How old should my daughter be before I make her go see a gynecologist?

Question

She is 15 years old. She is a virgin. I am kinda thinking I should take her now. What do you think? They say the recomended age to first take your daughter is 13-15, but 13 seems too soon. (that is what medical websites have said)
I also have a 13 year old daughter. I am wondering if I should take her too. I think it seems too early for the 13 year old.

What do y'all think?

the 13 year old just got her period last October (the day after she turned 13)

the 15 year old got her period when she was about 13 I think.


also, if I took my 13 year old, do you think they would do everything to her?
(all 3 tests?)

Answer 1

I think it's a great idea! I plan to take my daughter as soon as she gets her first period. Just make it a positive, happy thing and maybe celebrate your femaleness together! Go shopping after and out to lunch. Show them that taking care of themselves and their bodies is so important, and part of loving yourself.

Explain that it's nothing to be afraid of (even if you are afraid yourself!) Just explain that women's bodies are so complicated, and that's why we have our very own specialist.

I think you should take them both. Better to give them the info now (you can decide how much you want them to have.) You can just take them for a check up, or even just to talk to the doc, first with you present, then maybe alone, so they can ask any embarrassing questions.

Answer 2

There is no reason to take a non-sexually active 13 year-old, or even a 15 year-old, to the gynecologist. If you are taking your daughters to their primary pediatrician that is fine. The fact that they both have their periods doesn't mean they need specialized medical help. Having their periods is normal. They can be vaccinated for HPV at their pediatrician's office and even ask about female questions. Once the girls start having sex, turn 18, or let you know they might start having sex is the right time to take them. That way they can be examined and started on birth control before they become sexually active. Keep the lines of communication open with your girls and stay in-tune with them- and talk about safe sex at home. Keep it something that they can talk about with you and you will know when they need to talk to a gynecologist. Basically, the majority of girls/women don't need pap smears unless they are sexually active or 18 years=old - and all the other tests done at the gyn office- chlamydia, ect aren't really necessary until they are having sex. If their periods aren't overly painful or problematic they are fine with the pediatrician.

Answer 3

I think 13 is fine. I actually had irregular periods when I was 12. I starting having my period at the age of 10 and by the age of 12 my periods were coming every 2 weeks, and I was NOT sexually active. I didn't become sexually active until the age of 15. And just because they aren't sexually active, doesn't mean they don't need to be checked.

Answer 4

I would go ahead and take your 15-year-old daughter. Before you do, prepare her.

Unless there is an actual reason (health issues or sexual activity), I think you could wait another year or so for your 13-year-old daughter, unless you wanted to just deal with both of them at the same time.

Answer 5

In my professional opinion and personal opinion also, your daughters should go see the gynocologist once they begin their menses. If they have become sexually active, whether, you like it or not, it is a reality and needs to be dealt with also. I have seen so many young girls not have the proper medical care and be taught correctly about life, hence my reasons for them to be taken in to be seen so that they know what the risks are and are not about their own bodies and the choices they make. You might even want to make an appointment with your own gyno and discuss this with them and then make a decision and go from there. Also discuss this openly with both of your daughters separately and see what they have to say, it may help you to make your decision. I wish you all the very best.

Answer 6

Women do not usually need a gynecology appointment until the are sexually active (hopefully not before age 18), but I had my first appointment/pap smear when I was 20 years old right before I got married. I was a virgin, but I did it to make sure I was able to have kids and just to get it checked out before the big night! :) I'd think 15 is a little young. Maybe wait until she is 18, that's the most common age for young women.

Answer 7

Yes you should take her to the gyno. Just because she isn't having sex doesn't mean there aren't other problems. I think kids should be taught at a young age to go to the gyno annually... that way they are not embarrased to go later when they do become sexually active. Its a part of being a woman. 15 isn't too young... I think the 13 year old would be fine too.. it wouldn't hurt anything.

Answer 8

I would start now. Just because she is not sexually active now doesn;t mean she won't be soon (I am in no way saying that is ok I think she should wait until she is much older). But you caould get her on birth control and explain very well to herr that just because she is on birth control does not mean she has to start having sex.

Good Luck

Answer 9

I've always heard that you don't really need to take them to see a gynocologist until they are sexually active; the fact that so many girls are becoming sexually active between the ages of 13-15 only serves as an indication that these are the recommended ages.

Of course, it could also have something to do with them getting their periods.

Answer 10

Are you meaning for a pap smear? My Dr. didn't recommend a pap until age 19 or first sexual activity (whichever came first), unless something indicated a problem. If their periods are normal, and they have no apparent problems, then it's probably not crucial to take them. Call your GP and ask his/her opinion. That is the most objective professional opinion you can get, I think.