but she is currently separated and about to be divorced. it is a sure thing but just has not happed yet. i have been pretty good friends with her for about seven years even before she met the guy she is married to. i didnt really try to make it happen but it just did. she was telling me stuff like how she has wanted to be in a relationship with me for like 5 years but she didnt think i wanted it to be like that and didnt want to make the friendship weird or anything. it just so happens that i have kinda felt the same way. i still want to be with her and everything but she is still married so i dont want to have sex or anything anymore until the divorce is competely over with. i also still want to be there for her as a good friend and help her out however i can but i dont want any sexual relationship until shes divorced. i gotta pick her up this friday from work and i dont know how to tell her this without her getting mad and thinking i just used her for a one time thing.
2007-04-22 21:54:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
any thoughts on the matter of how to tell her this to cause the least amount of emotional hurt to her and physical hurt to me?
2007-04-22 21:55:12 · update #1
personally i think she needs a clear head at the moment, she's been married for 7 years! I know she said she has always fancied you, but when people are going through something like this, it is easy to lose yourself in something/someone else to help ease the pain/loneliness. I suggest you carry on with life the best you can, but let her know you are there for her as a friend, but just clear the decks for the time being. People always see things in a clearer light in the morning! While you are taking this time out until her divorce is final, maybe you will find out if this is what you really want, and if you do find she is still what you want then all the best to you and may it turn into something beautiful!
2007-04-22 22:27:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You start out saying you slept with her.Then you say you dont want sex until the divorce is final.Your already too late to worry about the sex thing.My advice is to keep poppin her and not worry about it.In a few months she will go back with her hubby and you will have fond memories of your sexual naughtiness.
2007-04-23 06:54:01 · answer #2 · answered by packerman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her husband might find out about you and blame you for their relationship mess and kill you.
She is using you and needs someone to help her with this divorce, which may or may not even happen. I suggest, get away and stay clear and hope to hell he doesn't find out about it anytime soon or you might end up a headline in tomorrows newspaper..
2007-04-23 05:05:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be the cause of the DIVORCE.....
stay away from her... let her settle her issues....
Let her choose to live her life without you influecing her...
If NOT she will do the same to you perhaps in a couple of years time...
take care..
2007-04-23 05:02:54 · answer #4 · answered by trymejames 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why should she be hurt. If u are honest, and tell her u dont want to step on another mans territory, she should understand. just explain that u dont plan to abanadon her, u just want to be respectful to her in this situation.
2007-04-23 04:58:29 · answer #5 · answered by susan q 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would she be upset? If you are being honest about this, isn't it nice that you are a principled man! She should be pleased.
2007-04-23 06:45:51 · answer #6 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait as to be safe in justice.
2007-04-23 05:03:59 · answer #7 · answered by PG_13 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋