for some unseen reason. I sleep alone and go out alone. I wish I could meet someone to talk to and laugh with
2007-04-22 20:57:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I felt that way for 15 yrs, and divorced mine. Never believed in divorce until I finally did it. Now I am dating a wonderful man who has to train me into realizing that two people go places together. Yes...even to a drive through for fast food...I still sleep alone...but at least I have him to tell me goodnight and tell me how wonderful I am....find someone to chat with on a dating site. I actually did..and found him by accident..signed up just to see how it worked..had no intention on chatting with anyone (scared me) but wow..they really do work. He is awesome..he lives 3 hours away, but it has given us time to get to know each other and not rush. I wouldn't advise this to the average married person, but you don't have a marriage..not really. I didn't either, and it took a lot to realize that after talking to my new sweetie..go for it..it will make you feel alive again! You don't have to tell all of your detailed life..just make a friend for now..if it is meant to be..it will happen all on it's own. He makes me laugh when I didn't know how funny life could be! I just look forward to every day now! Sure beats feeling lonely and unworthy of love..good luck!
2007-04-22 21:09:23 · answer #1 · answered by buggie 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
When I was married, I was the loneliest I'd ever been in my life. It's a very intense feeling because you probably thought when you married, you'd end up with a companion and a friend along with a husband. It doesn't always work that way.
First thing is, you have to decide if you want to stay married. If you do, you have to figure out if your husband does. The easiest way is to ask. Calmly and not confrontationally. This is NOT an argument, it's a fact finding mission. If you want to stay married and so does he, then you need to find a marriage counselor. For some reason, the two of you have a total disconnect, and you need to get back on track.
Personally, I think you need to try counseling. Sometimes people fall into bad habits, or just aren't communicating right, or have given up talking. I don't think you can talk about any other solution until you try to get the marriage back on track.
You may not like the first counselor you find. That happens.
If, after you've put some effort into fixing the problems, you find out that it just isn't what you want, then you talk other options.
I'm sorry for you. I've been there, and I know just how much it hurts.
2007-04-22 23:04:15 · answer #2 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried connecting with your husband again? You both should take a marriage communication class and figure out how to talk to each other.
2007-04-22 21:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not too sure what your problem was....
I thought you may want to try some positive thinking and be creative with your husband. Try to get him out of the nut shell.. and do some activities.. and also you mentioned you sleep alone..... Well you can sleep with him isn't it?...
Don't quite get your problem...
2007-04-22 21:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by trymejames 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats not right that he does this to you. Please talk to him about this but if you cant i want you to write him a long letter with everything you think and feel in it and ask him why hes like this tell him how you love and miss the old him. I really wish you the best luck with this!
2007-04-22 21:02:36 · answer #5 · answered by Chance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try counseling or file for divorce. DO NOT CHEAT!!!! It is a pathetic way to end things and will just make you feel horrible about yourself and will make you, not him look like the bad guy in the marriage.
2007-04-22 21:02:03 · answer #6 · answered by cswilson139 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finding someone to talk to and laugh with will not solve the problems with your marriage. You need to talk to him, and get your marriage back on track if you want to be happy.
2007-04-25 06:16:44 · answer #7 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up on your marriage.. Make it work.. Try love, care, passion, lus and creativity with your husband.. If all this does not work, get a divorce and then you are free to do whatever you want.
2007-04-22 21:14:44 · answer #8 · answered by AdultMALE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find someone after you divorce. It is considered cheating when you meet someone else and become intimate with them. To thine own self be true.
2007-04-22 21:03:45 · answer #9 · answered by margo322 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just spend time with him, participate in the activities he prefers to do, talk to him, and sleep with him.
2007-04-22 21:04:56 · answer #10 · answered by Prem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋