Am I correct that in the "old days" (like a generation ago) there were very few bachelorette parties and that the female version of the bachelor party was the bridal shower?
When I was growing up, that's what I thought: men have bachelor parties, and women have bridal showers. Then, in the late 80s and into the 90s came the advent of the bachelorette party.
Also, is it now common for women to have both a bachelorette party and a bridal shower? And if so, do you girls have to buy gifts for both occasions?
2007-04-23 07:03:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Oh boy... Now I'm REALLY feeling OLD!
Yes, in the "old days" there were no such things as bachelorette parties.... it was not to be done for "proper girls." The bridal shower was the correct party to have, and it prepared the bride for her upcoming married life... including housewares, towels, sheets, etc. etc. The inclusion of "naughty unmentionables" were strictly discouraged and looked down upon, too.... "nice girls" didn't even THINK of those things.
I don't know about it being common to have both a bachelorette and a bridal shower. Frankly, I would encourage the bridal shower and discourage the bachelorette party. I'm still from the old "nice girls" school... aaaah for the good ol' days!
2007-04-23 08:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by wyomugs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, I may have a different definition of what "the old days" are, but when I got married about 20 years ago, there were both bachelorette parties and showers for women. But that WAS a "generation ago," and it was 1989. :) I think that bachelorette parties came in to fashion right about the time that male strippers did.
Yes, it's definitely common for women to have both. Typically the bridal shower is for the "real gifts," and Mom and her friends are invited, along with the bride's friends and family. The bachelorette party, however, is typically attended by the bride and HER friends, and it's typically a reasonably bawdy night complete with less expensive gifts perhaps not appropriate for great aunt Ethel, if you catch my drift.
2007-04-23 09:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bridal shower and the bachelorette party or lingerie party are two different events. It is acceptable to have both a bridal shower (because these are gifts more intended for the home, generally) and a bachelorette party or a lingerie party (these are more "naughty" gifts). I don't know what the rules for ettiquette say, but since I've only been invited to bachelorette parties or to lingerie showers for those women with whom I am very, very close, I have purchased gifts for both occassions, when invited.
2007-04-23 08:01:51 · answer #3 · answered by JenV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is common but not necessary to have both. Many times the bridal shower will be for everyone, co-workers, younger and older friends, neighbors, etc. The bachelorette party usually (not always) has people the brides age and they do the clubbing thing. If you bring a gift for the shower, one is not needed for the bachelorette party.
2007-04-23 07:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This info is correct, and yes it's the norm for women to have both the bridal shower and bachelorette party and no you don't give gifts for both only the bridal shower the bachelorette party is for everyone to kick their heels up and have some fun.
2007-04-23 07:13:04 · answer #5 · answered by mrsknowitall 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cant see any good reason not to have both. Have fun and celebrate! I also dont see any reason to get a gift for the bachelorette party.
2007-04-23 08:06:37 · answer #6 · answered by My two cents 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the bachelorette party was a rivalry to be like guys, like so much of the feminist movement. It didnt exist a few decades ago like you mentioned. I dont think it is necessary to have both
2007-04-23 10:06:37 · answer #7 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-28 18:40:59 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have both....
the bridal shower is for the gifts... like toasters, and microwaves...
the bachlorrtte party is for se x toys like dilos and penis straws....
2007-04-23 07:11:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋