should i just work full-time to get myself 2gther?

Question

drowning in debt, i'm only in my first year at university and i'm turning 21 in june and to be honest i'm not doing so well at uni. My work is in late/rushed and my rent for my first houseshare is late and travel is a joke. I sent off for the student discount only when i got it back they for got to add the discount and i couldnt be asked to send off the student discount form alongside the £5 AGAIN after it took 5weeks to come the first time. I always have to spend so much money out with friends as they live so far from me and usually end up asking me for money/pay for the drinks(ok the pay for the drinks 2)i got into a new relationship and he just wants to get me pregs but i'm letting him knw i'm not ready. I really need a car but can't afford the lesson and unlike most uni students i don't have GCSEs to fall back on as i went down the diploma route but i really getting broke and part-time job is guna take up2 much time as ive bn doing this 4ever i nvr not had a job for long time.

Answer 1

Well if you are smart enough to get into university you are usually smart enough to do well in a job. Dropping out of university is not the end of the world, and there are many other routes to becoming qualified.

I would suggest a simple job (not a lot of brain work) and part-time study could be the answer.

The first year at university is not really a good indicator of your later study ability. The first year is mostly rote learning in big classes. Aftwards you will find that if you are in an area that is right for you then the study will become easier.

You can also look at your money management skills. I mean, if you don't have to money to party, then don't party. If your friends don't have the money either, you guys need to find cheaper ways to have fun.

I have lived on a budget at various times in my life, sometimes to save up for something, or sometimes I am studying. The rent and the important things come first. If I don't have the money, then I don't do other things. I would never go out and spend money if I don't have it. This was hard when some of my friends were working and I was studying, harder still when I had a girl friend.

Also look at your time management. I studied with one woman, who worked full-time, studied full-time and had 3 young children to look after. Other people find the part-time work to be a good discipline to organise their time better, and it will probably save your butt. Working part-time and studying part-time might be an option for one year (then you have friends in 2nd and 3rd year to help you do your study).

I don't understand your boyfriend, after all you are only 20, studying and he wants children.

Answer 2

Stay in school. You can get a full time job but it will only make you feel more like you're rushed and unable to finish your school work. Here's what I'd suggest:

1. Dump the boyfriend. You have all the time in the world once you finish school to have children.

2. Dump some of the social life. Tell your friends you CAN'T pay for their partying. This will give you more time to complete your work thoroughly and on time.

3. Stay in school. Sounds like you're making excuses to not do well in school.

4. Get a responsible roommate who can help you with your rent and share in expenses.

5. Keep a good steady part-time job and budget yourself and stick to that budget.

I went to college when I was much older, working full time and raising a family. I didn't have much opportunity to go when I was younger. It is very difficult to study and work at the same time, but you'll be very glad you did once you do graduate.

Answer 3

Take off a semester and save up some money. Get rid of old friends and idiot girlfriend(if she gets pregnant you will never be able to finish school or pay off your student loans, not to mention 18 yrs. child support.) Quit playing around and work and study hard for the next 4 years or you will be hanging around with your loser friends in a low paying job , no house , no car, no adult woman will want you. Sacrifice now and get a lot the rest of your lovely life!

Answer 4

stick with uni cos i can almost guarantee that if you leave it you won't go back and will regret it. Why not try inviting your friend over and drinking cheap tins of beer or £2 bottles of wine instead of going out all the time. I would also get rid of your bloke. Sounds like a right loser. try and move closer to uni if you can, it will save a lot of hassle, speak to your student services rep at uni, maybe they can sort you out on the waiting list for student accomodation or give you more advise. Hang in there. I'm sure you'll get through.

Answer 5

Yes, I would work full-time and keep going to school. It is hard but I did it. Classes started at 7 or 8 in the am and I worked for a salon that was open til 12am. So I worked 4 - 12 . Yes, it was hard but you can do it.