what if your a 13 year old and you want a baby?

Question

ok i'm thirting and i want a baby but i don't have a boyfriend and my mom would freck if i tell her if i want a baby

Answer 1

Go to the closest Toy's r Us and buy a doll.. and pay attention to your classes because your grammer is bad.

Answer 2

It is natural for you to want a baby. God gave us this natural instinct to want to nurture and love. Right now though, you are much to young to take on the responsibility of being a mother. It's okay to love babies and want to be around them. Maybe you could get an after school babysitting job? I did that as a teenager and soon I realized that I wasn't ready to be a mother but I still very much loved being with those babies. Being a mother is the hardest, most rewarding job I've ever had. I am twenty eight and I have a seven year old daughter and an eight year old son. Sometimes I even get overwhelmed with everything that they need. My husband and I both work and not only do we spend every penny that we make on our children, we also spend every waking minute away from our jobs, tending to our children. I am not saying that I don't enjoy it but I'm also not going to lie and say that I don't miss being able to go shopping without keeping up with the kids sometimes or just taking a nap during the day, or just fixing one milkshake rather than trying to spend that extra twenty minutes fixing the whole house one before I can sit down and eat one. Lol! :) Having children is very fun and they are truly the love and joys of my life but it is VERY challenging balancing it all. I CANNOT imagine doing it at 13!!!! I really can't! You have so many things in your life to accomplish before you are ready to be a mother. I am sure you will make the perfect mother in 10-15 yrs. but if you start while you are still in highschool you are in for a lifetime of struggles, honey. I had my first child at 20 and that was WAY to young. I didn't finish college before I became pregnant and I've been trying to go back and take classes here or there to finish but between grocery shopping, laundry, baseball, softball, tumbling, wrestling, work, etc. I don't have alot of time left. Please finish college first, get your life straight and do what you want to do before you start your family. You will have plenty of time to have a family after you do all of those things. You will be a better mother for it. In the meantime, babysit. I'm sure you would give a baby lots of love. It will also give you the practice that you will need for when you become a mommy in a decade or so... :)

Answer 3

Go babysit some kids. You will realize what a huge responsibility it is to take care of another person, all the time. It's okay to love babies and kids. Maybe you should become a babysitter and/or even work at a daycare when you are old enough. I have always loved babies. I spoiled my little cousins rotten every chance I got. When I got older, I would watch people's kids and I would have a great time, but it was always nice to give them back. I called it natural birth control. When I wanted to have a baby, I would spend time with a kid and realize that I wasn't quite ready to have my life turned upside down. Having a baby is a life altering decision. You can never sleep late, all your money goes to taking care of the baby, and you can never just get up and go somewhere. You have your whole life ahead of you.

If you can't babysit, go to the local park and play with some kids there. Bring bubbles! You can never go wrong with bubbles....

Answer 4

Your body is going through a lot of changes right now and those changes can produce some weird feelings. You may want a baby, but you know you are not old enough to keep one or care for it. It sounds like you want to give love and be loved in return, which is human nature, but this is not the way to do it!
Why not talk to a counselor at school or your school nurse about this? They may be able to help you get your emotional needs fulfilled, so you can exercise good judgment and make a better choice than having a baby at 13.
Good luck to you.

Answer 5

Oh my. You do not want a baby. I had 2 babies at 16 and let me tell you it is not fun. Sure I love my little girls to death but it was more than hard. You may think you want a baby but you don't. Do you want to get up every couple of hours every night? Have no money because you are spending it on diapers and other things? Have no social life because you have a baby to care for and can't afford a babysitter? You are still a kid, you need to enjoy the time you have and then wait until you are married and older to have a baby.

Answer 6

I think at some point or another every 13 year old wants a baby... But wanting and be able to take of a baby are two completely different things... You have to do what is best for the baby before yourself... How would you take care of (properly) a baby if your still in school(daycare?), can't drive (what if the baby needs to go to the doctor?), don't have a job(how would you take care of the baby and get it what it needs?), and furthermore you can't have a baby without a man...well i take that back, you can, but don't you want a dad for the baby? You should wait until you are ABLE to have a baby, your body is not even ready for you to physically have a baby... and im not trying to sound horrible, but just wait longer and wait til you CAN have a baby and TAKE CARE of a baby... Then if you still want one then try to have one... Good Luck...

Answer 7

i say keep the dream alive butkeet it in your heart untill your older i know it seems exciteing to have a baby but just think of all the things your baby wont have for the first few months it doesnt matter what the baby has but after that they start to want things and how would it make you feel to see you little baby want some thing so bad and s/he cant have it because mommy doesnt have a job or becuase mommy is single and has to work all of the time i definately say wait untill your older that way you can plan to take time off work or quit work and still be able to get your baby the things it wants and needs and spend all the time with it that is deserves

Answer 8

Get a hamster & see if you have what it takes to take care of it for it's whole life. Feeding it daily. Cleaning it's cage weekly. Playing with it & giving it attention a few times a day.

If that works out for you, get a cat. Do the same. Feed it, play with it, clean it's cat litter, every day.

Then, try a puppy. Make sure it's a puppy that isn't housebroken yet. Walk it twice a day. Clean up after it. Bathe it. Play with it. Train it.

Next, try two puppies at once.

And, remember, that puppies only require about one-tenth the amount of time, money, care that a human baby does.

Now, think of all of the things that you want to do in your life. Realize that all of them will have to be put on the back burner for 18 years, unless you can figure out a way to do 'puppy times 10' and still do the things you want to do with your life.

And, wait. Until you're mature & settled enough in your life to be able to give that child, who you are going to love with all of your being, ever bit of attention & care that they deserve.

Answer 9

If you can't even spell then you definitely don't need a baby. Having a child is a HUGE responsibility. Take it from me...I am a young mother. YOU and YOUR life no longer exists, it's YOUR BABY that exist. I personaly wouldn't changed anything for the world because I love my daughter soooooo much but the father and I are still together, which is rare in young pregnancy's, and we're getting married..we did everything backwards..lol. But really you are extremely too young to be thinking of having a baby and to be sexually active. Tell your mom ASAP what you are thinking and tell her you are asking for help! But start off telling her that you need her support in any decision. At first, yes, your mom will freak out but let her soak it in and she'll come around as long as she hears you actually say you are coming to her in need of help. Good Luck!

Answer 10

It is nice that you are beginning to develop a maternal instinct but that is NOT enough. How would you support a child right now? You have not finished school. How could you even pretend to teach the child all it needs to know? Put a few years on yourself, get an education and a good paying job and a husband who loves you and then you might be ready to start a baby.

Answer 11

Go get a puppy and take care of it, I'm sorry kid but you can't even spell, you need to finish school and get a man that loves you, after you get married then you ca worry about having a kid. Do you like having friends? Do you being able to go out? Do you want to have to take a baby with you everywhere you go? Do you want to get up 3-5 times a night to feed the baby? Spend ALL your money on food, diapers, clothes, toys, wipes, and all the other things that you need for a baby? Do you want to get a job at the age of 14 and drop out of school and spend the rest of your life working at McDonald's? Your better off just getting a puppy and taking care of that.