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i been with this guy for about 2 years now and he just up and left me about 3 weeks ago..no reason no nothin all i been doing is crying i been trying to go out to forget about him but its not working i miss him so much all i think about is him all day..he was everything to me and now he's gone. I know that he's out having fun and that even hurts more I dont know what to do i am going crazie i kno that killing myself won't solve anything but at least i wont have to feel this pain right? sumone please give me sum type of advice cus right now its feeling like it will never be the same without him....i kant do anything i kant watch tv, listen to the radio nothing!! everything reminds me of him i dont kno what to do really i dont please help asap

2007-04-22 19:31:00 · 19 answers · asked by i_miss_cesar 1 in Family & Relationships Friends

19 answers

Get on a plane, go see a same gender cousin in another city. Change jobs, and if necessary , move. But stay busy, talk to Friends who have experience. The pain will subside, but you'll remember, and not put quite some much coinage into the next relationship.

2007-04-22 19:37:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

He's not worth the time.

I know you are hurting and you just want to end it all but I tell you that everything will work out fine for you. You have a bright life ahead of you and you should not waste it over a moron like him.

You're right. It will never be the same without him because you will have a much better and colorful life now that he's gone in your life. Just be patient and you will find that your life is much, much better without him.

The first few weeks after a break-up is always difficult but you should not be disheartened.

Make yourself beautiful. Pamper yourself by going a salon, get a massage, a pedicure or manicure. Go out with your friends and family. Let them know you need their support. You'll be surprised how supportive people can be. Just don't mope around the house and constantly think about him.

2007-04-22 19:41:29 · answer #2 · answered by roche_leonor 5 · 0 0

Definitely talk to someone. You will be okay with time. Time really does heal all wounds. You may always have feelings for him. But, you need to realize life will go on. And, you will be so glad you are alive years from now and you have a great wonderful day. And, you'll say why did I ever want to die. Just think of the future as being wide open. And, that the old saying about when God closes a door he opens a window is true. Take care. You will survive.

2007-04-22 19:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by 354gr 6 · 0 0

Suicide is a permanent solution for a temporary problem. Look at the situation this way. You could have been married to this jerk and had 2 or 3 kids when he left you. Be glad he left before he destroyed your life. You deserve better than him. It is his loss, and believe me he will realize it years from now. In the meantime, get your cutest outfit on and start flirting. Make him realize what he is never going to have again!! Good Luck and take care!! There are plenty of nice guys out there just looking for a great girl like you!!

2007-04-22 19:39:24 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0 0

you need to get out and do something with your friends don't be alone. Believe me its happend to me but i was not only left for no reason I had a new borne and a 13 month old and no job. If you believe nothing else please believe me the pain will go away! It would be easier if you knew why he left. He left because he is a selfish bastard and I don't even need to know him to say this. You don't need anyone who would cause you so much pain in your life. No one deserves to be treated like that. Go out and do something the worst thing you can do is be alone. Buy yourself something you always wanted treat yourself, pamper yourself. Be good to yourself and be with friends or work late. Just don't be alone. Things will get better really. Go out and flirt with other guys, it will make you feel alot better to know that other guys want you. The best revenge is living life large.

2007-04-22 19:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by leggs 2 · 1 0

Well it sounds to me like what you really need to do is just muster up your willpower and force yourself into action. I'm talking about a total clean start--ditch everything you own that reminds you of him. Just throw it in the trash. (Objects are replacable after all.) Throw out all the photos, CD's you used to listen to, movies you watched together--I mean ANYTHING that would remind you of him. Then join a gym or something that requires you to get out and do something.

Yeah I know, easier said than done. I've been there and done that, so I know. ;) It does take a rather large burst of strength to pull yourself out of that depression initially, but once you get the momentum built up you'll be on a roll. Just remember that nothing's permanent--not even a broken heart.

2007-04-22 19:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by P.I. Joe 6 · 0 0

Hey. I sent you a message on yahoo messenger but I don't think you're signed in. You have a lot of happiness and a lot of good hidden behind all that pain. You just need to unhide all of it. It takes a lot of work, but it can be done. Your pain has taken over your mind, but you still can get that control back. Send me an e-mail so we can talk about this. My e-mail address is eckm0032@umn.edu. And let me know if you have any instant messengers to make it easier. You really need to get your feelings out in the open so you can work with each one. I can help you with that. I hope to hear from you.

Heath

2007-04-22 19:42:25 · answer #7 · answered by heath e 5 · 0 0

Please don't kill yourself over some dude. I have felt like that a couple of times over a man, but hey I'm still here. I felt like killing myself while I was married to my first husband. I'm 25 and have 3 kids 2 from my ex husband and 1 from the new. I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. Believe me him leaving out of no where was not sudden their had to had been signs, but you just didn't want to see them. Honey trust me life goes on, YOU are worth more then then that temporary pain you are feeling.

2007-04-22 19:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by melo_0114 1 · 0 0

before everything, do no longer kill your self! Do right here instead, in this order... one million) hit upon a job, even area-time, as a waitress in case you will possibly be able to desire to. 2) shop your money, out of your activity or in case you have a birthday or trip coming up. 3) flow! Seeing your ex along with his new lady is obviously painful. whether it potential shifting back in with your parents (i'm assuming you had your individual place - once you're already residing with parents, see in case you may room with a chum or aunt/uncle/cousin for slightly til you're squarely on your ft.) 4) Say NO to their wedding ceremony invite!!!! 5) deliver a congrats card, yet do no longer deliver money or present with it. He led to you soreness. 6) confer with a psychiatrist. some insurance companies (mine is one among them) "supplies" you as much as 3 unfastened visits according to 3 hundred and sixty 5 days, for ANY kind of counseling, no count if it extremely is melancholy, kin concerns, courting, and so on. provide that a attempt. it's going to help, incredibly. 7) Pray on your individual happiness, in case you have been "slipping," start up attending your church on a ordinary foundation. You on no account understand - possibly you will meet a sparkling guy there (once you're waiting) or slightly previous lady who's have been given a unmarried grandson! 8) Volunteer or discover an (low priced) interest you delight in. the fewer unfastened time you have, and the extra social you're, the happier you would be. embody your self with people who can take your recommendations off the soreness.

2016-10-28 18:02:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Please believe me that there is no man alive who is worth killing yourself over. Suicide is a very selfish act that only really hurts those that truly love you (your family, friends, etc.) You sound as if you are very young, and you will have many opportunities for love in the future. Call your friends, rent a movie you've wanted to see, anything to keep your mind off your ex. I have been through two extremely painful breakups of 5 year plus relationships. The pain DOES fade, and you will find a man who deserves your love. They are out there. Best of luck to you.

2007-04-22 19:40:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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