my ex and me fell out about six months ago he is with someone else now, but 4 the last week he has been calling me every day and sending me about twenty texts a day. on saturday he came into my work and sat 4 two hours his girl friend phoned and he told her were he was.
On sat night he called me when he got in from the pub she was their to, he never said ny thing about her and i did not ask because i still love him and it would have hurt if he spoke about her.
today he came into my work again and brought me lunch,
the reason we split up is because i felt he did not make an effort with me.
do you think he is trying to show me he has changed or am i looking to much in to it
2007-04-23 08:31:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well whatever he is doing, he is not being fair to the other girl - and you don't really want a guy who would treat another human being like that, do you? Forget him - he is immature and manipulative and no, you don't love him - you are just a willing victim in his games.
Edit: Hmmm ... I see your love-rival is posting on here tonight, too! :-) When can we expect a post from the love-rat?
2007-04-23 08:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that man wants what he cant get. He didnt make an effort with you when he had you he's not making an effort with his gf now that he has her. You may not want to hear this and only you can make up your own mind but I would say he is trying to use you. Step out of it for a min and think about the only woman here. How would you feel if he was doing that to you while you were with him? It's not fair on you I agree with that but it's really not fair on her. I would dump him off and tell her what he has been doing show her the texts and save her from the **** as well. sorry if thats not what you wanted to hear
2007-04-23 10:42:03 · answer #2 · answered by pheobe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I preferred his new girlfriends version.
Stop being so pathetic. He is playing both off in a grass is greener way and you are letting him get away with it - no encouraging it.
You will never get him back (though why you would want to is beyond me), being a drip.
You need to be stronger more assertive. Be less available, and if he keeps chasing, then be courageous and give him an ultimatum.
One way or another you need a decision - but engineer the outcome.
2007-04-23 10:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Difficult situation here.
First off do you know that he is still with his girlfriend because if you didn't ask about her and he is spending time near you then I don't think she would be too happy about that. So he could be lying to make you jealous.
Secondary he does seem to be winning you back by showing that he has changed but it won't last as people are set in stone this is how they are and change is very difficult trust me.
2007-04-27 00:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what his intentions are, this is one to stay well away from.
I know its hard, you still love him - he's playing on it - but think about it from the outside for a moment. He's with someone, and he's messing with your head. This can only mean trouble. It's too messy. Tell him to stay out of your life and you'll meet someone better .
2007-04-23 10:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by ~ Arwen ~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mamm, I am so sorry for your pain ! If he has a girlfriend he has a girlfriend ! You deserve better ! When a man and a women comit it should be eternal !
2007-04-23 08:44:50 · answer #6 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. He's trying to confuse you. It's emotional blackmail. And what's more, people don't change. So wake up!
2007-04-23 08:35:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no he feels guilty for treating you as he did - but he would have left his girl friend and gone solo b4 making a play for you second time round - remember once bitten twice shy & love can be blind sometimes
2007-04-23 08:39:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yea move on he's just tryin to confuse u, or make u like him again to then push u away, i bet u can do better than that loser, it sounds like he has no life
2007-04-23 08:41:46 · answer #9 · answered by blah! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it looks like this guy wants you back, but is waiting for his current girlfriend to finish with him so he is not the bad one.
2007-04-23 08:36:02 · answer #10 · answered by Raine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋