i'm sooooo in love?

Question

i love my boyfriend so much and moving in with him soon, but for some reason i'm a bit worried is that normal??

Answer 1

if you have never lived with someone before you will get nervous as you dont know what to expect so that is normal, and even if you have, eveyrone knows that the person you date is different from the person you live with.

in my experience moving in with someone can either make or break a rekationship.

5 years ago i moved in with my fiance and within 6 months of living with him we were splitting up.

however shortly after i met the most fantastic man and even though i had a place of my own i held off for over a year before letting him move in, and a year after that we got a place of our own now we have just gotten engaged and in this case it was the best thing for us, as he worked so much we hardly had time together now. we are soul mates and i am so happy. but i was nervous at him moving in for fear of it all going wrong again.

so everyone gets cold feet over things its a natural feeling, maybe you should chat with him about your worries

Answer 2

Yes of course it is!

Me and my boyfriend moved in toether last august and i was so nervous about it. We had been fighting a lot more than normal and i was really worried it wouldn't work out, but at the same time I knew I really wanted to be with him. Moving in together is a big step, its normal to get nervous about it.

If it makes you feel better, me and my partner have not had a single argument since august. Moving in together has been the best thin we ever did!

Hope it works out for you!

Answer 3

Yes it is normal, it's a big step & u will want everything to be perfect, just remember that he may have a few 'habits' (leaving the top off the toothpaste, or the loo seat up, etc) that may irritate you, so be prepared to see the 'real' him and remember he may not appreciate things that you do either.
Talk about what you expect from him & vice versa and if he is going to share the chores & shopping before you actually move in so that there are no nasty shocks for either of you.
Good Luck

Answer 4

Oh thank god I thought it was just me! I moved in with my fella just this weekend and was a bit negative in the run-up. I'm very much in love with him and really do want to live with him, but couldn't help worrying that we'd mess it all up, that it was too soon, that one or both of us would suddenly change. I'm sure it's irrational, but it is a very big step and should be entered into with open eyes. Look at what you're worrying might happen, and you'll probably see that they're not actually real problems at all. Very best of luck to you both x

Answer 5

Congratulations that you love your boyfriend and I hope he loves you the same. You maybe abit anxious and thats quite normal, it can be a whole new experience for you both especially if you have both lived with parents. Living with partners give you a good idea what the person is like and if he or she has the potential to be a future husband/wife. Im sure you have spoken to ur fella how you feel..if you havent...you must!...Make sure you have 'your time' on your own too..thats aloud and fine to do that....goodluck, godbless and I hope you both have a happy future together. jamie x

Answer 6

Of course it's normal - even though you're in love and happy, it's still a big change in your life and step forward in your relationship. The fact you're feeling worried is just a sign that you're taking this seriously and not rushing into it blinded by love.

However, if this little niggle becomes a real concern, discuss and solve it before you proceed - you'll be glad you did.

Answer 7

First of all, yes it totally normal to have nerves. You'll know the difference deep down if they are just regular nerves (this all so new, I don't know what to expect) or nerves (what am I doing!!). Secondly though, I agree with other comments in that marriage should come first. If people can't commit to marriage then in my opinion they can't commit fully to each other. People these days seem to put such as transient view on relationships, but they should be thought about fully before committing to anything.

Answer 8

Of course it is normal.

You are attached to something outside of yourself and reliant on those things for your happiness.

The outside world, or the external is ever-changing, impermanent, constantly shifting, insecure and beyond your ability to control.

Therefore, as most people, you are in a state of anxiety.

Attaching yourself to the impermanent external is an insane way to live in my opinion and the cause of your worry. If it ends you will feel like you have lost a limb.

My advice is to enjoy the new house, the boyfriend........while it lasts.........without attachement, without fear of loss........that way there will be a lightness to your life and a constant inner peace even if all around you is crumbling.

Answer 9

sure it is - moving in with someone for the first time is a big step and its only natural that you're going to be a bit nervous!!!
Things are going to be totally different when you live together- finding out new stuff about each other - good AND bad!!
Its like a whole new adventure - so enjoy it!
xx

Answer 10

well first congrats on your found love and moving in with ur boyfriend. n its very normal to be worried but to be honest u just need one day to just think that u whether really want to move in with him or its just for the time so please take some time out and before actually the thing u really should think about it and focus on your relationship as well.
good luck.
bye