is it necessary to have a flower girl/ring bearer?

Question

I really want a nice traditional wedding, but with my own touches. we are having a friday night evening wedding outside. I was just wondering if it would be ok to not have children in the wedding. my fiance and I have a few cousins with small children but none we are really close to. also, any ideas on how to cut costs would be lovely as well. thank you!!!

Answer 1

no it is not nessisary to have flower girls at your wedding and the best way to cut downon costs is to do the catering for the wedding feast your self or to get a family member to do it for you instead of using wedding planners as they often cost you a small fortune

Answer 2

The flower girl,ring bearer, candle bearers, train carrier - these are all nice touches but not a necessary one. A really simple wedding with just the 2 witnesses and a parent to give the bride is far more elegant in my belief the rest is just window dressing and will not be missed.
To cut costs cut the "extras" like a sit down dinner instead opt for a buffet (cut service costs by half) only serve beer wine and soda (no hard liquor and save 50% off your bar tab). You could also have a DJ instead of a band or singer (difference of $500 or $3000+). Have a friend Videotape the ceremony and set up a camera on a tripod at the reception you will get great and candid shots. Have cameras on the table again you will get great pictures and some unexpected moments.There are loads of guides on keeping costs down and the experience up. My wedding budget was tight and I had a pasta buffet, DJ, a nice hall at a local Country Club (many have great rates and you don't have to be a member - bonus they had the kitchen staff and it was included in the venue quote). If you haven't bought your gown yet look at EBay and consider the Warehouse stores I got my gown from a McClintock outlet store and paid 1/3 of the retail price and it was my little secret. Just make a list of what you really want and stick to it don't let other people tell you what you need to have it's your day enjoy it your way! Good Luck!

Answer 3

That is totally fine- it is your wedding, so you should do whatever you want to do. You said you're not particularly close to any of the small children in your extended family, so there would probably be no hard feelings if you left the flower girl and ring bearer out of the deal. Just have the best man carry the rings in his pocket, and if you still want flower petals strewn everywhere, maybe your bridesmaids could throw some petals instead of carrying bouquets. As for cutting costs, my first thought is to try to have your wedding in a garden or some other location where flowers are already there, so you don't have to buy any flowers to decorate with. Also, instead of having a clergy member officiate at the wedding, it is actually a lot cheaper, and in some cases more meaningful, to have one of your good friends or a family member ordained online to perform the ceremony. I don't know about other states, but here in Colorado, it is perfectly legal to even perform the ceremony yourselves with no officiant, and a marriage license only costs like $40. Compare this to the typical $500 fee a minister, rabbi, priest, or other officiant tends to charge, and it is a real bargain. It is also a very special touch if you're more spiritual than religious. I intend to have a friend of mine perform the ceremony when it's my turn. Good luck!!

Answer 4

No, you do not need to have a flower girl/ring bearer especially if there are no children in your family that you are close to. My fiancee and I are not having children in our wedding for that reason.

There are a lot of ways to cut costs. You can try to cut down your guest list (not always easy I know). If you plan on having both a videographer and photographer, it is sometimes cheaper to find a company that does both. If you have not found a reception site yet, try looking for one that includes things that would normally be little added expenses (which end up becoming one big expense). For example, the price for the reception site I have chosen includes a five hour open bar, the cake, chair covers and flower centerpieces. Hope this helps! Good luck and congrats!

Answer 5

Of course you don't need a flower girl or a ring bearer. It is your wedding and you can do it how ever you want. My cousin had a wedding in September, and it was at the beach and she didn't have a flower girl or a ring bearer. I really don't know how to cut cost, but you don't need to have a flower girl or a ring bearer.

Answer 6

We're not having a flower girl or a ring bearer. It's okay not to! I'm like you....it's going to be somewhat traditional, but with our touches to it. It's a very small wedding, and we decided that a ring bearer/flower girl would be overkill for the event we're having.

Answer 7

You don't need them - but they are too cute, I love watching them come down the isle.

Depending on your relationships w/ your friends/family and their talents. Ask them personally (don't do it in the invitation or mass email) if they would do/perform/provide at the wedding instead of giving you a gift:
Sing
Cater (you provide the ingredients)
Photograph
Do alterations
Create the invitations (you provide the paper/envelopes)
Provide the table settings/decorations
DJ (they must have the equipment or experience)

You may not get as many gifts but the total cost of the wedding will be cut!

Answer 8

It`s your wedding you can do what ever you want you do not need to have a flower girl or ring bear that is all up to you. As far as cost goes you make a lot of the things for tables and do your own flower arrangements.It going to be your special day and you will be as happy as ever weather you spend a lot or a little on it.Good Luck with your plans..

Answer 9

Its fine if you don't want to have a ring bearer or flower girl. Sometimes, they don't want to do it anyway and they cry or do something to mess up the wedding. I didn't have any at my wedding and never regretted that decision one bit.

Answer 10

No. You don't need to put children into your ceremony. You don't even need a large amount of attendants, etc.

You can have family and friends bring food instead of catering. If you can find someone who would do your cake cheaper, and someone who will do the pictures cheaper, that's a bonus. A DJ who provides music is cheaper than a live band, etc.

Ask your friends and family to come up with ideas to save a bit of money. I'm sure they will have lots of good ideas.