I've known this guy for around a year and know him really well. Me and my family met him on holiday last Summer and ever since we've talked on MSN and stuff. We have so much in common and he is the NICEST PERSON I have ever met in my whole entire life. He is so sweet, caring, sensitive, polite, clever, good looking and just a genuine, humble and down to earth guy. There aren't many like that. I didn't think I would EVER meet somebody like that.
The thing is, the ages 16-23 aren't working. I told him how I feel and he says that he sees me as a sister and that I'm still young and stuff. He said maybe one day it could work.
I think about him 24/7, specially at night I can lie awake thinking about him. I miss seeing him so much, and when I talk about him or talk to him I get really excited. Were really good friends at the moment me and my family are going to see him in August.
How do I get over him..? I don't even know if I want to get over him?
Help.
Thank you
2007-04-23 04:54:14 · 14 answers · asked by Sahra 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My sister is 19 her boyfriend is 28 and there is 10 years between my parents.
2007-04-23 04:59:53 · update #1
I don't understand why I'm immature? I'm actually quite mature. You can't say I'm immature, just from reading my question!
I understand him so much and he understands me. Also, I didn't say "I LOVE YOU" I just said "I think your special..." etc..and that age is just a number.
2007-04-23 05:06:55 · update #2
Its not a crush, I've felt this way for about 8 months now. I've tried to hard to feel differently or be distracted on to somebody else. I don't like guys my age, a lot of them are immature. He is all I could ever ask for.
2007-04-23 05:09:24 · update #3
he`s respecting you for your age, think you should carry on as you are, wait a few more months, that wont kill you will it, oh - say how you feel now to him and ask that you review things a little later, test the water yes, see what becomes of it then...
2007-04-23 05:17:03 · answer #1 · answered by juejua 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you have nothing to get over - you haven't had a relationship with him!
There is too much of an age difference at the moment and you'd have to be at least into your 20's before the age difference would begin to close.
Instead, enjoy what you have and use him as a yard stick to measure your future relationships. Make sure that any man you meet treats you as well as he does!
but don't think he will want a relationship with you in August. He won't. Just have fun as you are and don't press for more! You might spoil a perfectly good friendship. And what would you gain?
2007-04-23 12:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by kiku 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So many people say age is just a number, and normally they are right. There is a point when age doesn't matter. But you are still a minor, and that is a big problem for him. I hate to say it and you probably won't want to hear it, but it may just be a crush. You see this guy who is all these great things, but you may not be seeing his faults and believe me he's got them because no one is perfect. You admire him because he's older and you see him as wiser, and more sophisticated. There is no right way to get over someone. You just need to go on with your life. Concentrate on your friends, school, any other activities you do for school, work, or whatever. Date other guys your age, and just be a normal high-schooler. Maybe when you reach 18, and are legal for this other guy, if he wants to hook up then great. That's not to say it's gonna happen that way, but just give it time. Good luck.
2007-04-23 12:06:14 · answer #3 · answered by spicy_salsa69 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have only known him in person for a short while. Your memory of your actual time together is selective (as are all memories) - you remember him in a more fond light than you actually felt at the time. This has given you an idealised view of him in your mind.
You have spoken to him on MSN "and stuff". These communication technologies are poor - they only give you a very small insight into the actual person. You have filled in all the gaps with your own imagination based on your idealised view of him.
Find a real boyfriend - you'll soon get over him..
2007-04-23 12:00:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well I can understand that he thinks the ages don't work. You are jail bait to him, and no 23 year old guy wants to wait two years for something that might not happen. You seem immature for your age on top of that, no guy is as perfect as you make him out to be. Sorry but that is a fact, that you don't understand it doesn't speak well of you. You need to get over him, since he is hooking up with other women (something you are not at this age). Don't wait for something that isn't going to happen.
2007-04-23 12:00:47 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"the NICEST PERSON I have ever met in my whole entire life."
You are young still! How many guys have you actually met in this text? Probably not many. The age thing is quite a "thing". And if he says he looks at you like a younger sis then you need to pine for him in your own thoughts and fantasies. Continue to talk and such but drop the relationship thoughts for now and see how things transpire.
2007-04-23 12:02:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think he feels the same way about you
age is just a number, im 21 my fiancee is 33 and we have a beautiful baby boy so i dont think age is the issue
he even said it himself he see's you as his little sister
so dont hang on to the fact that he said one day it could work
2007-04-23 12:33:59 · answer #7 · answered by Sim 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah,I really understand what u sayin! it happend 2 me as well but couldnt do anything,Its not about age It is about he doesnt feel the same or he doesnt want you as a gf. U can not make him to love U.I loved sum guys in ma life 2 , I was crazy of them,lyke 3 years ago Or even now im 17, i know that i have to go 4 another1, who loves me... I know its hard but you should think about some1 else nw...time makes everythinh betta ...
Your friend~sarah
2007-04-23 12:14:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to get over him... You right now are just young... WHY don't you give it a few years... But rememeber not to put ALL your eggs in one basket... Remember if you are really good friends keep it like that for a while... Then see what heppens in a few years...
2007-04-23 11:58:52 · answer #9 · answered by Who knows 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you have is obsession. It is common for girls your age. If I were you I would suggest making an effort to not think about him so much. Just so you are not torturing yourself. You are young and there will be other boys...MANY others that will be more suited for you. You'll see.
2007-04-23 12:03:49 · answer #10 · answered by Cuppycake♥ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋