Question about Christianity and single parents?

Question

After sitting in this forum for 8 months, I am well aware the views held by many concerning homosexuals raising children.

I'm curious as to how Christianity views single-parenthood.

One of the arguments against homosexuality is that children of homosexuals aren't raised in a traditional male/female home.

Well, neither are my kids.

Your views?

Answer 1

A loving home is all that is required IMHO. Whether that be one parent, two parents or adoptive parents (whether of the hetero or homosexual type).

Answer 2

A loving single parent has to better than two warring parents.

But of course that's the view of an atheist, so it probably doesn't help a great deal. However, I'm sure there are also many single christian parents out there.

Having said that, my mother was a widow, and growing up without a father left me feeling like I'd missed out on a lot.

Then my mother remarried when I was 13, and the next few years were very difficult until I left school to get a job and moved out as soon as I could afford to pay rent.

Answer 3

Single parents and homosexual parents aren't a fair comparison. Ideally children should be raised by a parent of each sex. Realistically, that's not always possible. I do believe that a single parent should enlist the help of someone of the opposite sex to be an influence on their children's lives if possible. But, if you show love to your children, that will go a long way towards a positive upbringing no matter what. Good luck to you!

Answer 4

Well, the interesting thing about that is most single parents didnt dream up the idea that one day they would be raising a kid all alone. Many people end up that way through circumstance and not preference. Yes the child is missing the benefit of having both their, but in most cases that was not the dream or the entention of the single parent.

Homosexual partnerships are different because they are making an active choice to engage in an alternate lifestyle they know is ungodly and ultimately unbeneficial to the child on multiple levels.

Answer 5

My views is that single parenting is ideal, but I do not think that your child will be screwed up or anthing like that. I think each situation is different and shoudl be viewed differently. If your child's father was abusive, then your child is safer in a single parent home. The Bible is not against you raising yoru child alone, a man made church might be.

Answer 6

With the high rates of divorce in this country, many kids are raised in single parent homes for at least part of their childhood. It is not the ideal, but it is reality. My church works to support single parents and their kids. We also work to preserve marriages.

Answer 7

Ah, that must be the beautiful Christian Purity, appropriate? i'm a unmarried mom. My ex divorced me once I have been given pregnant and he began an affair. yet I refused to end the marriage. If he needed out, he could ought to do it. So, as far as i'm in touch, i do no longer % forgiveness as i did no longer commit the sin. i think of purpose to commit the sin desires to be examined whilst answering this question. (i need to be incorrect...) yet I sometime will ask my son for forgiveness for failing to maintain his father and mom at the same time. That, i'm sorry for.

Answer 8

I was raised in a 'normal' family, mother, father, siblings.

American Fundamentalists and Evangelicals say one thing, but practice something else. For example, they condemn people who divorce, but have equally high rates of divorce when compared to all Americans.

They also condemn remarriage, but in practice endorse it, even praise it. They preach sermons which unwittingly make all of the single parents and kids without a parent feel like second class citizens.

These single moms and kids internatalize this systematic hatred of them by their spiritual ministers as internalized self-loathing, and tend ot over eat and engage in other self-destructive behaviours.

Roman Catholics are equally inconsistant about single moms and gays. For example, the Pope says using birth control is a mortal sin, but most American Catholics ignore the Pope and use contraception. Gays are attacked and denied communion, but they don't have as much money as straight American Catholics, so Roma continues to demonize them.

Answer 9

I was raised in a "traditional male/female home". My dad's an untreated alcoholic, my mum shows everything you'd expect from someone who endured being married to an untreated alcoholic for over 40 years, and I started having major depressive episodes in my teens. All that quality time I got to spend with my dad while my mum was busy - he never physically abused me, but boy he did his best emotionally and psychologically.

Yup, fantastic being raised in a stable, steady 2-income family.

Answer 10

I'm not happy with single-parent households either.

If the father (or mother) was a drunk, abusive, etc and the best course of action for the other spouse (and the children) was to leave the offending spouse, then I'm ok with it (not that it should make any difference to you or anyone else, since it's just my opinion).

Answer 11

Christians won't speak against single-parenthood because the first (or second, depending on how you define) split in Christianity was due to desire to divorce.

I'd imagine kids who are raised by two well-educated homosexual parents are probably more successful than a kid "raised" by his alcohol father.