She is the worst kind of self centered, egotistical, manipulative piece of work that I have ever had the misfortune to meet. She seldom does her work and is often calling in sick. Yes my supervisor is aware of the situation and for the love of god I hope something is done. However that does little for my situation. I need words of wisdom to help me?
2007-04-22 16:39:50 · 6 answers · asked by MR B 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I've had my share of situations like this. If you work in an office, or anywhere that you can distance yourself from her, I would advise that you volunteer for tasks that she won't be doing. This has other benefits as well because by working with other people, you expand your social relations network and opportunities for the future.
If you are stuck with her, I would just let time run its course. You can't be hated, constantly sick, and lazy for long without loosing your sooner or later.
On another note, have you tried talking to her directly about the problems? If you are going to talk, stay reasonable and think about how you would want someone to talk to you. Respect her as a person but at the same time make it very clear what you expect of her in the future if your relationship is to improve.
Good Luck
2007-04-22 16:50:35 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she hates her job. Maybe she's using those sick days to look elsewhere. Start believing in the power of thought and move Leona Helmsley out the door of your office.
I think the best way to keep a grip on your sanity is to not take the situation too seriously. Laugh about it with a trusted co-worker or friend when you feel you've reached the end of your rope. Try some humorous books. I bought "Dilbert and The Way of the Weasel" by Scott Adams (I think this is correct) 5 years ago when I found myself in a company that just would not get rid of the supervisors who were running off all the good workers. I learned Weaselese (the language of Weasels) and it was just hilarious.
2007-04-23 00:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by NC Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the abseenteism and bad work ethics of your co-workers is directly hindering you from perform your job well, you have the right to air your grievance in a formal letter or memo. First to your immediate supervisor, copy furnished your Personnel Department and the Head of the Company. In this way your complaint is official. If your supervisor does not act on this, elevate your complaint to Personnel and the Head of the Company. Usually offices have a system for addressing personnel grievances. If your cmplaint is found valid - I am sure that your office will take appropriate disciplinary measures towards your erring co-worker.
2007-04-23 02:59:15 · answer #3 · answered by topaze44 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only have two choices. Learn to live with her, or find another job.
And don't let your work suffer, or you could be the one to hang.
I am not trying to be a wise guy, but this happens so often.
Sounds likeyour supervisor doesn't have the b---s to address the situation. Or, he knows he will get no support from management.
2007-04-22 23:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by TedEx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eventually she will run out of sick days and may get layed off. In the mean time, when she bothers you while chatting with others just walk away or ask her to mind others while people are at work. Although this may seem minor, she may be able to get the hint that you aren't fond of her and back off.
2007-04-22 23:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by miss understood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Convince yourself that she isn't really that bad. It's kind of a lame answer, but I've heard that if you are able to empathize with people and just accept them for who they are, then you really don't find them as annoying.
2007-04-22 23:54:35 · answer #6 · answered by realsmartie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋