On June 12, 2005, my 2 month old son died. He had previously been seen at the local ER and by his physician the next day, and we were told he was okay. Twelve days after, my husband was sleeping with him on the couch after he woke for a feeding. About three hours later my husband awoke to find him not breathing. He could not be revived, and was found to have died from RSV. We loved our son very much and planned to make a wonderful life for him. We, as parents, did everything we believed was required to be a parent. So my question for the masses is...
Why would God allow something like to this to happen? It has taken a huge toll on his family and the ones who loved him. Why allow one to have a baby, just to rip him away.
Also, for the religious ones, do you believe when you are born that God already has your life plan set for you? Does he already know the grief that will come to you through your journey?
2007-04-23 05:34:06 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The Bible says that he creates joy and woe....
2007-04-23 05:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by Eleventy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is the main problem, really, with theism - simply that it makes people look at things like personal tragedy from the wrong perspective.
Why does an all-powerful, beneficent God allow bad things to happen to good people? The "answer" from theists is usually that it's a "test." Also that "evil" in the world is the fault of man, not God - hence the theological gymnastics of "The Fall" and "Original Sin" - anything to take the blame off of the Perfect Being we've invented to make ourselves feel better about our own imperfections!
Against this the critic can always argue that this "test" is evidently unnecessary, that a truly beneficent God would not impose pain and suffering on us simply to see how we fare, because in His omniscience He already knows how we'll fare. If this life is merely a preparation for the REAL life, it begs the question - why not just get right to the point? The theist reply is that it's a "mystery" only God can understand - but I can't blame anybody for being dissatisfied with this class of answer.
It seems much healthier and saner to look at the facts sans superstition. Please accept my sincere condolences for your son's death. But God didn't "take him away." It's sad that people have created God in order to allay their fear of pain and death; and then when pain and death occur nonetheless, they have to make excuses for God to maintain the theory.
All of this is NOT necessarily to argue against the existence of a "Supreme Being," not to discount the importance of spirituality in our lives; but simply to discard certain primitive concepts of God which are contrary to the most obvious facts of life.
2007-04-23 05:56:05 · answer #2 · answered by jonjon418 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When a friend of mine died last January, I raised those questions in my mind. I have yet to find a concrete answer(s) for this/these questions, but I have got a few incites. One of my friends said that "there's a thing called free will, God doesn't 'take' anyone from anywhere. Deaths have to do with choices. Everything that happens is because of a choice that someone made. God is omnipotent and omniscient, not an asshole."
Life is something that comes and goes, whether we like it or not. Death is an inevitability for everyone, regardless of age.
2007-04-23 06:02:41 · answer #3 · answered by annefrank05 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
God is love.
Heaven is being in the presence of God.
Hell is being AWAY from God.
What you're feeling is love being taken away from you. You're feeling God being taken away from you. Your baby was a gift from God. You created it from the divine kiss you shared within your marital vows. Yes, it hurts when love is taken away for this is a miniature glimpse of what hell truly is.
God is love, so God isn't letting this happen to you without a path for you and your husband to find love again. It's God's plan and God's will. Blooming out of this tragedy, God may have a special mission for you and your husband to do that only this experience can prepair you for. First, you must let go of your anger and sadness. You can CHOOSE to stay here (dispair), or struggle with every fiber of your being to find a way back into peace and love.
The short time you had with your child was a gift above all. Some gifts are spectacular like a flower blooming in spring. While other gifts last as long as a rock. In both, they should be cherished for the love they contained.
"Blessed are those who grieve for they will be comforted" (Beatitudes). Please talk with a Priest, Minister, Pastor, Rabi, or which ever spiritual leader to find comfort instead of isolating you from God.
2007-04-23 05:51:04 · answer #4 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Everything in life is a growing experience. You are going through some things that only you can truly understand. No one on this planet can ever truly know what you and your family are going through. We learn and grow through personal experience. Try to treasure the small time that you had together. In my belief we all have chosen our life path before being born. We even choose our parents and our own death. The people we interact with are souls that we agreed to work with in this life. From my belief I would thank the child for his life and also for the chance to learn from this lesson.
Love & Light
Sharon
One Planet = One People
2007-04-23 05:45:58 · answer #5 · answered by Soul 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Aweful and miserable things happen to people in this world. Technically, it's not God, since God is imaginary. But according to the Bible, God is responsible for everything because he had prior knowledge, set it into motion, and he allows everything to happen. It's a strange idea that someone who created and controls all this is benevolent. Just don't know where that idea could have come from. Sorry for you loss, I can't imagine.
2007-04-23 05:45:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, God is not responsible for the loss of your son. The Bible clearly states that God is Love. Therefore, if God loves us, why would he cause us pain? You did nothing wrong. The Bible also sais that "the world is laying in the power of the wicked one". The wicked one is the Devil who DOES cause pain and suffering, but twists things to make it look like God is responsible. I am sorry for your loss... please do not lose faith in God's love and greatness.
2007-04-23 05:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by J.J. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow. Sorry for your loss.
That said, I shall keep my mouth shut as to what I feel God is responsible for...
However, as the alleged Creator of ALL, there is no other entity that can be responsible...
2007-04-23 05:42:54 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry for your loss.
but you have to remember that everything happens for a reason, and everything happens because of something else. perhaps you needed to feel the pain of losing a child for a higher purpose later on in life?
2007-04-23 05:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
The devil has come to kill to steal and destroy, Jesus has come that we will have life and that more abundantly. God loved your child and shouldn't be blamed for his death.
2007-04-23 05:53:00 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋