My wife has quit her job, she stays home, I beg her to have children, one child, and she says no. I mean she doesn't do anything for me, I provide the economic stability, I just want kids. I envy the fact that my brother has a wife and children, beautiful son and daughter who run to him when he comes from work. and i come home with a wife that hates to even think of children. i can provide a maid, a nanny, everything, i just want kids. how do i persuade my wife for children, she promised one child, and we have none. she refuses even threatens abortion. i cant help it to watch my brother live the life i always wanted, what do i do? how i persuade her?
2007-04-22 20:07:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get rid of her. Find a new babe, lots of them out there. You might find you really enjoy "interviewing" them. Then YOU might end up not wanting kids, only bikini clad bimbos...and plenty of them.
2007-04-22 20:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by radrictheomen 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to stop comparing your life with that of your brother. The envy and resentment is eating you up alive. Next you have to come to grips with the state of your relationship with your wife. If she's been promising you and hasn't made good then you need to face it that she never intended to and she never will. She's beyond persuading and threatening abortion is as drastic a measure as it can get; it just about says it all. While you're thinking about it, you really need to consider just what kind of relationship this marriage has become. A stay at home wife who "doesn't do anything for you" sounds like a hopeless frustrating state of affairs that serves no purpose to you. Here you are doing all of the providing and what is she doing for you? Your nagging and begging, and her stonewalling, is no way for two people to have to live and it will just forge nothing but bitterness and animosity between you both. You are going to have to realize that this marriage may becoming to an end as she will never budge from her decision. If by chance she does, she will never want to raise a child that she feels forced into having. Providing a maid or a nanny won't cut it either as it's unfair to your child who needs to have both a caring mother and father to be raised by. So you have to make a choice as to continue with what appears to be an empty marriage for you, or end it soon and move on and find someone who will want to give you what you desire.
2007-04-22 21:17:09 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sit her down and tell her very clearly, "I love you, I want to be with you, but I will not go through life without children. Please take a month to think about this and see a counselor if you want. If, at the end of the month, you are convinced that you still do not want children, then we will get a divorce so that we can each marry someone who agrees with our position on children." That may scare her into having a child, but I'm not sure you want to have a child with someone who just does it to keep her current lifestyle. I can't imagine someone forced into it will be a good mom. Basically, she lied to you when she said she would have one child, so I think that's the basis for a divorce, and you don't need to feel guilty about it.
2007-04-22 20:12:20 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
oh dear she has led you into a marrige saying she was going to give you a child and is now refusing i think you should divorce her and find someone who isnt so lazy and will give you what you dream of well that is what being married is all about isnt it? i dont understand how a woman could treat a man so selfishly you deserve so much better in my eyes she is sitting on her *** and spending your money while you work hard what is she giving you apart from heartache move on and live your dream good luck
2007-04-22 20:23:09 · answer #4 · answered by torphins 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You definitely are not meant for each other. You want different things out of your relationship. My husband and I decided before we got married not to have children, it's just not important to us. We have plenty of nieces and nephews to keep us preoccupied. You just need to end it and find someone that has the same passions in life as you. There's no reason for you to be miserable in a relationship. Good luck! ^^
2007-04-22 20:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by Burning Halo 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to tell her just how important it is to you.
I answered your previous question. And i think that your road together migh be at an end. i dont think it is fair for her to not even want to consider the idea. Do you know she felt this way before you got married?
2007-04-22 20:11:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you should have talked this over BEFORE you married her. you can't force her to have kids, and tricking her into it is just going to make her resent the hell out of you. if she isn't willing to have a child, and it really means that much to you, maybe this marriage isn't for you. don't cheat on her, then she'll take you for everything you own.
2007-04-22 20:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
How long have you been married? I'm sorry to say it but it sounds to me like she's not the one.Children are a special gift and it doesn't seem fair to keep that from you.
2007-04-22 20:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by jennifer 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
she is obviously not " mommy' material... it doesn't sound like she is willing to " give up her lifestyle for a child"
I would suggest you get some wise counsel, not internet...even though there is good stuff here.
you need to sit down face to face with a marriage councellor who can help you handle this
2007-04-22 21:30:54 · answer #9 · answered by snowcrablegs 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you should think of not having a child around her. do you want your kids to have a horrible childhood. my mom didnt want me and my dad made her not abort me. trust me i heard about it alot from her. think of divorcing her and finding someone that really wants kids. perhaps already has one and wants more.
2007-04-22 20:13:27 · answer #10 · answered by Ida 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋