I really care about this guy that I was / am / supposedly dating for the past 1.5mos. He told me that if he was to lose interest, he would tell me upfront, but he hasn't. Spent a weekend together and since then the calls have been less and less. BUT, he called me 4 days ago to say that he isn't ignoring me, but that he is busy. I know he has had a previous heavy problem with drugs and alcohol, so I texted him to say that if he isn't interested to let me know because I am really worried. I still haven't heard from him. I am torn bc he has never been shy of any of his words, but I am not hearing from him AT ALL. Should I continue calling/texting or just say F*** it?
2007-04-23 06:03:47 · 24 answers · asked by Dion the Wonderful 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am a guy and if I wanted to call you, I would. There are other guys out there. Remember that to make a relationship happy, you both have to want it. F*** it.
2007-04-23 07:33:55 · answer #1 · answered by byroneann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, okay, okay. Calm down. If he's had a past with alcohol or drugs, he might just forget to call you from it. Not that it's really that much better than him not telling you that he's not interested anymore. Most of the time when a guy tells me he's busy, he means "I'm with another girl right now! Hang up and leave me alone for the next hour or so!"
My opinion is find him in unexpected times and places to see what he's doing.
It might make you feel guilty for spying- but i honestly believe it's better to know if he's lien to you or not.
Hope this all goes well for you- and stop calling so much, maybe that's making things worse.
2007-04-23 13:12:29 · answer #2 · answered by Ðarkrose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*I am dealing with the same situation right now, and I've pretty much threw my hands up and said fu** it.
*Because I am so sick of being nice to this guy and caring, and then he turns around and acts like an arrogant jerk for absolutely no reason to me? He (like your guy) has been calling me less and less, and I never get to see him because he's always conveniently busy.
*OH and get this....HE was the one who labeled us as boyfriend and girlfriend, and if I am supposed to be his girlfriend then why is he treating me like some random chick?
~haha...aww...sometimes I just want to get away to get away. I hate all this nonsense with guys....it's getting old.
~Anyways yeah I would say just do what I am doing right now and let this guy go do his own thing, and ignore him and see if he calls you. Because if you "ignore" him, then he'll start to wonder why you aren't calling him anymore and he will get a little worried and give you a call to check on you.
.So I'd just leave him alone, and let him act like a fool...and if he calls you...then you know he cares...and if not. Well then fu** him....at least that is my view on it.
.He's not worth your time or emotions...if he makes you feel that way. You can do better than him. Trust me.
2007-04-23 13:12:16 · answer #3 · answered by Shut your mouth when u tlk to me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he cared about you, he would call. Period. I know it hurts, but unless he is in the hospital, or paralyzed and can't reach you, then, there is no excuse. And, btw, a person with a drug problem is not remotely what you should be involved in. Care a lot more about yourself and who you get involved with. Always look at a person's current actions. Not past words or actions. It doesn't matter what he has done in the past. What is his behavior telling you now? That is always what you should look at. Good luck.
2007-04-23 13:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by Rogue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not only should you never call him again, but you should not allow HIM to call you again! You said he's into drugs, that's reason alone to drop him. Drugs are a complete NO NO! And you never want to end up with someone like that, because they will bring your world down! Loose his phone number and never look back. He's not good enough for you.
2007-04-23 13:12:41 · answer #5 · answered by Engage Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that its not the drug abuse that has him acting the way he do? Either way be the strong person that you are and take a step back and observe the situaction. Yes everybody deserves a second chance, but at what expense? Your happiness?
2007-04-23 13:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by zyliala 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to yourself, and you will find the answer on if you should call him or not.
You said he told you he was busy. You called him, you told him what you had to say, now the ball is in his court.
If you keep calling him, you will just annoy him. Let him call you.
Don't appear as if it is the end of the world if he doesn't call you.......
Good luck,
Stevo.
2007-04-23 13:14:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on. If you are dating someone and really into them, you would be talking every day. That isn't happening.
Find out what happened, just for your own sake. But he clearly has communication issues.
2007-04-23 13:08:21 · answer #8 · answered by ciberpunk1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time. Contrary to what many women seem to believe, having a man around is not the be all and end all of existence.
2007-04-23 13:47:20 · answer #9 · answered by MARS 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that when I like someone I call them and find out exactly how they feel and if there feelings aren't the same then move on
2007-04-23 13:14:40 · answer #10 · answered by Miss.Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋