a former friend/boss, who is now next door at a sister hotel has, it has come to my attention (through sources i trust) been badmouthing me. she has been doing this to people who aren't her friends, but employees, and because it has spread over here (both places communicate regularly, are jointly owned and are small, so impressions made can be damaging), and because of her status and how she is spreading negative info, and the fact that no personal relationship has existed for several weeks, i'm thinking it's a work problem. it's definitely souring me on a job that has already caused me to begin to look elsewhere to the point where i might jump at anything, rather than being selective about it. i also don't want to be ridiculous about this though...if it falls into the personal area, than i might have to just live with it. i've already deduced that the direct approach with this person would be ineffective....advice please??
2007-04-22 22:21:34 · 3 answers · asked by abc123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
"Keep your friends close,your enemies even closer",Good luck in the search for that new job,or maybe you could tell some fellow employees what shes all about.She started the war,fight it on her level or make her come to your level.This is why we dont have personal relationships w/our friend/boss,careful who you step on on the way up,they probably wont catch you on the way down.
2007-04-22 22:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by Tazz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are good at your job, this back biting should not affect you for your present employers will judge you by your performance.You obviously still haven't been able to get your ex-boss out of your system and are still attaching a lot of importance to what he says. You are thus letting your personal problem adversely affect your professional life as well. May be you should focus on your job in hand and try to excel in it instead of thinking of quitting. My advice is - ignore and dismiss from your mind whatever negative things your ex-friend is saying about you and carry on with your life.
2007-04-23 05:39:52 · answer #2 · answered by Traveller 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you left the company on bad terms, then it would be inappropriate to say anything. If you left the company on good terms, then contact her supervisor by mail. Tell him what she is doing, and that you feel it is unfair to her past and present employees for management to spread rumors.
2007-04-23 05:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋