My parents were divorced when I was 3....?

Question

Then my mum was with an alcoholic for 4years. My step mum is abusive, she called me a stupid selfish sl*t last hoildays.

I've been surrounded by negative relationship, so now I have little/no faith that my present and future relationships are going to be positive.

I also hate being touched and being affectionate. I can't accept compliments and I have trouble giving them out.

How can I change my negative thinking?

Answer 1

my parents divorced when i was 5/6 and similarly my mum was an alcoholic thereafter, after about 4 years i went to live with my dad.

There are always huge tests in life and the important thing to realise is there is something more out there - i still feel like there is a huge gap in my life where my mum should be (its been 7 years), but it can only make you stronger, right?

i guess my point is.. look to the future, try to realise that things can and will get better. You never know what will happen!

Answer 2

You are at a stage in life where you have to start thinking of your future, where you want to go in life.
Try coping with things one day at a time focus on the positives and ignore the negatives and look after yourself the best way possible.

In time you will find someone to be affectionate with, and at your age focus on education.

Answer 3

Law 18

Do Not Build Fortresses to Protect Yourself – Isolation is Dangerous

The world is dangerous and enemies are everywhere – everyone has to protect themselves. A fortress seems the safest. But isolation exposes you to more dangers than it protects you from – it cuts you off from valuable information, it makes you conspicuous and an easy target. Better to circulate among people find allies, mingle. You are shielded from your enemies by the crowd.

Answer 4

"It is through healing our inner child, our inner children, by grieving the wounds that we suffered, that we can change our behavior patterns and clear our emotional process. We can release the grief with its pent-up rage, shame, terror, and pain from those feeling places which exist within us."

Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls by Robert Burney

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I have read his book, along with his other writings, and am currently engaged in counseling, via telephone, with Mr. Burney. I strongly recommend you explore the website cited, and order his book. It is a very inexpensive soft-cover book, approximately $20.00 (U.S. Dollars) including postage.

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