Would it humiliate and anger you to be slapped by your best friend or spouse? Would you feel hurt?

Question

Now imagine how your children feel the next time you decide to spank them.

Answer 1

Spanking is just a way for lazy parents to vent their emotions without communicating with their children their feelings and attitudes about their child's behaviour.

It's denigrates the role of the parent and humiliates the child.
The worst is when the parent deliberately does this in front of the child's friend(s) or in a public setting.

Showing 'who's boss' by spanking in fact does the opposite. It shows who is more out of control.

This can also be said about discipline the Alec Baldwin way.

Answer 2

Nice baited question, I dig it. First off, you should never, EVER spank your child with your hands. I am a father of two daughters. Your hands should always be symbols of love for your children, and they should never shy away from them when you reach out.
That's why the good book says spare the ROD, spoil the child.

And there is a direct connection between the butt and the brain. Peace.

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Answer 3

This is a very interesting question. I know a woman who no longer speaks to or has seen her parents. This is over the past 12 years. They are very violent and very demented as in dementia.

Before, during and after the pregnancy of her son she tried to speak with her parents about not disciplining her child because they are not wise to the proper ways of discipline but use very physically and emotionally abusive tactics in their discipline. They refused to listen and as a result she has made the decision to walk away from them.

Since this time has passed, she has learned that people from congregations of her faith are more family than was her 1st family. They are only related to her by blood and there is nothing else.

Never abuse your children because they grow up and the memories cannot be erased. If it were not for her faith and seeing the true works of God and his loving organization, she could become just as her blood parents, or even as the insane one. She chose to look to God for guidance and not the world for revenge.

Answer 4

Know the difference between Beat and Spank because there is a major difference....

A spanking is done to help the child understand his or her consequences..

I was spanked I was not injured my brothers laughed when they got a spanking but acted like they were crying so my mom wou;ld stop that's how much it physcially hurt..

It's more of the anticipation of a spanking that the act that really matters.

Answer 5

Hitting your children only does more harm then good as they are not gonna understand why you're hitting them in the first place. The best thing to do with children is to talk with them and explain to them that they shouldn't do certain things as it's not nice to do certain things. Now depending on how old they are they might or might not understand what it is that you're telling them. Anyway if they are old enough to understand what's going on then simply punish them and explain to them why they are being punished so that they understand you even better. But hitting a child should be the absolute last resort.

Answer 6

Actually, I have been slapped by my spouse, and pushed into walls, and had doors kicked in, and fingerprints on my arm for a week. I was not hurt. I was incredibly red-hot angry. The police have been at our residence 3 times.

I've never spanked a child tho. And neither has he. Weird, huh?

Answer 7

I've been physically corrected as a child and I'm nowhere near traumatized. To the contrary, my parents' discipline showed me the right things to do.

Would it humiliate you if your wife/husband slapped you because you cheated on him/her. Would it humiliate you if you lost your job because your insulted your boss?

The answer is no, you deserve it. The same is true for children, they know what they did was bad and that they deserve a punishment.

Answer 8

It would humiliate me even more if somebody saw I needed something as stupid as spanking to raise a kid.

Any parent that can't teach their kids right from wrong by simply using words, analogies, jokes, sometimes even harsh words is not fit to be a parent.

Kids are just like human beings, oddly enough. You can actually simply talk to them.

I even believe in education over punishment. It's more important to explain my kids what they did wrong and why, than to simply send them to their rooms or whatever.

Answer 9

I am a Muslim and I don't get beatings nor is it permissible in Islam for the man to beat his wife.

Anyways, to your question.

I received beatings as a child and it didn't teach me to do violence or anything like that. I don't hate my parents for spanking me.

My parents didn't spank me the first time I did anything bad.
They gave us the chance to stop many times and when it didn't work then I was spanked.


I don't hold any grudges to my parents for doing this to me.

Edit:
My parents used other methods such as time out and grounding.

Answer 10

An interesting point of view, but personal feelings aside I'm afraid it's just not that easy.

And many people wouldn't have a problem with their spouse spanking them.