So here is the deal. I met this one girl online and I really am starting to like her and I think she really is starting to like me. Problem is she kinda has a live-in boyfriend atm, is still in school, and is like 2800 miles away >.>. I want her to get out of school right now, she needs to do that. I also do not want to preseure her into leaving her boyfriend or anything. So I am kinda looking for a good "I want to be your friend right now, lets continue to keep in touch and see other people and in a year when you are done with school we can reevaulate the situation and see if you would dump your boyfriend and be intersted in moving 2800 miles to be with me." birthday present. She admits she is not that much into jewlery. I'm just looking for some really good suggestions to keep her in my life so later has a chance of happening.
2007-04-23 03:51:40 · 10 answers · asked by Icon 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To becker1085:
oh no, she isn't cheating on her current bf. Her heart is not into it as much as it was though. She is starting to lean away from wanting to be with him (at least that is the impression that I got). She is confused, in a relationship where she wants more, but doesn't want to hurt who she is with. She is also trapped with school and such, so i understand the confusion. Just because she likes someone else doesn't mean she is cheating on who she is with.
I do NOT want to take her away from school, which is why I was the "year later" in teh clause. If she would leave school for me i'm kick her *** all the way back there, tie her to a desk, and make her stay. She will not leave school for me, I will make sure of that.
And I am looking locally for someone to hang out with too. Another reason I want to do this like I am is I don't want her to not find someone else while she is far away. If I could get her close (in 2008), it would be a differnet story.
2007-04-23 04:33:22 · update #1
Look just be friends but it seems to me ya are starting off the wrong way. She needs to concentrate on school and not into trying to choose boyfriend. You have to respect her and keep it clear...Buy her anything, even when women say they dont like jewelery they really do. Good Luck with the whole situations
2007-05-01 03:21:23 · answer #1 · answered by kmcraig17 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The distance between you is the problem. You did say that you want her to get out of school 'right now, she needs to do that'. Then you say that you don't want to pressure her into leaving her boyfriend. Then you say that you want her to do exactly that in a year's time and consider moving 2800 miles to be with you.
Here are the chances of any of the above happening: exactly zero. Forget the fantastic birthday present - anyone who could be bought with something so wonderful that they'd have to agree to your plan isn't worth spending the time on. Someone else would just buy her off with a bigger present at some point.
You will keep her in your life as long as the two of you want to communicate. That could be a long time, as friends. If you want it to be more than that, I stick with my original assessment - there is zero chance of a romantic partnership. The odds against long distance relationships are small to begin with. The fact that she has a boyfriend now just means that when her eye starts to wander, it will be because she is able to date someone else where she is.
You'd do well to look for a real person where you are and let this online pal continue to be your online pal.
Meeting in person would change a lot of things. Trouble is, things change not always for the better in that case. You're asking an awful lot with very little to back it up.
2007-04-30 20:19:42 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's something creative that will be appreciated and you will have fun doing:
Make up a crossword puzzle and have all the hints be personal inside moments and jokes that only you two would know about. Put it on a poster board and add some clipart and some pictures to it!
The crossword puzzle could be time consuming and a bit frustrating ... you could do the same idea with a WORDSEARCH or WORDFIND puzzle.
Put your computer skills to work! Use Excel, get clipart from Yahoo Images Search, copy them, and reformat them, use a gluestick to put on posterboard.
Use graph paper, and pictures from magazines if you are not as good on the computer, and it will give it a homemade feeling.
2007-04-28 18:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by Reserved 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant be serious.
This is a bad situation from all angles. Dont make her leave school. Dont make her leave her boyfriend. Do you honestly believe that she would remain faithful to you, if she is already cheating on her current bf?
Stop emailing her and find someone single who is not a cheater, lives close, has their degree, and likes you back.
2007-04-23 03:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by sweetblueyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best present would be nothing. I am sorry to say, but there is no hope in this situation. There is a 0.000000000000000001% chance of her dumping her b/f and going 2800 to be with you.
2007-04-30 17:51:28 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a company called edible arrangements, you can buy chocolate cover strawberrys with a mug and a teddy bear. Its would be a good idea and it wouldnt be over the top.
2007-04-23 04:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by Kelley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
strippers that always does the trick.
2007-05-01 01:40:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally made mixed cd.....music can be a romantic vibe or just freindly.....
2007-04-23 03:55:49 · answer #8 · answered by Violet15 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
open plane ticket...
2007-04-23 04:00:41 · answer #9 · answered by lotus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yourself nude. Enough said.
2007-04-23 03:55:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋