How do I stop the co-respondent in my divorce case from harassing me?

Question

The co-respondent in my divorce case has denied the allegation despite my husband admitting all, well that's after the whole pub were told and there being 2 witnesses the 2nd time. Since then she has been making false and salacious allegations to the police. Her sister recently attacked me, leaving deep marks on my neck and bruising to my arms and head. The police just gave her a warning!! Any help please??

As an addition, my husband is begging for a second (actually 3rd chance, cause he slept with his ex a number of times when we first met and I forgave him). Has said he is not complete without me and he made a terrible mistake (twice) because of stupidity, vanity, insecurity and ignorance. Should get decree nisi this week.

Answer 1

File for a restraining order

Answer 2

I would not frequent the same place as she does. And definitely steer clear of any pub as fuelled with alcohol the situation could get even more violant.

I take it that this women is no longer with your ex? This could be the reason for her anger as she may think that your husband is back living with you.

The police probably only gave her a warning as they will assume that there is going to be two sides to the story.

Get a new life...you do not want to be plaqued by court cases do you. Look at it from their angle.

However, if you think that the situation is getting out of hand you must seek lagal representation and apply for a restraining order...but on whom?

Answer 3

What a cow, and her sister too. They sound like really pleasant people, and I'll bet your ex is thrilled to have passed you over for such a lying tramp. I'm in a similar situation, but I moved country! I'm seeing someone else also now and so I'm not such an easy target, so when I had a hate campaign waged against me I lodged an official complaint with the UK police, who although could take no action, are aware there's a problem, I don't know why these tarts go for married men, sleazebags.

Good Luck.

Answer 4

You're not in the US, so I don't know if you have the equivalent of a "restraining order" or not. Since our laws are based on English common law, there may be.

You need to look into if there is such a thing, and if there is, get one issued against her. This will give you legal standing if she calls you, or gets within a specific distance from you. When / if she does, you can call the police and she SHOULD get arrested for violating the order.

She's a bit of a vicious witch, isn't she?

Answer 5

This is why most good divorce lawyers will actually advise against naming the other person. My ex admitted the adultery I knew who the woman was they are getting married !! But all it says on the divorce is "with another person". I was told to do this as it saves a lot of problems later.
Sadly you seem to be having them. You have it on record with the police thats one good thing. You could go to court and get a restraining order.
I suspect part of the problem for you is the fact he wants to come back and now she and her family feel she is being wronged. Until you make all your decisions it wont go away.
Good luck.

Answer 6

Change your routines
they know where you are at certain times so don't be
I know this may sound harsh but if you are serious you will have to do it
change phone number, moves house and area if need be
depends how much you want her out of your life
I'm a women who was being harassed by an ex partner the police don't want to know and this is what I had to do
Don't speak to them , an argument is still contact
good luck

Answer 7

File a restraining order and speak to you lawyer to file charges. Talk to the higher police officials if no one will do anything. Gather as much paperwork, witnesses as u can and hand them to the police/lawyer. Go see a doctor, serious or not, and get the medical records, take a lot of pictures. Speak through ur lawyers, don't talk to them directly. If possible, schedule a meeting with ur husband with mediator, lawyer present. Do not deal with them w/o any legal representation. They are trying to bully you. Good luck!

Answer 8

you need to go to court file a restraining order and serve papers to the co-respondent for your divorce futher more do you desirve to be hurt time and time again by your husbands cheating ways ? you have already givin him more chances then he needed yet he disrespects you time and time again.
btw think of all the people -- family--friends--so on and so fourth that know he has been cheating on you all along do you like being the butt of everyones joke cuz they all think your a fool not to be rude but been there done that a lepord doesnt change its spots and niether will he you desirve better if you think better of your self worthness good luck take care best wishes to you

Answer 9

I'd say 'You must have the wrong (my name) coz I don't know you all.' or 'If I can't speak up about both of you, then I speak about neither of you.' I'd hate to be named in that kind of case. I think you are allowed to refuse though coz I've heard of some people refusing to get involved.

Answer 10

Go to the solicitor and ask them to write her a letter telling her not to contact you.But apart from that keep out of her way too, don't go anywhere where you think she might frequent and if you bump into her and she tries to intimidate you ignore her and walk away.I know it must be very tempting to get revenge on her but it is much better for you and your self esteem to ignore her, and her family.