hey i love my boyfriend and he likes virgins the fact that im not a virgin just turns him of he also loves me and he has proven it .heres the deal guys like my boyfriend like to have sex vith virgins and i am not a virgin so he sugjested for me to have an operation were they put a skin in my vagina and i become a virgin again should i reely do it?i so wanna have sex with him he said he also wants to but he reely wants to de-verginate me
2007-04-23 05:11:43 · 62 answers · asked by betty d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off, you sound 12. Don't have sex.
Second, he doesn't love you if he can't except you for who you are.
Third, you cannot become a virgin again. If you have been penetrated by a man's penis, you aren't a virgin anymore. Sorry, it's done, it's overwith, move on with life. There's no going back.
So, my advice? No sex. You are obviously young and immature and easily controlled apparently.
Also, he has proven he doesn't love you.
2007-04-23 05:15:25 · answer #1 · answered by ♦ Tiff ♦ 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
The question is, is he a virgin?
Why should he want you to be a virgin if he isnt? If he really, really loves you he would have sex with you whether you are a vigin or not.
If you think you should do it to please him then do it but i still think he doesnt loves you enough if he does then the best way to prove it is to take you as you are,nothing more or less, everyone deserves the best.
Then what happens when you go through the operation and you are a virgin again and he breaks your new viginity will he still be with you or you keep on having the operation everytime he wants to have sex or he will move on to the next virgin in town?!
Think hard before you do anything that my ruin your pride forever.
My sister went through what your going through and she is so *** now, not happy at all. Maybe you wont be like her or maybe you will.
Keep thinking you still have other people who love you, dont you?
Am 17 but i've seen it.
All the best
Kay
2007-04-23 05:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by kay 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK, that's just sick!! Here's the problem with your boyfriend- he needs to realize that even if you were a virgin, once he had sex with you, guess what? You wouldn't be a virgin anymore! Then what? Would he then dump you and go off in search of other "unexplored territory?" I question his level of commitment to this relationship. Secondly, no man has a right to ask a woman to undergo an extremely painful and unnecessary operation that I don't even think is legal anymore. Thirdly, I'm quite sure he wasn't even going to offer to pay for this painful, illegal surgery. I think you need to dump this guy and find someone who celebrates you for all that you are. Don't let this guy-or anyone else-ever make you feel ashamed of your non-virgin status. And tell this loser to go hang out with nuns if he just wants to be surrounded with virgins all day long.
2007-04-23 05:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Grow up girl! Your boyfriend sounds like he just likes to have sex with young girls. How old is he anyway? You might want to think about the fact this fetish could really be a sign of pedophilism! How he likes to "de-virginize" girls hints that he enjoys sex with YOUNG girls. That's sick! No surgery! Your too young to be having sex much less surgery to re-create the virginal experience! Give me a break! If he isn't happy with you the way you are then he will never be happy with you no matter what you do, he will always find an excuse!
2007-04-23 05:19:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, but even if a doctor could put something back, it won't make you a virgin again. If this guy don't like you for who you are, why would you want to be with him? He will never be happy if that is all he is interested in. Having sex is about love, not being a virgin.
2007-04-23 05:24:10 · answer #5 · answered by Cato 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Having that operation wouldn't make you a virgin again. Once you lose your virginity it is gone for good. Your bf is an idiot if he thinks like that & doesn't like that you're not a virgin. That's his issue, not yours. You shouldn't have to change yourself or any part of your body just to please him. If he likes to have sex w/ virgins cause of the tightness factor then there's something you can do about that to make it feel like that. You can actually do strengthening exercises for the muscles in that area. They're called Kegels I believe. You know how you can be going pee & squeeze the muscles to stop it?? Just keep doing squeezing exercises like that at any time & eventually you will have strong, tight muscles there. You can also conciously squeeze them during sex & trust me from personal experience, the guy feels it & loves it.
2007-04-23 05:21:11 · answer #6 · answered by §uper ®ose 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In Europe, they do have hymen repair and as long you never gave birth, it can be done, but it is some what expensive about 500-1500. Why go though all that when you and buy a cream that will tighten the walls of you uterus for about 5.00 dollars
But to answer your question, No, not if you want to just have sex, but if you want to repair it before the marriage for the honeymoon, I can see that, but not just for sex, get the cream instead.
2007-04-23 05:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is just using you for his own personal fantasy .Does this mean he can only use you once? Is he planning on paying for the operation? If he loves virgins know how about when he's really old were is he gonna find 70 year old virgins?
2007-04-23 05:22:46 · answer #8 · answered by nicole 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This gets me so mad. We're in the same boat. Its not a big deal, but U really need to fix this man up. He's looney! Have him pay for the operation, he'll regret it. I remember when i got disvirginized, it was unpleasant, he was having lots of pain. Not the best experience to be the first time :(
Men are idiots.
2007-04-23 05:16:12 · answer #9 · answered by Junia Z 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why doesn't he have an operation? Why should you alter yourself for someone else. He needs to get over himself. So how many virgins has he had? I could say a lot of ugly things here, but you may love him, but he does not love you.
2007-04-23 05:15:36 · answer #10 · answered by stormzsecret 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋