That it makes you cry? I do this all the time. I love my little son so much. Now that another baby is coming (that Im so excited about) I worry that he'll think that I love him less. My son is my world and I dont want him to be upset when the baby comes.
2007-04-22 18:46:15 · 15 answers · asked by Princess Rach 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Love is not even the word I could use to describe how I feel about my children, It is beyond that. I look at them when they are sleeping and I imagine just holding them forever, thinking God gave me this great precious gift to raise, and not wanting them to feel any bad feelings of pain or disappointment. Wanting the best for them.
I felt that same way with my second child, and a friend of mind said the same thing right after delivery, she said I don't love this baby like I love the 1st one, I said to her, you know that you didn't really love the first one until you experienced him and had time for the relationship to be there, you know that it is your own child but it is just the relationship is not there yet. It is true.
The second one I felt like the 1st would be left out, he wasn't he was 4 and he was just amazed with his little brother! wanted to help a little too much LOL, but it was good.
You think that way but when the time is there you'll be OK, it is HARD THOUGH when every one wants to see the 'new' baby, just make sure you include your child saying __________got a new LITTLE brother/sister, it makes them feel apart too.
And the gifts, kind of confusing to them.
It' will be fine, good luck with you children, they truly are a blessing....sweet as they can be.
2007-04-22 19:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by Blaze 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. I used to cry about that when I was pregnant with my second. It was a mixture of feeling guilty about how my oldest would feel, but of also being excited about the new baby. It was a difficult adjustment in the beginning with my oldest, but they get along great now and plus I have a third as well. So it will all work out. I have two girls, and a boy. 8,6 and 3. I hope everything goes well. You will definitely have enough love to go around!
2007-04-23 01:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by jlily680 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's almost impossible imagine, but that love you have for your son will be doubled with the second. It's so strange to be able to love 2 people with all your heart. I have a 3 year old daughter and a 5 month old son. It's been amazing to watch how much my daughter loves her brother and how well she has adapted to another person taking a lot of my attention. Not that we haven't had issues. Don't worry too much because I think that he will be able to see how much you love him even if you aren't able to help him and spend as much time with him. If anything, it will help him to grow.
2007-04-23 01:54:29 · answer #3 · answered by carebear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definately do. I always get overwhelmed with the sensation. I was playing with him a couple of hours ago and he just made his first laughing sound. I was laughing and crying at the same time.
But dont worry, im sure you will love your next little bundle just as much. Wait until you have your ultrasound. I bet you will be beaming from ear to ear! :o)
2007-04-23 01:51:19 · answer #4 · answered by gr33n_3y3d_grrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've done that. I also worried about my oldest feeling left out or "replaced" by his younger brother. Just read up on how to make it as easy as u can for the older one. Get ur hubby on board too. Even if ur son is a lil upset, it will only b for a lil while. Good luck n congrats!
2007-04-23 01:54:48 · answer #5 · answered by •♦๑•TxRose•♦๑• 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awwwww......I cry sometimes. he for your child is very strong. Keep him involved and let him help out so he feels important. He won't be upset. My sis has a nine yr old and is expecting in June. My nephew is excited even though he wanted abrother. Just take it as it comes and don't treat him any differently than you do now. It'll all work out.
2007-04-23 01:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son is my life and i would be lost without him
he goes to visit my mother and my step dad on every sunday and i get very bored and lonely when he is gone. it is quite sad when he is gone. he goes to school everyday and i miss him dearly when he is gone.
it is nice to think that a child can mean so much to you and to some people a child can mean nothing. my sons father doesnt call, write, or email and hasnt seen my son in 2 1/2 years and doesnt care that he is missing out.
2007-04-23 07:57:54 · answer #7 · answered by rev_stephanie_manson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't worry. i felt the same way. i was worried that i loved my first born so much,that i could never love the new baby.when the second one was born,my daughter could have cared less. she thought she was my helper.she brought diapers,changes of clothes,bottles,toys-everything he needed.it was her baby too!!! she was so proud of herself. congratulations on the new baby! by the way my babies are 31 & 35 and they love each other very much.
2007-04-23 02:00:34 · answer #8 · answered by stacy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah
Changed my life
Can't imagine what it'd be like to lose him
He's my hero
and-----he'll be a great big brother to whoever comes next
2007-04-23 01:50:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
All the time and yes,it does make me cry.
2007-04-23 01:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by soggybottomscout_25 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋