I really love him but my dreams are diffrent ,I want to get married he doesnt and I dont like the town he lives in.Its only 8 miles away but I wouldnt want to live there.He shows up alot at the places I like to hang out and we talk.I always act cool.Like Im real happy to see him but I dont miss him but in truth I do I just dont see him changing and It hurts to see him .I feel he comes to those places wanting to see me.He acts like he is just in the neighborhood.I dont want to go back because I wasnt happy but we want to be freinds the question is how?.I want to be there for him in a real emergency if he needs me but I need to move on .Its hard to talk to others when he is talking to me..He claims he is seeing others.Im not sure I beleive him.I mean I know where he is friday and saturday.I feel he is checking on me plus he gives me lectures on safety and tells me I shouldnt hang out in a bar.I just want to be his freind swallow the pain and meet someone new.We were together for 5 years.
2007-04-22 19:22:42 · 12 answers · asked by butterflyspy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. Average time of a friendship is about 4 yrs. Your over the top already. Introduce him to somebody, then shed the baggage, and he can be an ex, and an acquantance. Get photos, put phone numbers for emergencys on back. If he insists on showing up at all times, get a buck for a boyfriend, pay him if necessary to scare off the ex. You need distance.
2007-04-22 19:32:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a funny thing. Just because you love someone ....doesnt mean you should be with them. Dont wait around for someone to change for you . Be honest, he's got others in his life for a real emergency. Yes, quit hanging out in bars, you may meet another guy just like him. And then you can waste a few more years with another dud ! Sorry ....but the last place I want to be , is in a bar! I dont think many meaningful relationships began in a bar. Stop hanging out , where he can find you. Follow your dreams , somewhere in there , you will find the right guy for you.
2007-04-22 19:38:07 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to find a new city and hang outs.
You moved on. You don't want to be with him, so why bother a friendship too? You may care for him, but you're not in love with him any longer. And he is going to have to accept that and move on as well.
I think the more you see each other, the more you'll end up resenting him for bringing back those memories.
2007-04-22 19:34:52 · answer #3 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time you see him, say, very clearly, "I want to get married and you don't, and I don't want to live in your town. If you want to be together, those two things have to change. If you don't want to change, then please stop trying to see me. There's more than one bar in this town." You can't really be friends as long as he wants more and you want more than he can give. If, after that, he keeps showing up in the same places, then always leave after he shows up and make a point of doing so. Also, go with friends so that you'll be safe, and read up on how to be safe when going out.
2007-04-22 19:43:51 · answer #4 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've known someone in a more worst position. think about this: i have a bf and he has an ex BEGGING to be his next best friend. I was like- whatever!!! if he wanted to hurt so much, then be it. Cause girl, that'd be the most painful thing you'd be doing to yourself...... not now when you're just that in love with him.it can kill. . . believe him if he says he's seeing other ppl. maybe he just doesn't want to hurt you by saying that he can't bring back what you two have been. past is PAST.
2007-04-22 21:44:39 · answer #5 · answered by ♬müsic-to-yoür-ears♬ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is really the price of love? It is sacrifice: It is doing the things that you would rather not just to make the other person happy. If you are not willing to be with him then how can you say that you really love your ex. You might consider avoiding him as much as possible to determine your feeling about him. Time will be the judge if you will really miss his absence..
2007-04-22 19:31:51 · answer #6 · answered by Reycen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you’re a teen…right here’s the deal, there’s a cause why you and also you ex broke up within the 1st situation so going again with him was most likely no longer the high-quality inspiration, what you can do is exhibit “Max” that he’s the one you quite need and be exact about it.
2016-08-11 02:16:10 · answer #7 · answered by botras 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds such as you’re a teenager…right here’s the deal, there’s a reason you and additionally you ex broke up interior the 1st place so going back with him replaced into possibly no longer the main suitable concept, what you're able to do is coach “Max” that he’s the only you incredibly need and be actual approximately it.
2016-10-28 18:01:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been thare and i think that if you really truly and deeply love sumone it is too hard too be friends..because you dont love them as a friend and it will just bring confusion and possibly even more pain..look at it like what if he gets a new girlfriend even though right now it seems like it won't hurt believe me it will and it will make it even worse if u two are friends because you cant really show your jealous feelings because u two are friends woman to woman dont do it
2007-04-22 20:41:33 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Tiyla 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is very rare. See the movie "When Harry met Sally" for help.
2007-04-22 19:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋