i really like a guy and recently found out he does too i am 17 and a virgin but i get so turned on when i am around him or touching him!
we are in a bit of a prdicament due to a 6yr age gap
and him being a friend of me bros
also we never get anytime alone
i want to go out with him but he is so nervous about my brother and the akwardness
and i dont want to make the first move
and even if i did i would only do it when we were alone11!
what should i do
what should we do
? thanks
2007-04-23 02:16:35 · 26 answers · asked by Iris 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
AGE OF CONSENT IN UK 16
I AM IN THE UK
2007-04-23 02:21:56 · update #1
you are old enough toknow what you want .regardless of what anyone tells you.. do what you need to do..it is your life..tell him another meeting place is best..he will cooperate i am sure if you both are discreet.
2007-04-23 02:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure where you're from but in the UK it's legal to have sex at 16 years old.
A 6 year age gap is nothing, as long as this older guy wants to treat you right and not just use you - that's probably what your brother is worried about.
Why don't you get him to ask your brother first? Trust me, if you two go behind your brother's back he will find out, you'll ruin their friendship, and you'll never be able to see this guy again anyway.
Get him to say that he really likes you etc. If he's a decent guy, he'd be happy to talk to your brother.
If he's not that serious about you and wants to use you, he won't want to talk to your brother.
You'll probably find that your brother will see things differently if his mate talks to him properly - he's just looking out for you. And yes it would be weird for him at first, but much better than if he found out you'd been doing it behind his back.
xx Emmie
2007-04-23 02:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny, i think that you should let him go until you're 18, if alls you guys want to do is have sex!! I'm not saying that you shouldn't have sex or that its bad to have sex @ 17, but you don't want your heart broken by a guy who just wants to get in ur pants. You want your "first time" to be a memorable one that you will always smile about when u think about it. Your hormones are just acting up and making you want him REALLY, REALLY bad!! Trust me, i was in that kind of situation, when i was 12, i was hung up on this 16 yr. old and went out w/him. If i could do it all over again, trust me, i would. Plus, there are so many other guys out there for you, but if you just have to go out with him to sleep with him, I would wait until you're 18, it sounds like a long time, but nobody said anything about flirting or teasing. Just make the time worthwhile b4 u turn 18, after you do, he's all yours, lol.
2007-04-23 02:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by supaflyredhead1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing to feel awkward about, 6 year age gap is nothing anyway. You are old enough to dicide who you like etc. Go for it girl, if it's what you want. Your brother would get used to it after a while. Go get your man !
2007-04-23 02:25:38 · answer #4 · answered by ROGER E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you do something you might regret, first really think about it coz this is a huge thing. wouldn't you rather wait till you are sure of this guy? i want to wait till i get married but you have a right to do what you want. ask your brother if he's OK with you going out with his friend. get to really know this guy first before you do something so intimate with him. you are only 17 you have a lot of time so don't rush. don't sleep with a guy coz of lust or infatuation, control your desires. there's nothing wrong with the age difference
2007-04-23 02:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by nats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's your brother's friend, leave it as a crush. your bro won't like this one bit. as far as the 17 -23 age gap. taht's not that bad. 18-24 next year sounds a little better. but if it's your brother's friend, do not go there.
2007-04-23 02:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are old enough to have sex hunni but is this the way you want to remember your first experience of sex - just a fumble with an older guy, when you could grab a few minutes???
If that's what you want then fine - but wouldn't it be better to have a loving relationship that devlops into something physical and sexual?
Just be careful babe and whatever you choose to do please make sure you use contraception!
2007-04-23 02:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by EMA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we are only talking 6 years difference here. that's not really that much. my husband and i are 6 years apart and we get along well.
now for the reality check. your 17. this guy could get in big trouble for hanging out with you, specially if it leads to sex. my advice, wait a year till your 18. then all is fair in love and war.
2007-04-23 02:24:37 · answer #8 · answered by Ms Berry Picker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are both worried about what other people may think then you are not ready for each other --- the age gap is not important although i would suggest waiting a few years at least --- unless all it is about is sex then definitely leave it for a few years --- best wishes
2007-04-23 02:29:32 · answer #9 · answered by trader1867 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it!!! Age is just a number and your brother will get over it if they auctually are friends try askin him out sometime or for a lift somewhere and make your move then
2007-04-23 02:21:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are over 16!..But be careful..some guys see younger girls as easy targets for sex...if you are close and it sounds like you are, because he is nervous about your brother..make sure HE wears a CONDOM..ok...what ever you both do..good luck...jamie x
2007-04-23 02:32:41 · answer #11 · answered by Jamie79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋