well this girl told me one time she might have feelings for me. then one time when we were hanging out, one of her friends who doesnt like me and is also a guy kept trying to get her away from me n putting his arms around her n stuff. i just kept away n let her decide who she wanted to talk to. when it came time to leave i left without saying bye cz his arms were around her again. this really botherd her n she told me later on and she says shes not used to being attracted to guys that often she tries to avoid it and shes unstable and she went from possibly having feelings for me to "taking a step back." what should i do in this situation. i asked her again about a week later n she said im different to her from other guys but still she doesnt consider melike she used to. wat is the solution to this? do i be nice and patient? should i just leave and let her decide to talk to me? if she wants to stay just friends and i dont want to, should i go with it? basically what attitude is needed for this, and wat steps or actions should i make? plz b specific
2007-04-23 08:40:26 · 16 answers · asked by kkong25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just go with the flow.
2007-04-23 08:48:12 · answer #1 · answered by You Lames! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man, I know how you feel. First off, it will never be the same. When you left without saying goodbye, it hurt her feelings and showed her that you are a jealous type of person. What you need to do is tell her that you need to talk to her and that it is really important to you. You need to tell her the real reason why you left without saying goodbye... its always hard, but you cant leave anything out... honesty is what she really wants out of you. Let her know that you are a little self concious and when you saw that other guy with his arms around her, that it made you feel like she didnt like you and you didnt want to face the truth. Its all easier said than done... I had a bad habit of not being able to show my true emotions for a long time, but once you get over the fear of being laughed at or rejected, you will have a lot better of a time. Remember, the worst thing that could happen is what you said... and atleast then, if you say how you really feel, you are one step closer at being able to open up to those you feel strongly for. Good luck!
2007-04-23 15:48:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take it slow for both of your best interests. I would think being friends would be the best answer either way. Then you get to hang out and learn more about eachother and together decide if you want to move forward. If you both don't want to move forward then just let it go and be friends. I hope you can find true happiness and your soul mate . . in the mean time you wil probably find more friends then true loves . . . I wish you the best. You will know when you found it .. until then have fun looking.
2007-04-23 15:46:49 · answer #3 · answered by niclovesjeremy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to consider the issues that are making her act the way she is currently. I used to do the 'taking a step back' thing and it only meant that I wanted to be pursued or I didnt even know what I wanted hehe. Try to find out what she really wants, if theres any question in her mind, then what she wants is not a commitment or anything close. Seems that she needs to work out inside herself what she needs/wants in her life. Holding out to be pursued is sometimes a predatory move as well.
2007-04-23 15:46:59 · answer #4 · answered by TwistedBlackVines 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you may like her well you may like a lot of girls inlife but if they dont tell you a yes or no answer to be with you then leave them alone an go on about you rlife an meet other people too.........dont wait around on her while shes bein too flirty an liken the attetion from other guys cause if yall were together she may end up make n u mad if a guy did this while yall were dating or watever....yea move on dont wait if that is the situation... u can talkj to her friendly but nothing more....cause later if yall do hook up it may ruin yalls friendship completely
2007-04-23 15:45:52 · answer #5 · answered by BOOBOO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she wanted you to step up and show your interest in her. I think because you didn't assert yourself she saw you as weak.
Then she no longer felt attracted to you.
But it might not be too late. Tell her how you feel, and explain the situation how you just explained to us (how the male friend was basically c ock blockin! *don't use those words, but that's what he was doing!*)
Be honest, and if she wants to still be friends, then I guess you might have lost your chance.
2007-04-23 15:47:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
step it up brother. be a man take inittiative and start dating her. Tell her that you would like to make a commitment to dating her. If she heitates just say look what harm can it do. and if you like say were just hanging out if you feel more comfortable about that. be a friend, be engaged, be married, have kids. LIVE LIFE
2007-04-23 15:47:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You lost out my not being agressive enough.
Women want a guy who puts their arms around them and acts attracted to them.
You've been put in the "friend zone" and there is no way out.
Sorry.
2007-04-23 15:44:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the ball is in her court... not yours. I wouldn't waste my time with it honestly. If she can't decide if she wants to be w/ you or not.. then move on. If it's meant to be... it will happen. I'm not sure if you're a big believer in it... but I truly believe things happen for a reason... and I think that's a good motto to live by.
2007-04-23 15:47:54 · answer #9 · answered by perkyash2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't consider you like she did? That is your answer. Got a fishing rod? Cast it a couple times and see what you come up with. Lotsa fish out there.
2007-04-23 15:48:16 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop her like a rock, and move on . There are plenty of others out there without all that baggage and games.
2007-04-23 16:01:36 · answer #11 · answered by James A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋