taking things slow. i mean, relax. he's not ur bf yet so u dont really have a right to get all jealous and mad over this. now, if he was ur bf, it would be a different story.
2007-04-23 08:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by ♥vix♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you trust that they didn't sleep together?
do you think they wanted an adult movie?
what's the point... can't a guy talk innocently to someone for an hr? or just enjoy the movie?
If you love someone... don't tighten your grip on them... it suffocates them and the relationship... if he's honest and in love with you, nothing would happen... and if he's not, then he wasn't the right guy for you anyways, so why bother!
2007-04-23 08:53:43 · answer #2 · answered by the_answer_man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bring it up again, you might have to put your foot down. As a guy, sometimes we dont think about some of the dumb things we might do. We might think its innocent but to a girlfriend it might not seem that way. You just need to make yourself heard, it will help make him think twice in the future too.
2007-04-23 08:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it extremely isn't any longer weird and wonderful, even with the undeniable fact that it incredibly is something which you will might desire to finally recover from (noticeably in case you finally end up desirous to marry this guy). yet loosen up; you 2 have been courting for purely 2 months. merely take it elementary, merely delight in him for who he's, and permit him delight in you for who you're (this might actually take longer; he remains interior the "thank god i'm no longer together with her" area, so while he stops speaking approximately his ex, you recognize he's totally moved on). don't get me incorrect; he already is moved on; he's merely nonetheless interior the "i'm going for the alternative because of the fact she replaced into no longer what i necessary"; you're able to nonetheless actual be what he needs/needs in a while. Plus, he says that SHE wasn't prepared to artwork on subject concerns that they had. means that he's prepared to artwork on subject concerns, implies he's an exceedingly good seize.
2016-10-28 18:56:14 · answer #4 · answered by griglik 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is playing you for a fool.He made that up about his neighbour just to make you jealous.He does not want to take it slowly,that's why the crap he is telling you.His game is manipulation,so excommunicate him for another 5 yrs,apparently he diden't learn his lesson the last time
2007-04-23 09:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by siaosi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him...If you want to be with me and only me then your free spirit better touch ground a bit.Because it is not okay to be hanging out in your neighbors house watching movies with her alone...That is unless she's ninety!
2007-04-23 08:56:53 · answer #6 · answered by Alexis P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly you arent happy with what happened (I cant blame you) So you have to think about what you are looking to gain from this relationship. What would happen if this situation arose again?
Personally i think theres something very fishy about it, but only you know how you feel!
2007-04-23 08:56:12 · answer #7 · answered by Ginch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm... well u guys can talk about it & let each other know how u feel
or u can go 2 the neighbor.
2007-04-23 08:56:46 · answer #8 · answered by d3s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You told him how you feel so ask yourself if you like his answer....honestly, it seems a little shady to me. But if you believe him then don't make a big deal out of it.
2007-04-23 08:52:39 · answer #9 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I can't live with a free spirit.
2007-04-23 08:52:11 · answer #10 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋