Hello, I'm engaged and I just found out that my fiance went out to a casino on saturday night? He lied to me and I think he was there with a girl. We have been together for 2 years. I'm so confussed , I dont know what to do or think....
2007-04-23 07:38:32 · 32 answers · asked by Rosie L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he lied to you once, he will probably do it again. Put the wedding off for now. If you don't want to get rid of him (exactly what I would do), give it some time and see if this is just a one time thing or if it is going to become a pattern.
Good Luck.
2007-04-23 07:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by Jazzy, I Miss U Love! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only way to prove he was there with someone else is to either find a friend he went with or find the girl he went with. One way to maybe get him to confess is to press him for details about the day. When did he leave, who'd he have lunch with, was he at one casino all day, why would he go alone and be bored for hours on end? Maybe if you tell him you'd rather have it all out in the open now, so if he wants to confess you two can work it out (even if you don't think you can) because after you spend all that money on a wedding, etc. and after time goes by you will get even angrier about the lies going on for so long. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-04-23 07:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better answer those kind of questions first before getting married. I think I would be wary of a guy who feels he has to lie to me about going to a casino. You said you 'think' he may have been there with a girl and even though you don't say why, your intuition is probably telling you something even if you don't want to hear it. I say you take a long hard look at yourself, your fiance and your relationship. Maybe you two have changed in 2 years.
2007-04-23 07:45:01 · answer #3 · answered by Tabatha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get proof. No use saying anything to him at this point until you can prove it. Check his phone for text messages, saved numbers, recently dialed and incoming calls. If he has a stash of condoms then count them to see if any are missing. Where is it he was supposed to be? See if you can check that place to find out if he was really there. But the bottom line is, if you don't trust him, you can't get married yet. I just went through something like this with my fiance and we just litterally had it out. I mean I bought out the big guns (it was a situation dealing with his kids' mom) and I told him I wasn't making one more wedding plan until we cleared this up. That I was prepared to break up right then and there. He said he didn't want to break up, and it took a few weeks and he got tired of me digging and talking and asking but you know what, I don't care. I told him if I'm going invest my life into his hands, I have to be 100% sure I can trust him. Three weeks to a month later we are back on track. I still haven't delved back into my planning, taking things slowly now. Just trying to get back to the way we were. I still get suspicious, but I don't have that "gutt feeling" I had. I think "something" happened and whatever it was is over - if I had proof I'd leave him, but I don't. For right now my gutt is okay, but I have to tell you, life is too short. If I get the 'feeling' again, I'm outta here. I can't spend my life trying to figure out if he's cheating on me or being true. And neither can you. I would say again, first get proof, then confront him. No, let me back up. FIRST ask yourself what you are going to do about it. Do you want to break up or try to fix it? Then do step two and three above. Good luck.
2007-04-23 07:57:40 · answer #4 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sign. Before the wedding. If he lied now he will lied later too. Give him back the ring. I hope you do not live together. If you live together work it out until you can afford to move. Maybe he will pay for it after 2 yrs of lies.
2007-04-23 07:44:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is never an excuse for lying unless you you have something to hide. Was there a reason other than 'someone else' that he would have lied to you?
Why else would he not want you to know where he was at?
You do have to ask yourself why he would be lying and what else he's lied about. Good luck!
2007-04-23 07:45:42 · answer #6 · answered by amymaha73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be confused??? Either you let him lie to you or you don't! THIS IS A BIG RED FLAG!!!! Do you really want to marry someone who lies to you? Do you really want to marry someone who would go out on you? Then the decision is right in front of your face!!! BREAK OF THE ENGAGEMENT!!! Oh, to bad you wanted to get married and made so many plans....it's better to go through this than it is a bad marriage and a divorce!!!
2007-04-23 07:43:45 · answer #7 · answered by wish I were 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might be right?,.......But you'll never know?! If you're pressing to hard to find out. He will tell you naturally, by giving signs, symbols and just maybe a revelation. As a women remain calm, cool & collective! You already know and have the answer. Most men are not great lyers! Good Luck!
2007-04-23 07:47:32 · answer #8 · answered by Jack-AZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, maybe its your emotions getting the best of you, I mean just cause he lied about going out, which he shouldnt have, you two are getting married! I think your mind is just racing about the girl, before you get too upset why dont you verify it, and make sure. Dont stress. If he's the one he WILL appologize for lying and be sure to be truthful to you and not do it EVER again! Good luck
2007-04-23 07:43:40 · answer #9 · answered by FIT-GAL 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-13 07:09:17 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋