celebrate or cry?

Question

Okay guys, if u are being dumped by your life partner of 10 years, will u jump in happiness and quickly celebrate or will you cry thinking that the world is too cruel? Dumping could be substitute as cheating on u, grew tired of u etc.

do u see it as a an opportunity of starting a new life? :)

somebody i know (who is close to me) is having this problem. He's been cheating on her and threatening to leave her. She is feeling sad, but i cant understand why she is sad.. so i am asking everybody here this question.. i just want to know what u will do and how will u react to this situation of breaking up with someone u love.

she is very close to me.. we are like sisters, it pains me to see her treated that way..i wish for her to get up and continue life the way she should..

Answer 1

I think the problem is that we tend to remember the person we married and how much in love we were and that makes us sad because our partner has broken that trust and the vows and sanctity of marriage. That's why we feel like crying. On the other hand, eventually we we do celebrate, once we realize how badly we were treated and how we didn't deserve it.First comes tears, then comes anger and then the celebration will come. It's a very emotional thing to go through a divorce, no matter how bad the marriage was. It feels like failure and it hurts. Time helps and starting a new life can be both exciting and scary. I would expect your friend to go through many emotions during this time. Just be there and try to be understanding.

Answer 2

One would celebrate that one can cry without the lecture on why one shouldn't celebrate crying. Fer Cryin Out Loud. Being dumped can come in many flavors, the cow dump, the horse dump, the city dump, and the no dumping allowed. It's a matter of this: did you get permission to dump the craven jerk who was screwing your life into the ground.? Did the dominate evil idiot understand from the beginning that this looking down ones nose at your partner was not an act of love and devotion, but rather a spin of the chambers in a vigorous game of Russian roulette. That the silent partner was watching, evaluating, making a list, checking it twice, and when the less dominate partner finally strikes it will be with the whole enchilada. The offended party will smile at the decree and prefer slow roasting to returning to the former life.The only pain worse than heartbreak is the hateful pain of knowing that you wasted those ten years, and the mistake is irreversible. Knowing failure is pain so exquisite as to compete with home kidney removal. The rising sun promises to heal the damaged soul of the ten year failure. And there is a silver lining, you don't have to do another 10 yrs. Pax. rs.

Answer 3

Dear Yuna,
If the relationship had been 10 years long, then the most logical and instinctive feeling is to cry. You can't be jumping for happiness (for god sake) if you are being dumped unless of course the relationship has actually gone sour long before the breakup. But even then, 10 years is a long period and surely, alot of feelings and passions must have been nurtured along the way.

After crying the eyes out, then what? More crying? Refuse to eat? Isolate yourself? Or worse; commit suicide? Falling in love and falling out of love are trials and errors of LOVE. Everybody has gone through it. Sure the real world is cruel out there. Afterall, whoever says Life is a bed of roses. But you know what? Sometimes these are the things that makes us matured so that we will learn from our mistakes and hopefully not repeat it. You know there's a saying that goes, Behind every dark cloud, there is a silver lining. So cheer your friend up. There are still alot of things for us to enjoy and other more worthy suitors waiting for us. Life goes on.

Answer 4

It depends on the circumstances of the break up. Had we been fighting the last 3 of those 10 years? If so, then probably relived that it is over. Their are stages to a break up just like any other big event. First their is the disbeliefe that it is happening. The anger that it is happening. The sadness that it is really happening. The realization that their is nothing you can to to change it. The acceptance of the situation. Then the moving on and starting that new life.

Answer 5

Ok, My friend.

First let me tell you one thing, there is no death for true love.

Mis understands may arise and will lead to breaking up the relation. But after some days it may again lead to close.

We will get tears if we recall the laughy situations in our life, and we laugh at the time when we cried in past if it gets noticed by your brain.

so what so ever it may be, if u and he r both prepared well to start your journey again. its the good time.

Celebrate it. Its good.

But if u don't have trust u may definetly cry after wards. Ok. Don't loose this oppurtunity. Go with him and live happily. This is my adivse because, knowing a person is duty, loving a person is a habbit but after leaving you and he got back again and asking your permission to stay with him so its great. Go ahead.

Answer 6

Life is a journey and we have to take the sweet things with a little bit of salt. A man should stand up for himself and be accounted for his actions. We also need to learn from past mistakes. And always keep an open mind, cause we will cross path with someone during our lifetime, and when that happens, we should not let that person just pass by.

Tell her to dump the worthless piece of crap. He is a coward who threatens her because he knows she is vulnerable emotionally. Is this type of crap worth the pain she is suffering???

Answer 7

I'd cry.. I been with someone for like 3 years, and he cheated on me with a girl that's close to me.. I cried for days.. I know it's a good thing to see his true color, and I shouldn't be silly enough to shed a tear for that.. but whenever I think of days we spent, tears just rolls down, it's out of my control.. I can imagine I would feel worse if I already with him for 10 years.. I'm not sure I could take it...

Answer 8

Neither. Will you celebrate if you lost somebody important? Are you gonna cry if there's still hope remaining? Start a new life. Be strong enough to handle such thing. Try to solve the problem first. One never knows.

Answer 9

10 years is a very long time. If the guy had been my life partner for 10 years, then he's worth my trust and I'm completely positive that he wouldn't dump me.

Answer 10

first i would cry...because he played with my feelings.and i will loose my hope in this cruel world.but after a while,i will celebrate,cause it's end after 10 years....not living with him my all life......I wont waste my time thinking why he done that?because he was tired...or..something else....NO!i will think that i have a life to live....and i will start a new life.Because everytime after this experience(mistakes)....we find the great partner for life.