My dad has had an affair with a lady 15-17 years younger. He is 40 years old. We found out in December. He said that he loved this "lady" and didnt know what to do. He has been with her ever since and my mom has told him several times to leave her but he doesnt want to. My dad has a GAMBLING?ALCHOL problem and doesnt want to admit it to my mother. He doesn't know that his children (me and siblings) know he drinks. My mother waits for him until sometimes 4 am to come home. on a typical week he will come home past 12 am 5 days out of the seven. My six year old brother doesn't know much but can sense something. He loves my father a lot. I did also alot but he has just put me further and further away from him. My father has Came home about 4 times or so begging for forgiveness from my mom and has called that other "lady" many words mainly swearing at her. He says how could she try to seperate me from my family. Now my father wants to divorce and split everything. But just last week he
2007-04-22 18:37:55 · 3 answers · asked by uniquebob 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
but just last week he said again im not going to see her again. Now he changed all of the sudden. He also said that oh and I only make an x amount of money so pretty much you will only get this much. (He has a his income in a corporation.)He also says we will sell the house etc... My mom replies and asks my father... why do you want to cheat you sons out also? My father replies by saying "oh they dont care about me now they dont respect me". The only thing holding him back is my little six year old brother, I guess.
2007-04-22 18:41:53 · update #1
You asked "what should we do?" I'm wondering why? The only person that can do anything is your mom. She's the one allowing the adultery and addictions to continue. The only thing you can do is love both of your parents the best that you can. Your dad has some serious issues and I'm sure what you said is just the tip of the iceberg. I'm not trying to be mean but your mom and dad need to do everything they can to keep you kids out of THEIR problems. I know it effects you kids in all areas but your not the ones who can make it better. It's up to your parents and with your dad having the issues he's having it is going to be up to your mom as to wether she keeps draggin herself and you kids thru this mess. GOOD LUCK
2007-04-23 21:29:22 · answer #1 · answered by gemini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like maybe your mom needs to be looking out for her and you children. Because it doesnt sound as tho your dad is. Either he is a full blown alcoholic as you indicate. Or he's going thru his mid life crisis. In either case, it's his decision to do whatever he chooses, even tho it may not be in anyone's best interest. I contend it's your mom's place to do whatever she needs to do to ensure you all are taken care of.
And obviously that starts with home and financial.
2007-04-23 01:48:49 · answer #2 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your dad has it made.
2007-04-23 01:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋