we both want to have kids but i want to know what i need to do so that we can both contribute to the child we want our own kids adoption is always an option but we both want our own kid what do i do
2007-04-22 19:19:15 · 13 answers · asked by lostwithoutyoo89 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
he should be tested to see if he can have kids, if this is something that you absolutely must have in your life then you need to decide if this realtionship could still work, also you could look into adoption
2007-04-22 21:09:38 · answer #1 · answered by KrIs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-19 23:38:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "I don't think I can have kids" is the oldest line in the book. Unless he has been through fertility counseling, he probably doesn't know that for sure. Maybe he just means that he's never gotten a girl pregnant, in which case he's just lucky. So, the answer you're looking for is that he has a specific diagnosis from a doctor, like "low motility" or "vascular disease" -- otherwise there's no reason to think he has anything wrong.
That said, there's lots they can do for a guy with lousy sperm. They can centrifuge it to get only the good sperm out, they can inject his sperm directly into an egg, there are plenty of options. You can also go with donor sperm if he really doesn't have any sperm whatsoever, and pick a donor who looks like him, and then it will still be your child grown inside you.
But frankly, I'd make him see a doctor first and get a professional diagnosis, and then discuss options, and then, call me old fashioned, I think you should get married first.
2007-04-22 19:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I first started dating my now ex-husband, he told me he didn't think he could get a girl pg!! We had unprotected sex for 4yrs before I got pg!! Thank god cuz we were both way too young!! After that I got pg when that baby was only about 4 mos old. (they're 13 mos apart!) After that he had a vacetomy. Who knows how many there would have been if not for that. Now I am remarried and have 2 more. So anyway, the 1st baby took 4 yrs and the next one 4 mos!!!!! Maybe check with a fertility dr. I worked at a lab in a hospital once and people were always bringing in semen specimens for tests! Good luck to you both!!!
2007-04-22 19:27:13 · answer #4 · answered by ♥bigmamma♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if you sound ready, just from the way you asked this question. But if you are truly both ready (and your bf isn't just saying that because he isn't ready) then you should both go and see your doctor for a health assessment, and see if there are any fertility problems.
If you get the all clear from your doctor, then, it's time to start trying. remember, not all couples fall pregnant straight away, even if both partners are perfectly fertile.
Why does your bf suspect he can't get you pregnant? Is this based on anything, or just speculation?
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I've just read through your other questions, and youre only 17. Too young to be thinking about falling pregnant.
Enjoy life, then in 10 years think about it. You are too young and surely not ready and neither is your bf I presume.
2007-04-22 19:24:03 · answer #5 · answered by kimison_au 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why does he think that?
Two different things could be happening: you both could want kids or you do and he doesn't.
Having children commits you to their father for a long time. Make sure you both want kids. If he doesn't kids will strain your relationship and possibly break it up.
So if you do not want to be a single parent, I suggest you talk to your boyfriend to find out why he thinks he can't have kids.
2007-04-22 19:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First get married, it is always a good place to start. Next go to a fertility doctor and have his sperm count checked. If it is within healthy range then you need to have yourself checked to make sure you are ovulating at proper intervals--assuming you are having trouble concieving.
2007-04-22 19:36:17 · answer #7 · answered by MOMMY585 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you should see a doctor who specialises in this field - separately - and receive information on whether one or both of you can conceive. Better for you both to go to ensure that your boyfriend does not see that you necessarily blame him.
meanwhile you might as well keep trying - assuming that you enjoy making love!!
2007-04-22 19:27:18 · answer #8 · answered by Bill Morton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my fiance said that same thing...and so did some other boyfriends...they dont know. they can think all they want. but turns out there's something wrong with me..soo...poo...
(and like someone else just said...he thinks that just because he's gotten lucky and hasn't gotten anyone pregnant yet...my fiance said that same thing too,lol..."if i could then i would have all the kids running around by now!"...yeah right.
2007-04-22 19:45:33 · answer #9 · answered by tiffany s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married then see a fertility specialist.
2007-04-22 19:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by J&A 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋