why oh why is my son so selfish...he refuses to pay board and lodging, refuses to get a job and expects me to?

Question

pay for everything....this is so unreasonable, i try to explain to myself and his mother cant look after him all his life and that he has to take respocibility and at his age (he is now 7) he should be down the mines or cleaning chimneys.....why are kids so selfish these days?

dear me they let them out early tonight didnt they......

dufus, g lady....enjoy your 2 points i am glad i made a contribution.....duh

yes we brits do have a sense of humor....its called irony, to understand it you have to understand when somebody is serious or kidding.....that obviously went right over your head

Answer 1

this reminds me of a great sketch, which follows.
FIRST YORKSHIREMAN:
Aye, very passable, that, very passable bit of risotto.
SECOND YORKSHIREMAN:
Nothing like a good glass of Château de Chasselas, eh, Josiah?
THIRD YORKSHIREMAN:
You're right there, Obadiah.
FOURTH YORKSHIREMAN:
Who'd have thought thirty year ago we'd all be sittin' here drinking Château de Chasselas, eh?
FIRST YORKSHIREMAN:
In them days we was glad to have the price of a cup o' tea.
SECOND YORKSHIREMAN:
A cup o' cold tea.
FOURTH YORKSHIREMAN:
Without milk or sugar.
THIRD YORKSHIREMAN:
Or tea.
FIRST YORKSHIREMAN:
In a cracked cup, an' all.
FOURTH YORKSHIREMAN:
Oh, we never had a cup. We used to have to drink out of a rolled up newspaper.
SECOND YORKSHIREMAN:
The best we could manage was to suck on a piece of damp cloth.
THIRD YORKSHIREMAN:
But you know, we were happy in those days, though we were poor.
FIRST YORKSHIREMAN:
Because we were poor. My old Dad used to say to me, "Money doesn't buy you happiness, son".
FOURTH YORKSHIREMAN:
Aye, 'e was right.
FIRST YORKSHIREMAN:
Aye, 'e was.
FOURTH YORKSHIREMAN:
I was happier then and I had nothin'. We used to live in this tiny old house with great big holes in the roof.
SECOND YORKSHIREMAN:
House! You were lucky to live in a house! We used to live in one room, all twenty-six of us, no furniture, 'alf the floor was missing, and we were all 'uddled together in one corner for fear of falling.
THIRD YORKSHIREMAN:
Eh, you were lucky to have a room! We used to have to live in t' corridor!
FIRST YORKSHIREMAN:
Oh, we used to dream of livin' in a corridor! Would ha' been a palace to us. We used to live in an old water tank on a rubbish tip. We got woke up every morning by having a load of rotting fish dumped all over us! House? Huh.
FOURTH YORKSHIREMAN:
Well, when I say 'house' it was only a hole in the ground covered by a sheet of tarpaulin, but it was a house to us.
SECOND YORKSHIREMAN:
We were evicted from our 'ole in the ground; we 'ad to go and live in a lake.
THIRD YORKSHIREMAN:
You were lucky to have a lake! There were a hundred and fifty of us living in t' shoebox in t' middle o' road.
FIRST YORKSHIREMAN:
Cardboard box?
THIRD YORKSHIREMAN:
Aye.
FIRST YORKSHIREMAN:
You were lucky. We lived for three months in a paper bag in a septic tank. We used to have to get up at six in the morning, clean the paper bag, eat a crust of stale bread, go to work down t' mill, fourteen hours a day, week-in week-out, for sixpence a week, and when we got home our Dad would thrash us to sleep wi' his belt.
SECOND YORKSHIREMAN:
Luxury. We used to have to get out of the lake at six o'clock in the morning, clean the lake, eat a handful of 'ot gravel, work twenty hour day at mill for tuppence a month, come home, and Dad would thrash us to sleep with a broken bottle, if we were lucky!
THIRD YORKSHIREMAN:
Well, of course, we had it tough. We used to 'ave to get up out of shoebox at twelve o'clock at night and lick road clean wit' tongue. We had two bits of cold gravel, worked twenty-four hours a day at mill for sixpence every four years, and when we got home our Dad would slice us in two wit' bread knife.
FOURTH YORKSHIREMAN:
Right. I had to get up in the morning at ten o'clock at night half an hour before I went to bed, drink a cup of sulphuric acid, work twenty-nine hours a day down mill, and pay mill owner for permission to come to work, and when we got home, our Dad and our mother would kill us and dance about on our graves singing Hallelujah.
FIRST YORKSHIREMAN:
And you try and tell the young people of today that ..... they won't believe you.
ALL:
They won't!

Answer 2

a ha!! lol. needed a giggle. nice 2 c ppl hav a sence of humor 2day!
on a serious note, u think thats bad? my ex is 23 on thrusday, and he STILL expects mummy to pay for him!! he dnt evn live @ home anymore!!

oh, and my kids worse than urs...sorry, but she is. she dnt say a word to me allllllllllllllll day long, wakes me up at stupid times of the night for a wee n it turns out 2 only be a dribble, and then the selfish cow expects me to carry her round all day!! not so much as a thank u in sight, but rather hefty kicks n punches!! granted she's not actually born yet...but HUMPs!! the rudeness of children now days!! (dear god how old did i just sound?)

Answer 3

LMAO...i really did get a laugh out of that one. There is nothing worse then a 7 yr old how thinks mommy has to do everything. Mommy has to always pick up the toys, wipe the nose, and hell feed him too...lol Don't worry he won't be like this forever. Once you stop doing things for him because he isn't picking up his toys or what not, he'll come around.

Answer 4

I agree! I have 5 children aged between 8 and 15 so why should I do anything now? I should be able to sit on my **** and relax while they keep my house clean and tidy and cook the tea!!! Ha ha

Answer 5

Wow you are a horrible parent. At age 7 the kid should be playing on a bike outside, going to school and doing homework, making new friends, being in some after school activity. NOT learning a trade and paying for everything. You are the parent, the kid is still learning the english language and how to write. You need to grow up and learn to take care of your responsiblities, the most important of which is your 7 year old boy.

Go get some help from a psychologist, it's needed.

Answer 6

Because of the way our society is. Kids don't have to work, and parents let them get away with it. I've been very guilty of this. I have 3 children. My 2 sons are good at helping me and doing their share of the work. My daughter on the other hand, is lazy and does nothing. Her room is a nightmare. Soon she will move out, she's 17 and she'll won't know how to cook or clean. She'll be learning the hard way.

Don't let your son get away without helping you. I've found the best way is to work together. Especially at his age. When doing yard work, house work or whatever work you want him to do, do it together. No fun until homework and housework are done.

Answer 7

Ok so I was just about ready to say chuck the lazy git out til I read his age. Funny though.

Answer 8

you think you got it bad, my daughter makes me clean her bum every 2 hours and she doesnt do anything around the house. She wont get a job either, not even part-time, and she wont go to college either. I still have to bath her, cook for her and feed her and she never even bothers to say thank you!!



Ok, so she is only 16months but that is beside the point!!! lol

Answer 9

See what happens? Once you show them love, they expect it every single day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LOL boy there are some grumpy people here online today! It was a JOKE!!! Lighten up and be thankful you are still above the green grass. Whew!

Answer 10

You've got to be joking. Please tell me you are joking. Or maybe that's a typo. You surely can't expect a seven year old to be mining.

At seven children have not yet learned to be independant, neither are they physically strong enough to compete with other workers. Give him another ten years, then re-visit the issue.

Do you live in a very poor nation where this is expected? It's not expected in America or most places where English is spoken, so you're not going to get very many polite answers to your question.

Answer 11

Wow and I thought my kids were bad. I tell them to clean their room and they ask me how come I treat them like maids. Gee, I thought taking responsibility for your kids was your job, not theirs. So, if you want him to get a job, give him an allowance .
Do you have nothing better to do than question why your 7yo won't get a job??