My ex girlfriend and I broke up a few months back but still are good friends. Sometimes make out on nights when we go out, but sometimes just cuddle and stuff. Anyways, I am not dating anyone else and nor is she that I am aware. So, we really aren't together nor dating, just having fun I guess.
This guy I know from one of my classes is friends with her and he messaged me today asking if I was dating her or not. Which, is kind of weird. She went to a party with a few friends a few days ago and wanted me to go but I could not. I saw and realized the guy mentioned above was there and she never told me when I asked who went.
Not that I am jealous, well, a little but mainly just curious. Do I sense something coming on with these two? Is she fooling around with both of us? I still like her, but I am not sure I want to date/get back together with her yet. What do I tell this guy? We are just friends or?
2007-04-23 06:27:05 · 9 answers · asked by Dingdingdong 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your either with her or your not!! You cant have your cake and eat it too!! Your keeping her neat because if you cant have her no one can right?! Thats not fair and very selfish!! Be with her or dont! Dont play childish games! Its not right!
2007-04-23 06:31:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth man! The truth will set you free... and is always the best policy... What do you think is the worst that could happen if you told the truth? On the other hand, if your don't, she will do just that and use you both... which is the last thing you should want for her if you care at all... That's simple and that's all. Tell him the truth... All questions deserve no less... and if she and he already did anything, at least it might come out in the open now rather than later... and maybe much later... as I know this person who is doing the very same thing and it is just awful... the ex seems to be the only one who doesn't know as she is still telling him how much she loves him... and all the while is having "the best sex of her life with another!" which is just disgusting! No??? The truth is the best policy... The day anyone asks me, I will tell the truth... even if it means disappointing the ex who thinks the ex still loves him... Since two wrongs don't make a right, and it isn't really my business what they do with themselves, I am not at liberty to discuss their affairs which by the way, was revealed to me quite accidentally and is still none of my business... but you, it's a different story but you know as well as I do that whoever she sleeps with from now on is just like you were sleeping with them to and all others they sleep with as well... etc., etc., etc., and you might like to protect yourself... or don't you think about that??? I know I would... but then again, I wouldn't sleep with someone unless I was married to them... so it's your choice!
2007-04-23 13:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by Teri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever dude clearly yall are just bang buddies. Are you jealous that hes gonna get with her or that ur losing ur peice. If u have feelings for her more than just butt then admit it and tell her. If not leave her alone, let her make her choice. u need to stop saying u like her but ur not sure if u want her. Its either one or the other make ur decision before u luck out anyway.
2007-04-23 13:34:11 · answer #3 · answered by va0ghost0hunter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants to ask her out. I don't think anything has happened between them, yet. But he's definately interested and trying not to step on your toes. I think you need to talk to your ex. Sounds like you either want to be with her or you don't want to be with her but you don't want anyone else to be either. Either way, have the conversation now. Sooner or later you'll meet someone else too. What will you do then?
2007-04-23 13:37:44 · answer #4 · answered by assunta81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should first talk to her and explain all your feelings and if u feel jealous just talk to the guy and tell him that you do like her and that you may go back. I Believe that you really like her so why dont u just go back with her. you dont lose anything by going back. I was once in your shoes.
2007-04-23 13:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by Keyla la Cabagge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well like you said..you are just friends basically..who have "fun " together. You're not actually dating each other.......but yes, i can see how you would be feeling right about now...wondering what's going on.
Perhaps her and he hit it off and are wanting to explore that....You need to back off since you're still not sure if you want to get back together with her..and allow her to have open options. You can't have your cake and eat it too* You're just friends* BEST WISHES*
2007-04-23 13:31:53 · answer #6 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all what was the dude doing massaging you. since ya broke up, get over her and dont care who she go out with next. shes single, its not that she went out with both of ya at the same time
2007-04-23 13:31:01 · answer #7 · answered by Chi Town Playa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you still have feelings for fer. friends with benefits is hard because you have so many emotions. clear the air tell her how you feel and if want to be friends empahize you are just friends, if you want more again tell her
2007-04-23 13:33:26 · answer #8 · answered by doll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you are friends with benfits you are free to see who you want and so is she but sometimes you hock up and fool around then you will be honest with the guy and he can decide for himself if this is something he wants to do
2007-04-23 13:31:35 · answer #9 · answered by sweetone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋