I have a friend who was disowned by all his christian friends and family...?

Question

becuase he was gay....Is this common among christians....Do they always show this kind of "love" to family members and friends when they disagree with their lifestyle or orientation?

Answer 1

sad

Answer 2

Personally, as a Christian, I think that attitude is appalling. The family should NEVER have disowned this man because of his sexual orientation. Even if they consider him being homosexual as a sin.. They should, in my opinion, love the sinner, hate the sin.

I would sadly say that this is probably common among Christians (not all Christians of course) because I have found that, for some reason, a lot of Christians tend to see homosexuality as such a 'huge' sin compared to others. I, however, don't agree with that outlook.

I'm sorry to hear that your friend was disowned, but I do hope that he can find some friends (and possibly other family members) who can actually love him for him.. and not for what they want to judge him for!

Answer 3

It is so very sad that this really does happen, not to mention hypocritical. You love your child all their life UNTIL they tell you they are gay or lesbian, then suddenly all that love of all those years goes right down the drain?
What is up with that?
They are still the same people they were seconds before they told you. I just don't get it.
It must be so totally devastating to be disowned by your family for any reason but especially just because of your sexual orientation (of which you have no control over anyway).

Answer 4

Christians tend to pick and choose parts from bible that best suits or appeals to them...for example, i have a money hungry uncle who now gives 10% of his wage to a church thinking he will be accepted into heaven because it is written as gospel. Now this logic makes no sense to me as it also says to prepare daily a goat sacrifice as a sin offering. I don't know any christian who sacrifices farm animals for their sins but i do know that Chrstians interpret the Bible individually. However, judgemental Christians seem to forget that we are made in Jesus' image and should therefore hold no prejudice towards anyone for their orientation or lifestyle. So your friends Christian friends should have a good, long hard look at themselves and should be told to go and sacrifice a goat.

Answer 5

First of all, have you gotten the "families" side of the story. Perhaps your friend wanted to visit with his partner and was told they could not sleep together in the home and now there is a rift.

Being "disowned" by ALL Christian friends and family just sounds a bit dramatic. I'm sure there is more to the story. If he's pushing it in their faces all the time, or starting debates etc. maybe they asked him not to come around.

My sister-in-law is a lesbian. My husband and his family are not religious. They are all accepting of her, and her girlfriends. My mother-in-law's boyfriend of 25 years, does not accept her. She is not allowed to visit with her girlfriends at their house. So, she doesn't visit at all. She won't speak to him and he could care less.

As Christians, we are called to love people but we have to do it through God. We are not capable of perfect love. God loves your friend, no question about that. But participating in homosexuality is a sin and a great offense to God. We are told to "go and sin no more."

Answer 6

Yeah, it's pretty common. I'm gay and I have several friends with the same story. The sad thing is that the parents actually believe they're acting "morally" and in the child's own interest, and they're encouraged in this despicable intolerance of their own children by their "Christian" communities. Not all "Christians" are this way - I think that goes without saying - but it's just too bad about the ones that are.

Now note that on these boards, practically nobody has bothered to defend such actions on the part of "Christian" parents (except the guy who says "Shunning is a practice approved by Christ" - scary, isn't it?), but many people have repeated the standard "Christian" slur that "being gay is a sin in the eyes of God" or whatever. And, of course, as everybody knows, this attitude comes from a few cherry-picked texts, mostly from the OT, from among literally hundreds of others that these self-same "Christians" daily disregard. In other words, the whole position is hypocrisy of the most oily and venal type. And as for "Hate the sin, love the sinner," that's obviously just a rhetorical dodge for accepting responsibility for one's own irrational hatred of an entire segment of the population. It's nice that you don't hate me, just my "lifestyle," and you only want me to change "for my own good," but unfortunately, this is how God made me, I'm not hurting anybody, and anyway it seems to me there are better things for you to spend your time on than hating me OR my supposed "sin."

Answer 7

I will try to explain this as best I can. Being gay is a sin in the eyes of God- and we are not to say that the lifestyle is ok- however each of us have sins that we still can commit as Christians, so we are not perfect just forgiven. When Jesus was on this earth, He spent more time with sinners, no matter what the sin was, then he did those "righteous Pharisees". As a Christian we are not suppose to accept the sin as ok, but accept the sinner. If those friends and family have truly disowned him, then they are acting like the Pharisees.

Answer 8

Before I would accept what you are saying I would have to hear both sides of the story. If they are true Christians, they will not turn them away because of His sexual orientation. But they understand how to love on him and let God work on his heart. I have worked with homosexuals over the years, and God has worked through me to talk them through some of their problems. And some have given their life to the Lord. People are not going to give their life to the Lord, unless they feel you are genuinely concerned about them and love them. Like I said, I do not know about this particular church community. Not every church which exists is established by God.

Answer 9

in my view, as a Christian, i think of that attitude is appalling. The family ought to by no ability have disowned this guy because of the fact of his sexual orientation. in spite of in the event that they provide theory to him being gay as a sin.. they must, in my opinion, love the sinner, hate the sin. i could regrettably say that it particularly is probably easy between Christians (no longer all Christians of path) because of the fact I even have chanced on that, for some reason, extremely some Christians tend to work out homosexuality as the form of 'extensive' sin in comparison to others. I, even if, do no longer trust that outlook. i'm sorry to take heed to that your chum exchange into disowned, yet I do wish that he can discover some acquaintances (and probably different kinfolk) who can certainly love him for him.. and not for what they elect to choose him for!

Answer 10

There are many so-called Christians who are as hypocritical as the worst of those that they despise. Jesus advocated and taught forgiveness but these jackasses ignore that and are defined by what they despise or can't abide.

Frankly, Christians who rationalize so they can be judgemental fools are in many ways no better than Islamic jihadists who pervert the Koran to justify killing.

It's not the message that's bad it's how selfish people twist it.

Answer 11

sounds like his family and friends are very Christian. Only a small minority of self-proclamed Christians are this heartless and cold.

Being a Christian means you have so much love in your heart that you are incapable of harming anyone and your greatest wish is find people to shower your love upon. All the rest is stuff and nonesense.