my mate becky has a serious BO problem and i dnt know if i should tell her,coz she smokes the smell gets even worse and they all mix togther of BO,urine and smoke.what should i do?ive tld her b4 but she hasnt done anything she sprays a lot but still dnt cover the smell.what should i do?
2007-04-22 23:37:07 · 52 answers · asked by xxashtonxx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Unfortunately you will need to be honest with her. Tell her that you really care about her as a friend, and you need to have a serious talk with her. Tell her that people, including you are offended by the odor of her body. Tell her that she needs to be bathing, not spraying to cover up the smell. Tell her not to use spray deodorant, use a balm or roll-on because they are the most effective and last longer. If she is from another country, and her parents only let her bathe occasionally, offer to let her bathe at your house. That is what my sister had to do with her German boyfriend. His mother only let him bathe once a week!!!
2007-04-22 23:47:56 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible that she is trying to act more like a guy ?
i.e. tomboyish
Lord forbid I am saying that all guys stink !!
I am just saying that maybe you should have a talk & see if there might be some underlying reason for her to take on this new attitude.
...... I know that after I seperated from ex, there was a period where I was really depressed & didn't give a damn about anything or anyone. I wanted everyone to leave me alone & just let me be. Bathing was NOT high on the priority list during that time, because if she didn't give a hoot anymore about me... then neither would I. It took over a year for our divorce to finally get finalized. So a person't mood can seriously effect how they act & relate with society & others.
I wouldn't be soo hard on her just yet, until you have checked into her situation.... there just might be a perfectly good & logical reason for this.
And if it turns out that it's nothing..... and she is just a lazy so & so......
Get a group of girls together and have a "friend wash" with a brush, hose, soap, shampoo, etc. out in the driveway. Rope her like cattle if you have to resort to those tactics, but Get Er Done.
2007-04-22 23:52:14 · answer #2 · answered by ccchevydude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her again, but instead of just saying bekky you smell bad, or bekky you have a problem with the way you smell or something like that. Explain it to her say that you have noticed it and that you think other people have noticed it as well and that you are only telling her because you are her friend and concerned for her ect. In short just be a good friend - Thats all you can be
2007-04-23 00:08:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a real prize. You've already told her and she hasn't responded. You could try one more time and if she still is not responsive - find another mate. No excuse for going around smelling like BO and urine. Sounds like she has some serious hygiene issues.
2007-04-22 23:41:54 · answer #4 · answered by scorp5543 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i had a friend with a problem like this I would tell her, you are not being cruel by telling her about her personal hygiene, it is better coming from you her friend other than a complete stranger.
She may not know about her problem ( maybe she has no sense of smell, i dont know)and will probably appreciate that you have told her.
2007-04-23 03:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by Little Minx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that sometimes you can smell her and that it is strong
tell her about the nice products that you have seen on the market
Or you could go shopping together and ask if she has tried this new wash and put it in her basket or buy it for her
hard subject to approach
2007-04-22 23:46:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can buy( shampoo,washing gel,exttra) for both of you as something you are going to try it & you like to let her try it ,too .In the other day,you can go to bathroom & bath then go & talk with her how was amazing to use these new things. Try to describe for her,how do u clean your body, maybe she doesnt know the right way to wash it ( speak with her as a sister ,dont try to hurt her feeling) .Make it as a moment you wanna tell her how was your bath & she is gonna to recognise her mistakes in bathing.
2007-04-22 23:55:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mate had bad breath, so we use to just bye loads of chewing gum and offer it to her (not all at once)
if she said no she didnt want one we use to insist she take one!
take her to boots or superdrugs make it seem very casual though cos you dont wanna hurt her feelings, just brows and test the body sprays, if she really likes one advise her to buy it.
Then one day buy the one she likes go to her house give it to her, if the old one looks like it hasnt been touched, then hell just be blunt and tell her she needs to use it!
2007-04-24 11:49:57 · answer #8 · answered by Sim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell Rebecca Jones to have a wash,scrub her muff and stop killin everyone in maths with her smell,its disgusting she needs to get a grip of her life coz its mingin!! you would think at 16/15 years of age she would of taken the hint by now with people in primary *cough* not me *cough* sayin she smells.
2007-04-22 23:50:01 · answer #9 · answered by Dannii k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go shopping with her and casually tell her: "hey I think you do like some spray ya...maybe try this one (find from magazine one that works)...I read that its good...I am using it myself." When U use yourself as an example, she would not find it too offensive...true u might not hv the problem urself...but its okie to tell a white lie for the good of everyone!
2007-04-22 23:41:44 · answer #10 · answered by Humble Learner 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋