I Should Dump His ***?

Question

I recently found out that my bf had sex with a girl a couple of weeks who's best friend is my best friends cousin. He called the girl up at 3 in the morning went to have sex with her with no protection and she gave him an STD which he in turn gave to me. I don't quite know how to confront him about it.

Should I tell him that I know and put him out of my apartment because most of his stuff is there or should I talk it out with him and find out why he would do something so stupid. I know this is someone he's been friends with and that they just slept together this one time but how can I trust him, now? What should I do?

Answer 1

I have to say upfront that I don't know the full details of your relationship or the one with the other person or about the STD - so my best advice is to confront him about the STD for starters. I am going to ask that you be very careful in confronting about the other girl for now (are you positive that she is where he got it? and not knowing about you or the STD - are you positive you got it from him?), but you definitely know you got the STD. You can start it off by telling him that you went to the doctors and they told you you have the STD - and that he should get checked to be safe. Depending on the disease and how much of a man he really is, he will probably come clean with you then and there - if he doesn't, then while the test is going on - ask the doctor how contagious is the disease and in what ways you can contract it (that should get him to talk to you about it, but may be when you two are alone).
If this guy really loved you, he wouldn't have cheated, let alone give you the disease. The best way to answer your question of how you can trust him: if you asked it, then you already know the answer. I personally would pack his junk up. If you think you can trust him, or want to keep him in your life - be careful, because if it took one night of lusting to do this, he may have done it somewhere else already before - and if he got away with it and kept you - what is to stop him from doing it again. He lost his love and respect for you - find out why and make him earn your love and respect back.