I have recently been hesitant in going out and meeting people to date because of my finances. I've recently met someone I'm definetly interested in and the feeling is mutual but because of my current situation I'm not sure if I should move forward or not. I don't what him thinking I'm looking for someone to support me.
2007-04-23 08:31:38 · 11 answers · asked by averyd84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do not discuss your finances with any dates--why would you?
a person with no money is a turn off - isn't it? keep your troubles to yourself and put your best foot forward-if you want a future with him--don't be a whiner or look destitute, it's un-attractive. Always in my single life the man paid or I din't go--no guy ever asked me to pay or expected it-I only paid when we were engaged, and his $ was going for college. Women today have ruined it for themsleves. A man should pay for the pleasure of your company, not the other way around.
2007-04-23 08:36:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a woman then it's okay for a man to support you, though you shouldn't expect him to support you in the early stages of the relationship. If you are a man - it appears you may be - in a gay relationship, then I really don't know the rules about who pays and that sort of thing. But what I do know is it doesn't take a lot of money to date - go to places where money isn't required or if it is then it's very little - like parks, museums, history centers and coffee shops. Those will do for now, but in the long run. you will need to think of what your limited funds will mean to a long-term relationship. I wouldn't necessarily think you have to discuss finances at this point - my fiance and I didn't discuss our finances until after he asked me to marry him though I had a good idea what he was worth and how much he made each month. But unless you are talking about co-mingling funds, then it's really not any of his business. But you should tell him that, for whatever reason, you are in a financial cul-de-sac and that you are working to fix your finances. That should do.
2007-04-23 08:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your finances are something you don't need to discuss with someone you're only starting to date or thinking about dating. It's something to discuss when you're in a relationship, or to discuss very casually and not in great detail. For example, if he suggests an expensive date/restaurant, you should say something casual and sincere, like, "That sounds wonderful, but it's not really within my price range right now. What else could we do to spend time together?" Also, if you're really not looking for someone to support you, the best thing to do is improve your situation so no one would feel like they needed to support you! Good luck in your finances and your love life!
2007-04-23 08:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by minfue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew. I have been dating my girlfriend for over a year and she still won't talk about finances with me. My best suggestion would only be to bring it up if it is urgent.
If it involves long term investments it should wait until the relationship is serious. If it's about who is paying for dinner, you may want to ask before the first date.
2007-04-23 08:36:57 · answer #4 · answered by Daniel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 11:08:46 · answer #5 · answered by lachermeier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discussing finances should be kept to yourself until there is a serious relationship established.
2007-04-23 08:38:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to be outright with the info until you get serious and talk about marriage-- you don' want to saddle them with your debt once you get married, so be honest at that point, and by then, maybe you'll be all set
2007-04-23 08:35:47 · answer #7 · answered by jayveeyoung 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not their business. Are they expecting you to pay? Why do they need to know anyway. Get to know them anyway. If they fall for you your financial situation wouldn't matter.
2007-04-23 08:36:10 · answer #8 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would put more thought into when you will sleep with him or not, and forget about telling how much money you make! Geeze!
2007-04-23 08:34:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think a man wants to hear this.
2007-04-23 08:34:32 · answer #10 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋