Ok, here's the break down. Currently I am living w/ my boyfriend at his parents' house. We always help w/ groceries and offer to help w/ rent because his parents are constantly struggling for money. It bugs me because they spend money on things like beer and other things that they don't really need, and then they bicker about being broke. We help whenever they need it. However, around this time last year they threatened to kick us out many times for no reason at all. We got sick of it and moved out. We ended up moving back in a few months later due to a crisis at our apartment. Everything seemed fine until this past weekend when my boyfriend's sister told us that his parents have been saying the same old things. Yesterday, his parents apologized to both of us and said that they just said those things cuz they were drunk and they are having a hard time right now, and they just wanted to make somebody else's life miserable. But why us?! We have done nothing but try to help!
2007-04-23 04:49:21 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My boyfriend and I want to get out of there so bad but we do not have enough money saved up yet. We are just trying to keep everything cool until we do. Are there any suggestions out there? Can anyone give me some comforting advice. These people have serious issues that I can't deal with anymore. My love for my boyfriend is the only reason I put up with this crap. I am just so fed up with this, and he is too. We are sick of being the target in the house for drama. Another thing that sucks is it is hard for us to save money when we are always trying to contribute money for rent and other things, and we have our own bills to pay. I wish his parents would grow up and stop wasting their money on wasteful things. Obviously they are alcoholics, and that is a huge factor to all of this.
2007-04-23 04:53:42 · update #1
I thought we might have over stayed our welcome but his mom cried herself to sleep every night when we moved out before and she told us she doesn't want us to go because of them.
2007-04-23 05:03:26 · update #2
We have tried living w/ friends but the one friend just had a baby and has no room for us. We are in a rut at this point and it is going to take time to get outta there. Once we save up enough money for a security depost we should be fine. But until then how can we keep the drama level down. We have enough stress and we don't need them taking theirs out on us.
2007-04-23 05:05:25 · update #3
Yall aren't really understanding here and there is now way to explain it. I am only 18. I can live w/ my parents but they live a ways away and my boyfriend needs me close. I agree this situation isn't healthy, and know that we are trying to get out of there, but being this young makes it hard to find an affordable place. I really just wanted some comforting advice but I am obviously looking in the wrong place. Thanks anyway.
2007-04-23 05:35:25 · update #4
Remind yourselves you moved out once and you can do it again. And the sooner the better.
2007-04-23 05:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to grow up and face the facts.
Your boyfriend's parents are alcoholics. They have their own problems and it has nothing to do with you or their son. You cannot "fix" them. Just push their situation out of your mind.
You are not old enough to have a live in relationship with a guy. I am sorry, you should be living at home and attending school. Or you should be living in a dorm some where attending school. This relationship with this guy is not going to last and you are wasting valuable portions of your life with him.
Years from now you will look back on this situation and ask,"WHY didn't someone stop me?"
Where are your parents in all this mess? Get out and run as fast as you can, get an education so you can support yourself.
EDIT NOTE: You mention that you want "Comforting advice". There is no such thing in your situation and I think you are aware of that. You need to get out before something bad happens. You are such a child.
2007-04-23 14:28:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like money is very tight, so why not apply for low income houseing, food stamps.
You don't say how old you are.
Yes, their drinking is a bad habit, but it's their habit and it's their home.
Can't you go back and leave with your family? At least while you wait for a low income apartment or section 8 house to become available?
Try not being at the house much would cut down the stress. Get more than 1 job, so your never there except to sleep.
2007-04-23 12:19:52 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont' understand what type of "parents" would let their son's girlfriend move into their home?
drunks, i guess?
this type of situation isn't very healthy, and it's a set up for big problems.
you and your boyfriend DO need to get your own place....
yes, you've tried to help, but you can't "help" other adults -- they have to help themselves.
take care.
2007-04-23 12:22:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about house sharing with another couple.
2007-04-23 11:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by sjbcurry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to get your own place. they may not say anything out right but i think they've had enough company.
2007-04-23 11:55:10 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋