I don't know what to say or do. This friend (who is a girl) even LOOKS sort of like him and is in the same field (medical research). I didn't make the connection until the word got out. Now I can't even look at her without thinking of heinous Nazi crimes. What can I do? She is a good friend.
2007-04-22 14:04:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Respectfully, try not to impose the crimes of one relative on another. It is a form of unfair discrimination. The Mengele family is well known in Germany and has done lots of kind acts, only one member of the family is notorious.
2007-04-22 14:06:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a long look in the mirror and inform the person in there that they are prejudiced.
This guy Cho, who shot up Virginia Tech last week was a moron, but his family appear to be perfectly reasonable, likable folks.
Just because someone commits a crime, you can't condemn all of that person's relatives and friends and acquaintences. By that reasoning, we should look at YOU in horror, since you're a friend of a relative of Dr. Mengele.
Get off your high horse. Your friend is no different now than she was last week. You're the one who's changed. She had no control whatsoever over what Mengele did.
2007-04-22 21:10:43 · answer #2 · answered by Stuart 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your friend isn't Mengele; she's her. You know that she's a good friend, and that's all you need to know. Don't degrade her to somebody else. I know you don't try to think about that when you look at her, but she deserves the respect and has a right to her own identity. She's not a Nazi in the medical field; she's your friend.
Heath
2007-04-22 21:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by heath e 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't judge your friend by her relatives. If she is a good friend, then give her the same back... good friendship. Give her the same friendship, caring, love, etc. you would give any friend. She is not Mengele. It is not her fault. She probably has to deal with so much within herself, everyday, just because she is afraid people will hate her for something she has not done.
2007-04-22 21:20:20 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a good friend, but you're not.
Um, if you go by the Adam and Eve theory that means you're related to Mengele too.
EVERYONE has someone with issues in their family tree. Hers is just more famous.
Why not just judge her on her own merits and get over yourself?
2007-04-22 21:07:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
um... if shes a good friend, then just ignore the relative. And i don't even know who Mengele is but if u want a good friendship, then ignore it cuz it wont do any good. Remember, don't judge people by their relatives! :) Good luck on ur new experience:)
2007-04-22 21:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by Stuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because a past relative was responsible for certain crimes against humanity doesn't mean she should be held accountable. How would you like to be held accountable for something bad one of your relatives did? If she is such a great friend, then maybe you should focus more on your friendship with her and not one of her relative's past
2007-04-22 21:16:07 · answer #7 · answered by Voice of Reason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that she isnt an anti-semite, you wouldn't want to be blamed for the crimes of your distant relatives would you?
With incest and rape so common I am sure someone in your family has done some less than nice things, somewhere in the past, whether you know if it or not....
Just dont judge.
2007-04-22 21:09:08 · answer #8 · answered by CBJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is called a "halo effect". Whereby you give a person good or evil marks because of some odd reason. Try to take your friend as you find her. She probably wasn't even born, and would be terribly hurt if she knew how you felt.
2007-04-22 21:18:02 · answer #9 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind that we are all related to people who did horrible things. Most of our ancestors weren't so infamous but I doubt there is anyone on earth who isn't related to someone who murdered or sold a child into slavery or something even worse.
2007-04-22 21:09:43 · answer #10 · answered by Kuji 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋