Does it ever.....?

Question

Does it ever get to a point where being in love can not only give you that happily intoxicating feeling but also give you the ability to still think clearly? Or is irrational thinking something that always has to happen when you´re in love....or is that just at the start of a relationship?...in which case, when you stop being irrational does that mean you´re not as in love with that person as you used to be?

Or does this only happen to some people?

In your honest opinion, do you really think its possible to be clear-headed and happily, intoxicatingly in love aswell?

If so, how?

Thank you everyone for your all your answers, you guys are awesome. :)

Answer 1

Yes. I truly believe that. It's true, that in the beginning things seem clouded with over-whelming thoughts of your new love. But as time passes, your love matures and you are able to see thru the cloudiness and gain direction. This direction helps you keep reaching new levels in your relationship. You become aware of your differences and you can either accept them or dwell on them. I choose to accept them and stay clear headed on the goal I want us (my husband and I) to achieve in our relationship. But it has to go both ways. If it doesn't, then things can become clouded again. Except in a bad way. My husband and will be married for 11 yrs come the 27th. When we are in each other's arms, it's like there is nothing surrounding us except the beat of each other's hearts. Yeah, seems sappy, but true. When I can still look at him, and when he gives me a look and I still get butterflies, we are doing something right. True love is hard to find, but don't be looking so hard that you miss it.

Answer 2

Well...I don't know if I can really answer your question, but I will tell you about me and my husband. We met in a bar where I was a waitress, his band played, I said no when he asked for my number. Through some interesting series of events He was not able to pay his tab, and I, being a giving person (i.e. Sucker) paid it for him. He gave me a C.D. and I called him two days later to say "hey, wheres my seven bucks?" lol. He made it up to me with dinner....that was march 27 of 2001 we got married on July 30, 2001 and in October we found out we were going to have a baby. (she's almost five now, and beautiful!) It was very much a classic case of "love at third sight". We were crazy in love, and six years later, still are! yes, there is some point where you get so caught up in life that you forget the little things, stop being so irrational...but even though we are "comfortable" we are still very much in love. Maybe that's just us...We had such a huge age gap to overcome. When we met, I was just about to turn 19, he was 33. I was so determined not to listen to all the people that said it wouldn't work!
Love is a wonderful, beautiful, painful, crazy thing. You never give up that intoxicating feeling, although you might find it in new, unexpected places. But it is always worth it. Good luck in life and love, may you find happiness in both!

Answer 3

Sure. I am very much in love with my wife.
But that doesn't mean that I give up any rational thinking in the name of love.
Would I like to stay home with her all day long and just spend 24/7 in her presense ? Not really !
Do I still enjoy, (after 18 years of marriage), giving her unexpected gifts ? I just showed up where she works last week with flowers.
Then I just bought her some jewelry a couple days ago without warning and for no particulasr reason.
But I make sure that all the bills are paid before I do things like that.
I work midnights and she works through the day and we both look forward to the weekend when we can be together all day and all night long.

Answer 4

Wow. I know just where you are.
There is nothing like that feeling of intoxication in love! The problem is, that feeling is partly based on the newness of the situation. We can easily get our feelings of lust mixed in with our new "love".
I'm not trying to rain on your parade here, but I just went through this. Thought I was in love, got to know him better and found out it was purely attraction.
The "giddyness" you're experiencing does indeed fade, even if this is your life-partner.
However there are different, even better types of love that come with long term love, caring, and sharing of experiences.
Don't be disappointed to lose this intoxicating feeling. If this is the right person, it won't matter. I wish you the best.

Answer 5

You ask good questions. I think love is blinding sometimes. Because it's not really love. Your brain is telling you no, but your feelings say yes. When really its no. That happens to me sometimes. I know he's not the one, but I pursue it anyway only to get heart broken. Somehow though I think I'll know if the guys the one for me, when I meet him. Hasn't happened yet though. Then maybe I can be clear-headed and happpily intoxicated in love too!

Answer 6

You are talking about infatuation, not love. Love takes time to grow. One's sense comes back after the infatuation wears off.

Answer 7

I think so, cuz it's happening to me now, haven't been this clear headed and happy in a long time! Must be love!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

Stop thinking so much, take your time with life and breathe! You'll be okay, I promise. :)

Answer 9

ohhhh yes...it comes with time and true love....