I in a serious relationship witha wonderful man we've been going out for 2 yrs. And I'm 16 and he just turned 18 on April 3. I love him with all my heart but he says that he want to marry me as soon as I graduate from high school. I told him that I definately see him as my husband but not now. I want to go to college and make a career and be independant for a little bit. He's on his way to college to major in Bussiness Managment, he was going to attend Virginia Tech but he's going to switch to UVA instead. I want to go to George Mason or VCU or maybe even Ohio State.I told him hundreads of times that we should wait till we both are finish with College and when we're both fiancially settle. Why is he acting like this?
2007-04-23 08:09:48 · 5 answers · asked by Ayita 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Marraige is hard, college is hard, learning to live on a budget is hard. Do you really want to learn all these things at once?
Maybe he is afraid you will find someone else while you are at different schools [although, married people have also done that!]
People who marry before they are ready have a very high divorce rate. Most people change a LOT between 18 and 22.
It is possible to have a long term,long distance relationship-but only if you both really want it.
2007-04-23 08:21:11 · answer #1 · answered by Nurse Susan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you seriously have got to learn how to spell. There are no "a"s in "definitely" or "hundreds."
Yes, you should both wait until you finish college. I agree with the previous poster who said that you'll both do a lot of growing up and changing during your college years. I would consider it highly unlikely that you two would still consider yourselves suitable for each other after you've grown up. I promise you that anyone I might have thought suitable for me when I was your age would most decidedly not suit me now.
But if that doesn't apply to you two, great. But you shouldn't marry someone sooner to avoid change.
2007-04-23 15:41:50 · answer #2 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because he loves you and a real man would want to marry his beautiful wife. Good you are talking to him. I think you are right to get your college, etc. and he should be understanding about it too.
2007-04-23 15:14:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thinks it's just because that he wants to claim you as his. He doen't want to lose you and he feels like if he marrys you then your his. Just explain to him that waiting is the best thing to do and that you will always love him.
2007-04-23 15:14:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its best to marry only after being independent. you are completely right. stick to your arguments.
2007-04-23 15:12:58 · answer #5 · answered by pinkie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋