ive been with my boyfriend for 8 months. How long should u wait before sleepin with some one because he has had partners before me and he was my first and if im completely honest i felt i had to sleep with him before he got fed up waitin. Dont get me wrong i luv him a lot and dont regret it just the timing i suppose.
2007-04-23 00:00:45 · 28 answers · asked by eskimokissesxxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's really up to you and your partner. I don't think there's ever a specific time limit that you need to wait...even though I know there's people who believe in sex after marriage. It's your own beliefs as well...if you have no issues with pre-marital sex and are comfortable with your partner enough to have sex and have taken all precautions needed, go for it. Don't if they are pressuring you or bcoz you feel like you have to or if u think u may have regrets. Good luck!
2007-04-23 00:08:45 · answer #1 · answered by Psych_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has different ideas on this, I just believe that you should do it when you are ready and not because you feel pressurised or afraid the other person might get fed up with waiting and will go off you. I think that if someone really feels something for you they'll wait. I can understand you how you must have felt about it, with him being more experienced than you. As long as you're happy now and of course are enjoying your intimate times with him, how long you waited is really irrelevant now.. Of course be careful and use protection it's very important, but you know that, even if a little unromantic. (sorry to be a bit personal)! Hope your relationship goes from strength to strength .Enjoy!!
2007-04-23 07:31:18 · answer #2 · answered by clara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
normally i would wait at least a month, however i have to admit, after being completely smitten with this guy for months and working closely with him everyday, we had actually only been out 3 times before i slept with him. but i was completely smitten i couldnt stop thinking about him, he was gorgeous and funny and such a gentleman.
worked out though, after a year together i asked him to move into my house, and then we got a place of our own last year, now after nearly three years together we are planning our wedding, so it worked out well for me.
but i will say this, i do think you should wait longer than that.but definately not 8 months poor man must have been nearly blind lol!!!! although it only matters that your comfrtable with the person and are really ready so if you did it and felt ready then fair play if not you should have waited longer. especially being a virgin it's a big thing to give up!!!!
2007-04-23 07:08:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the olden days we use to wait a while but now things have changed,I would say not long 8 month is too long a week or 2 weeks it depends.To tell you the Truth it doesn't matter if he wants to dump you after having sex with him trust me he will not matter how long you wait.
And please if you are still a virgin go for HIV testing both of you even if you are going to use protection you never know accidents are happening all the time.
2007-04-23 07:14:21 · answer #4 · answered by zoleka k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when there is love involved i think it does not really matter the time , and if you where unsure because the fact of he having other partners before , just protect your self . I knew my hubby on January 2006 we where together 3 months later got married 6 months later and we are very happy . There's something in you that will tell you if you should or not . and never sleep with someone just because your afraid they get tired of waiting if they are serious and care about you they will wait believe me. good luck and i hope i could help!!!
2007-04-23 07:07:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is only one person who can correctly answer that question- YOU. Go by what you feel. But jumping into bed for the reason of prreventing him from being fed up waiting is a no-no! Go by this adage: go where you're happy. There is no right or wrong timing for this. And its the two of you who will mutually determine when that is. Enjoy it! Its good! Its heaven sent! Have a good one!
2007-04-23 07:18:40 · answer #6 · answered by . . 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no set time limit, you sleep with someone when you yourself knows the time is right, weather that's 10 minutes after meeting a person or 10months!!
Never let yourself be pressured into doing anything you don't want to, if the person wont wait then there not worth it!!
2007-04-23 07:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait until you feel comfortable about having sex with that person. Some people even wait until they are sure they want to marry the person. Everyone has a right to decide when to have sex. Personally, I waited until I felt enough to call it "lovemaking", instead of "having sex". I just feel that it is a part of myself that I can only share with someone I truly love.
2007-04-23 07:09:01 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you feel ready. When you can think to yourself we share trust and intimacy, I trust this person with my life and I feel that they will help and accept all responsibilities (as well as respect me for my opinion in any decisions ) that will have to be made as a result in us sharing this increased intimacy. When you can be totally nude in front of them with the lights on and not feel uncomfortable, or ashamed. ( Alot of us shouldn't be having sex hugh? :) Although you can't go back you can always make the next time a more special one, the pressures off enjoy yourself and be protected.
2007-04-23 07:09:42 · answer #9 · answered by fbarkon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you feel ready and a lot of this depends on your age and sexaul experience.
What you should have done is worked up to it.
ie lots of kissing then over months lots of feeling up then moving to things like bjs, hands down pants, boob sex etc etc and getting very good at foreplay and making sure you know all about safe sex... before one day thinking emmn lets go further I really want you.
But there is no set rule other then dont do it to fast to young and do it when you want to
2007-04-23 08:08:33 · answer #10 · answered by N-BS ANS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋